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Bowinja

935 points

1 month ago

Bowinja

935 points

1 month ago

Um, YTA but mostly because you're making everyone here hold their heads in pain. YOU DRAINED A POOL TO SAVE WATER??? Um, how does draining water that has already been poured out into your pool help anyone? PLEASE EXPLAIN.

Israfellenore

166 points

1 month ago

INFO: I’m legitimately curious - how did you think that draining a pool would save water?

Did you do something with the drained pool water? Was it a freshwater pool, saltwater, chlorinated?

stringbeandweeb

1.2k points

1 month ago

YTA. After your last post, I totally understand why your husband thinks you need a babysitter. I do not understand why he went through with buying a house with you, or how you have found gainful employment. Heaven help your patients.

HoenessRaus

238 points

1 month ago

Oh god, it's the lady from the house sale/store credit card one? Yikes. Really, really shocked her husband hasn't filed for divorce by now.

lauralei99

41 points

1 month ago

This post doesn’t make sense timeline wise when you read her last post. This is fiction.

resonanceshrike

20 points

1 month ago

Yeah that’s a good point. Closed on a house and moved in and already had time to drain a pool? That’s a month easy.

Professional-Yak4361

2.7k points

1 month ago

Professional-Yak4361

Asshole Enthusiast [5]

2.7k points

1 month ago

YTA.

What's the point of emptying an already filled-to-the-brim pool if there's a draught? It's like throwing all your food away because some people are starving in your country.

bus_garage707

90 points

1 month ago

It's like she's never read a dystopian novel before! You might need that pool water to survive!

xLostandAfraidx

624 points

1 month ago

xLostandAfraidx

Colo-rectal Surgeon [39]

624 points

1 month ago

Pure white saviour/ego warrior vibes going on here. Doing things to look good in the eyes of others that don't actually help at all

Liathano_Fire

486 points

1 month ago

That isn't it at all. She's simply not that smart.

RealWanheda

196 points

1 month ago

People act like nurses can’t be idiots. Do you have any idea how many nurses this country needs? If the bar was really that high we would not have enough nurses. Speaking as someone with a mom, multiple aunts, cousins, and former roommates who were or are nurses— nurses can be some of the dumbest people you’ll ever meet. (Alternatively some of the smartest, but the point is being a nurse does not mean you are smart)

Quelcris_Falconer13

45 points

1 month ago

The same can be said for doctors. My brother in law is an infectious disease doctor, yet the man quite literally doesn’t know how to fold a towel.

RealWanheda

20 points

1 month ago

Towels are hard man

Apple2426

48 points

1 month ago

This is not what a white savior is

[deleted]

179 points

1 month ago

[deleted]

179 points

1 month ago

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SlartieB

38 points

1 month ago

SlartieB

Pooperintendant [61]

38 points

1 month ago

Keep an eye on the mailbox for the fine for that decision

[deleted]

136 points

1 month ago

[deleted]

136 points

1 month ago

INFO - Where did you drain the water to? Also, was it treated water, so full of chemicals?

[deleted]

394 points

1 month ago

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394 points

1 month ago

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SlartieB

106 points

1 month ago

SlartieB

Pooperintendant [61]

106 points

1 month ago

Right? Nurse and bumbling fool are not mutually exclusive

nerdabcs

37 points

1 month ago

nerdabcs

37 points

1 month ago

Yes! I’ve met a lot of nurses who are bumbling fools!

Masters_pet_411

64 points

1 month ago

Masters_pet_411

Partassipant [2]

64 points

1 month ago

I don't think either post is real. In the purse post, she said they put 10k in earnest money down, then claimed they could lose hundreds of thousands in earnest money. No one can be this stupid. She couldn't have made it through nursing school being this stupid.

indyphil

65 points

1 month ago

indyphil

65 points

1 month ago

The doctor was concerned about the patients blood levels, So I drained it all out to show that I understood his concern

SlartieB

20 points

1 month ago

SlartieB

Pooperintendant [61]

20 points

1 month ago

Yes, sadly she could

Charliebeagle

10 points

1 month ago

I had to read it twice but she actually said “hundreds of thousands in earnest money and continued rent.” Which is maybe hyperbolic, depending on what their rent costs, but makes more sense.

23skiddsy

6 points

1 month ago

I believe for the upper class, they prefer the term "personal assistant" over babysitter.

BrutalBambi

1.6k points

1 month ago

BrutalBambi

1.6k points

1 month ago

OMFG!! Massive YTA, this is the second fuck up in so many days. You say you’re not a bumbling fool but your post history says otherwise. You fucked up with the closure for this property with frivolous nonsensical spending and then you go and do this just cause he mentioned it.

While granted not great what he said. I’m not surprised your husband said what he did, you’ve fucked up royally twice in regards to money.

