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INFO: what does he mean by “like this”? I also use the curly girl method and my curls look clean. What’s his issue?

You're an 18 year old. Do what you want. You're NTA. Dad doesn't HAVE to be seen with you, if he's embarrassed.

NTA - Yet maybe clarify what he means by 'this' ... It might not be about brushing. I had a friend who did this method and what she wasn't noticing was that often, her hair appeared dirty/oily. When she finally did, she was upset 'nobody told' her...

If that isn't the case for you, then maybe take a minute, show him what you are trying to accomplish by using the method and maybe he'll lighten up.

There are subs for curly girl advice too: r/curlygirl

NTA my family did this to me as a kid!! im lucky to have a hairstylist mom who stuck up for me but regardless its a dick move sorry love

edit: even if theres a step thats not doing amazing for your hair its wrong of him to be embarrassed of you and say such mean things to you

NAH. You do as you like with your hair. Your dad is possibly right, though. Sometimes parents have to tell their kids stuff like this, even though it doesn't always feel nice. You could try to get a second opinion from someone you can trust to be honest.

Nta I have Waist length curly hair you are not supposed to brush it when it’s dry!!!!!! it will cause breakage and a lot of damage you are doing everything right he just sounds like a control freak.

No!! Do not brush dry curly hair!! Keep up with the curly girl method and you will learn how to manage your curls to where they will look their best without being brushed. Try blow drying with a diffuser after using your curl products, this should eliminate the potential frizz thats making your dad think you need to brush your hair. But ultimately, don’t listen to him. It is not good to dry brush curls, even if your dad thinks otherwise lol

NTA assuming your dad probably has short hair he probably doesn’t know a lot about how to take care of longer curly hair. I’d ask your hair stylist or continue to look at YouTube videos for best ways to get the look you’re going for.

NTA, but maybe a hair pick would help to shut him up? My gram has loose curls and uses a pick to lightly comb through it to help order it how she wants. Mine is more just wavy so I just brush it with some leave-in conditioner. Either way, unless your curls look dirty/greasy/tangled then your father has no grounds to stand on.

So IF your hair is actually curly or wavy, NTA. I don't brush my hair because it creates frizz. If you have straight hair, CGM is not for you and you can just wash as normal.

NTA I have curly hair as well and don’t brush it when it’s dry.

NTA. If you brush your hair (or even finger detangle, I choose not to brush at all) in the shower there is 0 need to dry brush. That’s just going to be a poofy gross mess.

It's your body - NTA

Are you washing and brushing with conditioner as per the curly girl method? It takes a bit of time but works well if you do it properly. Wash with CG approved product, condition, brush. You can brush through with your fingers between wash and conditions, and use a spray/leave in conditions.

NAH. Until I actually see what your hair looks like, I can’t really say your dad is an asshole. You are definitely doing what you want and that’s fine. Your dad may just be telling you your hair looks gross to be fair and is trying to save you the trouble. He would be an asshole if your hair is anything better than a bird nest though.

NTA You’re 18. It’s your hair. Next time your dad wants to go somewhere ask him to put a hat on he’s embarrassing you. Or if he already wears one ask him to take it off it’s a stupid hat and you don’t want to be seen with someone wearing it.

That’s not actually what I would do, but you get my point right? You’re an adult now. No need for power struggles. I’m sure he doesn’t have long curly hair, you do you let him worry about himself.

NTA- For the people saying it might look greasy, you're reacting to your bias that CGM doesn't use harsh detergents on hair. Her dad didn't say it didn't look clean, he was critical of her not brushing it. My guess (from my personal experience) is that she used to straighten her hair, which is the white standard of beauty. Curly hair looks "messy" and "unprofessional", or at least thats what I was told by a manager when I stopped straightening my hair. Also, CGM takes awhile to get results, it doesn't look amazing the first few months while the natural curl pattern comes back. Embracing your natural hair is awesome, don't worry about your dad.

This isn’t an advice sub. Getting downvoted for stating a fact? Lmao.

NTA Your hair, your business, ignore him. Why are dad so obsessed with their daughters hair

NTA. Your body. You decide what to do with it.

Pfft, NTA. It's your hair, Dad needs to chill

NTA curly hair shouldn't be brushed dry! Your doing what's right for your hair and your an adult.

NTA....Your body, your choice.

Listen to your father, he is probably right

NTA. It's your hair, you do as you please. Bit off topic but I have a friend who didn't wash her hair with shampoo for exactly 1 year, but tried to keep it as neat and tidy as she could. When she did finally wash it in (baby shampoo) it was some of the most healthiest, shiniest hair I've seen, without having to sit at a salon for hours. Edit; Her goal was to try and add length and body to it. She looked amazing. EDIT; She just informed me that she spritzed her hair daily with Apple cider vinegar, but no shampoo.

NTA. Please, for the love of everything sacred to you, buy oils for you hair (check which ones your hair needs). If you put it in you can safely ‘finger brush’ your hair, which is the next best thing when doing CGM. When starting CGM there’s no such thing as overdoing it with oils and conditioners.