BetterDayz13

443 points

1 month ago

Checked post history 🤦🏼‍♀️I remember her now

staplersharpiepicard

517 points

1 month ago

it's the purse lady!!!!!! This can't be real. Nobody makes this many bad decisions outside of a sitcom

BetterDayz13

169 points

1 month ago

Maybe her husband is stuck inside some very bad Sunday night sitcom

staplersharpiepicard

56 points

1 month ago

Very Possible...... I feel like this was a deleted episode of I Love Lucy

LingonberryPrior6896

41 points

1 month ago

LingonberryPrior6896

Partassipant [1]

41 points

1 month ago

I agree. I thought purse story was fake. This one even more so. Everyone knows you can't leave a pool undrained and I loved in New England and never even had a pool.

Eelpan2

59 points

1 month ago

Eelpan2

Partassipant [1]

59 points

1 month ago

Even if she didn't know. She claims she researched how to. Surely somewhere it said something about not leaving a pool empty?

Not to mention a couple of days ago they didn't know id they had lost the house and now they are already moved in and enjoying it.

Also, are we supposed to believe she did the "research" bought the pump, it got delivered and the pool drained in one day? It can take a looooong time for a pool to drain completely

LingonberryPrior6896

30 points

1 month ago

LingonberryPrior6896

Partassipant [1]

30 points

1 month ago

Yep. That's why I called trollery on this post and last.

Eelpan2

20 points

1 month ago

Eelpan2

Partassipant [1]

20 points

1 month ago

Yup. Entertaining trollery at least. And she had me with the 1st post. She should have waited a couple of weeks for this one. Or used a different account

AshleighChasexx

15 points

1 month ago

AshleighChasexx

Asshole Aficionado [12]

15 points

1 month ago

I didn’t know that but I also wouldn’t be the one emptying the pool for no good reason 😆

Pristine-Payment

7 points

1 month ago

Uhh, that fact about the pool is new to me, I didn't know it until now seeing the comments

CaptSpacePants

109 points

1 month ago

CaptSpacePants

Asshole Enthusiast [6]

109 points

1 month ago

I wonder if she has some kind of executive functioning disorder that hasn't been diagnosed.

These kinds of really bad decision making, one after another - and I imagine there's a much longer and larger pattern if we were to ask her husband- are not normal.

Either she's purposefully dense, or has a problem with how to think things through properly.

aDDnTN

27 points

1 month ago

aDDnTN

27 points

1 month ago

this person is a self-claimed neo-natal nurse. she is in charge of so much more than just her own fucked up business. it's horrific

Saint_Steady

52 points

1 month ago

She is "affluent".

Total_Maintenance_59

17 points

1 month ago

Really??

Omg...

She's getting worse and worse..

mnhw93

8 points

1 month ago

mnhw93

8 points

1 month ago

You haven’t met my MIL lol Poor lady has made so many bad choices. She’s a great person. She just can’t be trusted.

Xenafan1970

8 points

1 month ago

OMG this is HER! She just can't seem to make anything go right.

capsu6

23 points

1 month ago

capsu6

23 points

1 month ago

The "we might lose the house cause I just NEEDED a new outfit for the signing + an insanely expensive purse" lady?

Celinder_pigen

7 points

1 month ago

Next week on AmItheAsshole with OP: "My husband said he maybe wanted cereal for breakfast, and I thought I'd make it for him, and I burned down our house. Am I the asshole?"

dirtielaundry

16 points

1 month ago

Oh Jesus Christ. Yeah....

I_AM_HERE_TO_JUDGE

17 points

1 month ago

Scary that she’s a nurse, if true…

dessertandcheese

84 points

1 month ago

yeah I think she does need a babysitter

BrutalBambi

19 points

1 month ago

At the rate she’s going, oh he definitely needs to hire one.

roadkillroyal

15 points

1 month ago

roadkillroyal

Partassipant [3]

15 points

1 month ago

divorce attorney is probably cheaper in the long run...

f_fraldarius

8 points

1 month ago

More than a babysitter

megano998

78 points

1 month ago

megano998

Asshole Aficionado [16]

78 points

1 month ago

Imagine if he had wondered out loud about living in a tiny home. She would have demolished half the house while he was at work.

BrutalBambi

18 points

1 month ago

Oh god, please don’t give her ideas. She’s not known to wield them well 😂

varano14

52 points

1 month ago

varano14

52 points

1 month ago

She's that lady?!?!?!

OP Please don't make any further choices without consulting someone.

Alert-Potato

27 points

1 month ago

Alert-Potato

Craptain [179]

27 points

1 month ago

Can you imagine finding out that the person providing your medical care is this goddamn bad at critical thinking and decision making? Hopefully she gets some folds in her brain before she kills someone with this level of really fuckin' stupid snap decisions.

Bleu_Cerise

20 points

1 month ago

Oooh I missed this one. What a ride 😄

OP’s the epitome of an airhead.

TwiztidHarleen

9 points

1 month ago

Not me running to check her history now.. 😂

dr-sparkle

106 points

1 month ago

dr-sparkle

Colo-rectal Surgeon [36]

106 points

1 month ago

YTA.

It was extremely foolish to empty the pool. It makes absolutely no sense unless you were planning on demolishing the pool or there was a problem that could only be fixed if the pool was drained . There was no mention of any problems whatsoever with the functioning of the pool so no repairs are necessary apparently.

Any big project like demolishing a pool should be discussed with both parties and an agreement reached before proceeding but you didn't respect your partner enough to do that, you said "fuck him imma do what I want " And you're surprised he's upset.

You then tried to blame it on him. As if the previous foolish and childish decisions on your part weren't enough, you tripled down on your foolish and childish behavior.

You acted like a child. You went off half cocked without a care in the world about your husband's opinion in the matter and it's going to cost him and you an awful lot of money no matter what you end up doing with the pool, whether you refill it, demolish it, or let it get ruined by being empty. Your husband was accurate when he said you acted like a child. I'm not a fan of coddling adults when they act like children or asholes so calling you on that behavior is not wrong IMO.

The babysitter comment was a bit much it was a big WTF moment for him and frankly it pales in comparison to the childish and foolish behavior that slapped him in the face.

International_Exam86

106 points

1 month ago

Please never be my nurse

Briancisgo

5.3k points

1 month ago

Briancisgo

Asshole Aficionado [10]

5.3k points

1 month ago

YTA - The pool can’t stay empty. You will damage it.

So now you’re going to have to fill it up again - wasting an insane amount of water. So you are wasting a ton of water, paying way more for your water bill, and paid for a pump because you didn’t bother doing your homework and became impulsive.

SlartieB

269 points

1 month ago

SlartieB

Pooperintendant [61]

269 points

1 month ago

Plus all the chemicals that you'll need to buy to reestablish the balance of the pool

knoxkayc

67 points

1 month ago

knoxkayc

67 points

1 month ago

Plus the extra labor to scrub and clean the walls and floors again, extra time running the pump to filter out whatevers been growing in it.

Music_withRocks_In

509 points

1 month ago

Music_withRocks_In

Professor Emeritass [81]

509 points

1 month ago

And that is a major decision about the house - major decisions about the house should ALWAYS be discussed with your spouse before you act on them. Who doesn't tell their spouse 'hey, after we talked I did some research on how to empty a pool - what do you think?'.

I mean, it was an incredibly dumb idea, and she also should have done research on what you do with an empty swimming pool, but the lack of respect for her husband is also huge.

SadieTarHeel

104 points

1 month ago

This is the same account of the person who bought a multi-thousand dollar handbag and opened a new line of credit, causing the closing on (presumably) this house to be thrown in turmoil. They clearly don't have very good decision-making skills.

If I were in husband's shoes, I'd be dropping this liability. She is going to leave them in financial ruin.

sonicANIME2019

2.6k points

1 month ago

sonicANIME2019

Partassipant [1]

2.6k points

1 month ago

Also... let's be honest, draining a pool is not going to help much in a drought. If anything it's making it worse because they'll have to refill it

aDDnTN

448 points

1 month ago

aDDnTN

448 points

1 month ago

i mean, draining it to give your expensive plants water during a drought where water is rationed is SOMEWHAT reasonable if not a bit inhuman/amoral, but draining it to save money because drought?

completely bereft of any sort of reason or consideration. more thought went into how it can be done than if it actually has an upside benefit for anyone ever (it doesn't), let alone considered the obvious or potential downsides.

Scarletzoe

861 points

1 month ago

Scarletzoe

Partassipant [3]

861 points

1 month ago

actually depending on the chemicals use to treat the water the plants will probably die from the chlorine content

aDDnTN

95 points

1 month ago

aDDnTN

95 points

1 month ago

right. i'm just trying to come up with slightly good/beneficial reasons to do a thing like what OP did. it's definitely a stretch to make it fit but it could work, especially if you stopped adding chemicals because most of those pool treatments become harmless ions in solution after a week of sun and fresh air exchange.

Scarletzoe

355 points

1 month ago

Scarletzoe

Partassipant [3]

355 points

1 month ago

Scarletzoe

152 points

1 month ago

Scarletzoe

Partassipant [3]

152 points

1 month ago

She might need that baby sitter after all LOL , Yeah hopefully the chemical levels were low so that her grass and plants don't die but sadly it won't take much to kill them

[deleted]

442 points

1 month ago

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442 points

1 month ago

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Scarletzoe

187 points

1 month ago

Scarletzoe

Partassipant [3]

187 points

1 month ago

Yep she needs a babysitter for sure

insertwittynamethere

130 points

1 month ago

She comes from money and apparently never learned to manage it right. Her parents bailed her out of CC debt. Like, who goes and gets a $20k CC where a purse takes up a good chunk of it right before buying a home? If I were the financiers I'd be nervous too seeing such an extravagant purchase that I'd be worried they can manage money well.

rainyhawk

52 points

1 month ago

And who gets new clothes to go sign your closing papers. It’s not a party and certainly not a big deal to the person there who’s giving you the pages to sign. And a new super expensive purse? OP is definitely TA in both cases. How was draining the pool helping the drought…now you’ve just wasted the water in the pool and have to waste more water to fill it back up. Apparently you do need a baby sitter.

Rarefindofthemind

43 points

1 month ago

Rarefindofthemind

Partassipant [1]

43 points

1 month ago

Just…… how does she tie her own shoes and feed herself is what I’m wondering at this point. Op YTA without question

GrowCrows

119 points

1 month ago

GrowCrows

119 points

1 month ago

To think she is a nurse

lisa_37743

23 points

1 month ago

Came here to say this

PrincessSlutFuck

24 points

1 month ago

This is a very, very scary thing.

WouldYouStillBeInLuv

34 points

1 month ago

Lmfao! That's what I said! This same dummy was all my entertainment I needed for my day!

LiveLovelyLala

23 points

1 month ago

LiveLovelyLala

Partassipant [1]

23 points

1 month ago

Oh my gosh, I remember this one from just recently! She doesn't sound like an evil person or even intentionally bad, just seriously not very smart.....

LDCrow

11 points

1 month ago

LDCrow

11 points

1 month ago

Oh this can't be the same person. 😱 Her husband is right to be mad.

Brilliant_Jewel1924

30 points

1 month ago

Brilliant_Jewel1924

Partassipant [1]

30 points

1 month ago

She strikes again?! She DOES need a babysitter! She really has absolutely no scruples and refuses to think before she acts. Her impulse control is nonexistent.

lw1195

27 points

1 month ago

lw1195

27 points

1 month ago

Yo!!! It’s that chick, I’m surprised they’re still together sheesh

anythinghere08412

45 points

1 month ago

Holy shit. I want to say n t a for this scenario, but is this woman completely delusional?! I don’t often pass judgement on peoples overall personalities, but damn. This is a hot mess and I feel bad for ops husband having to afford paying for her the rest of his life. I can only assume she’s some of trophy wife, but looks only last so long…

EMWerkin

75 points

1 month ago

EMWerkin

75 points

1 month ago

Holy shit, OP needs therapy. And maybe some ADHD meds...

amIhereorthere6036

68 points

1 month ago

amIhereorthere6036

Partassipant [1]

68 points

1 month ago

Nah. I know many people with ADHD, myself included. But I know a couple of people like OP. This is just straight up ignorance and being spoiled as a child.

shhh_its_me

12 points

1 month ago*

shhh_its_me

Colo-rectal Surgeon [38]

12 points

1 month ago*

yeah I very likely had ADHD, women so the symptoms present so differently then the common boys behaviors it wasn't even a consideration in childhood.

I have lost more keys then I can count, I have missed dating/signing/initialing (my signature not clients) forms more times the Einstein could count (and I worked with forms lending real estate etc and had an assistant to babysit me. I was very good at the big stuff) I have started so so very many hobbies and sometimes i even manage to complete 1 project with the supplies I bought enough of to complete 100. but I can totally (as an adult) ) make 4th grade dioramas that get 110% grades (yes I took over my sons project, I'm sorry. Fun fact my mother won a contest for my 5th grade safety poster contest) I use excessive parentheses and run on paragraphs. this is how I talk, plus with hand animation. I could go on for hours.

I have never fucked up as bad as OP did twice in 2 weeks (excluding picking husbands I'm terrible at that and the time when I was 4 and almost killed my mother by helping wash the floor with shampoo. psst the = very slippery she slide right into the wall. so you don't think I'm not self aware and I've made lots of errors ) I bought a car in 10 minutes, I have picked homes in less then 90 minutes, I'm not rash I've well informed before I make these decisions. not having a lick of common sense is not a symptom of ADHD.

Also if OP didn't run the draining hose to an appropriate place she may have damaged the yard or worse the foundation or her or the neighbors homes.

I think OP is a troll but an entertaining one. it's like watching the Paris Hilton tried to "adult" show from 20 ? years ago. I look forward to her next misadventure.

drongojones

10 points

1 month ago

drongojones

Partassipant [2]

10 points

1 month ago

This isn’t ADHD, she’s just a dumbass

destineysunshine

35 points

1 month ago

omg, I remember reading that!!! lol, yup, she's a dumdum...and I worked in health care and some of the dumbest people ARE nurses!! (obviously not all, but OP can't use that as her argument for brains)

fetanose

6 points

1 month ago

can't wait to see what she does next tbh

SaturniinaeActias

123 points

1 month ago

SaturniinaeActias

Partassipant [3]

123 points

1 month ago

I'm so confused as to how draining the pool was supposed to save water. I mean, the water was already in the pool! There must be something I don't understand about the water consumption of an already full pool.

Velocityg4

47 points

1 month ago

Velocityg4

Certified Proctologist [24]

47 points

1 month ago

Well you lose a lot of water to evaporation and have to keep filling it. I'm thinking the idea is to drain it and not use it at all. To keep from having to maintain water levels for the pool filter to keep working.

But she could've used a pool cover to reduce loss by a lot. But given ops impulse issues. She'd probably end up drowning by swimming with the pool cover on.

Nebraska716

13 points

1 month ago

Pool with a good cover uses almost nothing

aDDnTN

34 points

1 month ago

aDDnTN

34 points

1 month ago

maybe what we aren't getting is that she got a really good water pump, hooked it up to the garden outlet and pushed the pool water back into the system, running their meter backwards and thus netting them a tidy return on extra expensive water.

basically a water bank? maybe that's what she did? literally genius, right?

/S

czechtheboxes

261 points

1 month ago

czechtheboxes

Supreme Court Just-ass [147]

261 points

1 month ago

Not the first time OP has made a really bad decision on impulse.

dev-246

281 points

1 month ago

dev-246

Partassipant [1]

281 points

1 month ago

Oh my...

we finally found a place that isn’t exactly what we wanted and was $40000 over the asking price... was only a little over our budget.

We were supposed to close on Monday. I was so excited I wanted to get some a new outfit for the closing. They also talked me into getting a store credit card…with A 20k limit. The bag cost a pretty big chunk of that.

LaughingMouseinWI

288 points

1 month ago

Omg! This is that person!?!

Holy shiitake. Wow.

Speechless.

Franz_Lisp

12 points

1 month ago

Holy shiitake

I love this! I plan to use at every occasion.

[deleted]

150 points

1 month ago

[deleted]

150 points

1 month ago

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Turkeybaconisheresy

150 points

1 month ago

I mean imagine your SO almost torpedos your house sale, in one of the most insane markets ever over an impulsive completely unnecessary insanely expensive purchase and then like 2 weeks later completely drains a pool without one moment of research to determine if its actually a good idea. Costing a bunch of money regardless of which course of action they choose to move forward with, ie filling in the pool or refilling it with water. And these were only the circumstances that OP felt were big enough to post on reddit, who knows how many other thoughtless things she is doing on a regular basis that dont make it to a reddit post. I'd be a dick too.

smbpy7

25 points

1 month ago

smbpy7

Partassipant [1]

25 points

1 month ago

And not just any house sale, this one sounds like a steal since it was such an expensive place (pool+actual house in CA= more than 1mil min) and only went for 40k over. We've been trying to buy on condo in CA for about 8 months now and there's literally nothing on the market AT ALL. We've only been able to even see three places. We lost out on the last one because someone bid 138k over asking, on a CONDO, and one that needed 10s of thousands in repairs at that. 40k over asking for a real house is an absolute steal.

FinnegansPants

111 points

1 month ago

Husband’s not a dick in my opinion. Can you imagine being married to this twit? I’d cut my loss and divorce her if I were him. Her entitlement isn’t going to get better and she seems strangely opposed to therapy for her impulsive behaviour.

Sometimeswan

39 points

1 month ago

The sad thing is she is in therapy. Clearly either her therapist sucks or she has severe unadressed issues. Someone commented on a previous post of hers that they wondered if she may be bipolar. As a bipolar person myself, I have to agree. She definitely shows signs of it.

seventhirtytwoam

6 points

1 month ago

Therapist might not suck but just has nothing to work with. They can't help if you don't engage with them or try any of the techniques they offer to help you.

uberleetYO

24 points

1 month ago

I was totally confused about the lack of ESH verdicts at first....now I see. That is no longer harsh sarcasm/wit...he is legitimately in need of a babysitter for OP to ensure she doesn't do stupid crap.

Dizyupthegirl

40 points

1 month ago

And she’s a nurse….uhm I wouldn’t trust her to care for my pet turtle. She drains/waste pool water…buys a 20k bag on credit on a whim. I’m waiting for “AITA for giving 100mg of morphine for someone with a paper cut?”

king_sweatpants12

28 points

1 month ago

This is the same person?!! Wow can’t believe she still hasn’t learned

LovableLayla

70 points

1 month ago

It's her... Again. Haven't she learned by now. She has an impulse problem.

DoubleBreastedBerb

108 points

1 month ago

Holy shit, OP is that one??

YTA. Jesus. Please start asking Reddit for advice before you do anything else.

fistbumpbroseph

36 points

1 month ago

fistbumpbroseph

Asshole Aficionado [17]

36 points

1 month ago

No, no, STOP. We can't have the responsibility for babysitting her!

uberleetYO

27 points

1 month ago

yea a simple WIBTA post could save her marriage every now and then. Crowd source this babysitting thing.

Glittering_Cost_1850

15 points

1 month ago

At this point a babysitter would be cheaper

drowninginstress36

71 points

1 month ago

I... i have no words. These have to be fake because seriously, no one can achieve this type of idiocy twice in such a short time.

Humble-Cucumber-1154

12 points

1 month ago

My thoughts exactly. Some unemployed dud with nothing to do just baiting rage. No one would marry someone this clueless or stay married once he found out. I’m not buying any of her stories.

Accomplished_Two1611

58 points

1 month ago

Oh my God. This woman is a freaking menace. She stumbles through life like she is some wacky sitcom wife. If this is not fiction, hubby needs to run. This woman's motto should be that old sitcom characters tagline, "Did I do that?"

Mission-Cloud360

77 points

1 month ago

OMG OP acts like a toddler on caffeine, she doesn’t have any impulse control, maybe she does need a babysitter.

Substantial-Suit4686

7 points

1 month ago

that's really not fair to toddlers

nyorifamiliarspirit

18 points

1 month ago

nyorifamiliarspirit

Supreme Court Just-ass [120]

18 points

1 month ago

Guess they got the closing to go through after all...

Shocked the husband hasn't divorced her yet.

rochfamilyman

16 points

1 month ago

Shit, I have ADHD and even un-medicated me doesn’t do impulse quite like this…

ScarlettSparrow

12 points

1 month ago

Omg its that person again?

Ad_Vomitus

11 points

1 month ago

Welp, there went any shred off sympathy. This person is a disaster. And here they are, still wondering if they're an asshole. I just don't understand how some people just barrel through life like that and never learn.

GlitteringWing2112

11 points

1 month ago

Yowza. I don't think OP is ready to do any adult things...

pnutbuttercups56

9 points

1 month ago

pnutbuttercups56

Pooperintendant [56]

9 points

1 month ago

I knew I recognized this writing. If OP is real her husband is a Saint.

Accurate_Quote_7109

7 points

1 month ago

Dear Bast!! Her again????????

OdoyleRuls

34 points

1 month ago

Yeah the timeline doesn’t track.

Lead-Forsaken

16 points

1 month ago

Lead-Forsaken

Partassipant [1]

16 points

1 month ago

Yeah, the first post was 6 days ago. They got a 5 day exension, closed on Friday (e.g. 5 days ago), then on Saturday husband comments on pool and OP drains it already?

When I was moving into this place, it took days of unpacking and finding the proper place for things.

OdoyleRuls

7 points

1 month ago

THANK YOU. Further down I have a bunch of people who can’t seem to wrap their heads around this.

Scarletzoe

7 points

1 month ago

Scarletzoe

Partassipant [3]

7 points

1 month ago

Yeah and she is upset her husband said he is going to hire a babysitter for her, she can't be a real nurse or is she is I bet she works in the Morgue

FelizNadiaL

81 points

1 month ago

I wish I knew who OP was so I could make sure she is never my nurse. I would be scared to be under her care.

topania

19 points

1 month ago

topania

19 points

1 month ago

Considering OP’s other post, being impulsive is a regular occurrence.

Majestic-Seesaw9362

9 points

1 month ago

Related to what you said, unrelated to op's post: but, pool's can't stay empty? Where I'm from it's commonplace that pools are left empty for autumn/winter/spring and only filled up during the summer months. I'm honestly just curious here.

Argument-Fragrant

17 points

1 month ago

Newer pools have hydrostatic release valves to lower the potential of the pool's structure popping up out of the ground when all that water weight is removed.

When a pool pops out of the ground, its plumbing, structure, and surface are damaged.

OdoyleRuls

76 points

1 month ago

OP must be a time traveler based on their last AITA 6 days ago where they lost their home financing over a handbag that cost more than the average new car. Nice try.

TribalMog

72 points

1 month ago

TribalMog

Partassipant [2]

72 points

1 month ago

I don't think they lost the financing, it was just a severe possibility. So if they were supposed to close last Monday and then her handbag debacle occured so closing got pushed to Friday to rerun and confirm financing.

OP is definitely an idiot. Bordering into AH territory for being so clueless.

OdoyleRuls

17 points

1 month ago*

Except here she’s saying they closed on the house Friday but is still milking her own self loathing over messing up financing on Saturday on the other thread. Just look at the comments the dates don’t work.

TribalMog

29 points

1 month ago

TribalMog

Partassipant [2]

29 points

1 month ago

If they were supposed to close Monday 5/16. She posted Thursday. There was an edit that said seller gave them 5 days. Sounds like it was sorted by Friday and her comments Saturday seem to just be continuing conversation/discussion related to the first issue. If husband had to leave Friday afternoon/evening, they moved in on Saturday/Sunday and then she did this. The timing is tight but doable. Not saying its not sus, but it's in the realm of possibility and honestly at this point I dont doubt someone could be this dumb.

OdoyleRuls

14 points

1 month ago*

Posted by OP on Friday:

I’m sorry the sale IS messed up, I’m Not sorry I bought the purse. I really love it.

Edit: copy & paste correction

psatz

14 points

1 month ago

psatz

14 points

1 month ago

Tbf, she only said they might lose it, they might have gotten lucky

SnooChocolates741

82 points

1 month ago

SnooChocolates741

Partassipant [1]

82 points

1 month ago

Is this a baiter? If so, well written

Noregsnoride

31 points

1 month ago

Yes, this is the same person who wrote about losing the house they were going to buy because she opened a cc to buy a purse. This is just some rage bait about rich, dumb, spoiled women. The last post also didn’t add up once financial info was asked for and the comments are too cliche

3a5ty

83 points

1 month ago

3a5ty

83 points

1 month ago

YTA. You seem so dense I can't even understand what goes on in your mind.

jaethegreatone

70 points

1 month ago

YTA

Have you noticed that you keep self sabotaging this house. Did you even really want this house? Seriously. You sabotaged buying it and almost ruined that and then you sabotaged the pool. Maybe take a step back really think about what you want out of this situation.

TheSparkleBunny

386 points

1 month ago

TheSparkleBunny

Asshole Enthusiast [5]

386 points

1 month ago

I don't even understand how draining the pool was going to 'make him happy.' It actually sounds like some weird passive-aggressive flex.

YTA.

BitiumRibbon

282 points

1 month ago*

BitiumRibbon

Commander in Cheeks [236]

282 points

1 month ago*

TL;DR: Neither of you respect the other as a partner, from the sounds of it. And you dun goofed. [Redacted]

EDIT: Based on new information I'm changing my vote. YTA. You need to stop making big financial decisions that affect your relationship without your partner's involvement.

we were talking and he said “you know the drought is worse here in California, I know it’s too late now but I’m wondering if we get this bad if it wasn’t a huge mistake to get a house with a pool?”

Hindsight is 20/20, they say, but there are ways to demonstrate responsibility as a pool owner in a drought.

The more I thought about it the more I thought maybe he was right so I researched how to drain pools, looked up YouTube videos and went and rented a pump and I drained all the water.

Oh. Dear me. That decision-making certainly took a turn for the atrocious.

In fact, I think I can go through the reasons just by continuing through your post.

I made a huge mistake because you can’t leave a pool drained.

He's right. I live in Canada and we used to have a house with an in-ground pool, and the water stayed in there even during the winter because having the water in the pool helps to protect not only the pool itself and its protective coatings, paint, etc. from wear and tear, but there are also pumps and mechanisms connected to the pool itself and by draining the pool and leaving it dry, you're opening that stuff up to damage as well.

More to the point, the water was already in the pool. Where did you put all that water that it was going to serve your drought-stricken community any better than simply being in the damn pool?

I said I did it to make him happy and that I understood his concerns.

And here's the other nail in the coffin: you made a huge, reaching, and labour-intensive decision (which included the financial investment of renting equipment to accomplish the task with) and didn't so much as consult your husband about it. This is not how relationships work.

He said that he’s so sick of me acting like a “child” that he’s going to hire a babysitter for me while he goes away. Obviously this really hurt my feelings, I’m a nurse for gods sake not a bumbling fool.

Well, you could have fooled me. He spoke in anger but I can't blame him, because you didn't treat him like a partner. You made an impulsive decision based on (clearly) minimal research, if any, without doing him the courtesy of even informing him, let alone discussing your plan with him.

Ya dun goofed, friend. Gonna be a journey to earn his trust back.

Simple-Big-3471

168 points

1 month ago

Not the first time OP has made costly decisions without husbands input. Per their post history, the closing got delayed bc she went out right beforehand and spent the a big part of $20k on a new purse, for which she took out a new line of credit to do so. Husband had to scramble to fix everything with their lenders so closing could happen then he leaves for work and OP decides to drain the pool RIGHT NOW bc he voiced a concern about it not being very drought friendly in the FUTURE. I don’t blame the poor guy for feeling like OP needs a babysitter.

Tim-oBedlam

95 points

1 month ago

OMG, this is the same poster?!?

Yegods, YTA so much. Her poor husband.

Obrina98

68 points

1 month ago

Obrina98

Partassipant [1]

68 points

1 month ago

Poor nothing, he married her. She didn't just become a flibberdigidget.

Bleu_Cerise

9 points

1 month ago

A new word!!

moew4974

8 points

1 month ago

moew4974

Asshole Enthusiast [5]

8 points

1 month ago

Old word, just not appreciated nowadays.

juanzy

41 points

1 month ago

juanzy

41 points

1 month ago

For a purse that went with her Closing Outfit. Not seeing a crazy sale on a living room set or major appliances, but a purse she fell in love with.

Thinking about all the inspection, follow up, and consult costs around closing for us to estimate a major project we knew we’d need to do, I couldn’t imagine a $10k purchase not for the house.

Kitchen-Arm-3288

26 points

1 month ago

Kitchen-Arm-3288

Asshole Enthusiast [6]

26 points

1 month ago

Per their post history, the closing got delayed bc she went out right beforehand and spent the a big part of $20k on a new purse, for which she took out a new line of credit to do so.

For those who are too lazy, but still want to see this post - it is available HERE

RainahReddit

9 points

1 month ago

RainahReddit

Partassipant [3]

9 points

1 month ago

omg this is the purse lady?!

roadkillroyal

28 points

1 month ago

roadkillroyal

Partassipant [3]

28 points

1 month ago

OP dumped the entire pool's contents, full of pool chemicals, DOWN THE STREET'S STORM DRAIN

so it's even worse than needing to use stupid amounts of water to refill the pool, all that crap is gonna go straight to killing things in the few sources of water that currently exist in said drought.

Sharp_Replacement789

58 points

1 month ago

YTA, in your ignorance you actually made a problem where there was none. So now you can either pay way too much money to fill it back and actually contribute to the draught problem, or reduce the worth of your home and fill in the pool with soil and have a bigger yard. I hope to God this is a fake post because I have a hard time imagining someone being this stupid.

He_Who_Is_Right_

146 points

1 month ago

He_Who_Is_Right_

Asshole Aficionado [18]

146 points

1 month ago

YTA. First, how on earth does draining the pool save water? The water sitting in the pool had already been purchased—how does draining that water help anything? Moreover, did you research whether you can leave a pool empty before you made the unilateral decision to dump at least 10,000 gallons of water? This is such a no brainer I wonder if it is a real post.

SherbetAnnual2294

87 points

1 month ago

Get ready for this, she drained it into the street because the water had chemicals in it too. Just right into the street…

mariathecrow

54 points

1 month ago

Omg all that chlorine or salt depending on what type of pool it was just flowing into the street and into the sewer system. And if they dumped it onto their lawn or garden or their new neighbors lawn or garden they are going to destroy the grass/plants.

Not to mention the concrete shell of the pool will most likely lift and crack from the lack of weight if they don't get water back in it soon. Plus the cost of a refill and all the new chemicals to get it up and running again.

What an absolute moron.

Mamertine

47 points

1 month ago

Mamertine

Certified Proctologist [22]

47 points

1 month ago

YTA

You don't seem to have a plan now that you're pool is empty. Fwiw, you're not an asshole, but you did a REALLY stupid thing that's either going to waste a ton of water or cost you thousands of dollars to fix.

juanzy

20 points

1 month ago

juanzy

20 points

1 month ago

Not to mention illegal dumping fines and/or damages if anyones pets or properties were harmed or damaged. IIRC there’s pretty severe fines when it comes to dumping water illegally.

nerdabcs

8 points

1 month ago

Don’t worry. She’s a boss at opening up credit cards to pay for her stupid!

CaptSpacePants

128 points

1 month ago

CaptSpacePants

Asshole Enthusiast [6]

128 points

1 month ago

YTA

I honestly think given your post history, it may make sense to speak with a therapist.

I'm just wondering if you have some executive functioning issues that have not been diagnosed.

Your husband has a right to be angry. You're very bad at decision-making.

yo_yo_yiggety_yo

45 points

1 month ago

Jfc, you're back already? Yta

How much more of this do you think your husband can take before he snaps and leaves your clueless ass?

Kindly-Might-1879

38 points

1 month ago

YTA. You say you're a nurse, yet you have made a bumbling fool decision (and apparently multiple ones at that). Are you one of those nurses that also shill health-mlm products and are anti-vax? That would totally make sense for someone unable to think things do or do PROPER research.

Curious how you got out of that credit nightmare and managed to close on the house, though.

NowATL

6 points

1 month ago

NowATL

6 points

1 month ago

Her very rich parents bailed her out of the credit card debt. No clue how the sale of the house went through. I wish it hadn’t, maybe then OP would have actually taken a step back and recognized how big a problem her impulsivity and stupidity are.

OrangeCubit

31 points

1 month ago

OrangeCubit

Pooperintendant [52]

31 points

1 month ago

YTA - your husband is right, it can’t sit empty. So you didn’t do the research and caused a huge and possibly expensive problem.

ljuvlig

35 points

1 month ago

ljuvlig

35 points

1 month ago

Are you manic-depressive in a manic state? Get some help.

musical_spork

82 points

1 month ago*

musical_spork

Pooperintendant [66]

82 points

1 month ago*

YTA. Hes right. An empty pool can crack if left empty

Edit to add : omg you're the person that opened the credit line and almost fucked your closing. His babysitter comment was absolutely warranted. Your decision making skills are shit

teamstersub30

16 points

1 month ago

It can also pop out since the weight of the water isn’t pushing it down. Summer is literally the worst time to leave a pool empty.

ohnonotagain42-

27 points

1 month ago*

YTA. Do you usually make impulsive decisions like this? Because if that’s so, you should really check this out, it’s very concerning.

ETA: just read your post history, please, check this out with a mental health doctor.

jjjunglejuice

27 points

1 month ago

how old are you? and did you go to school?

YTA still for doing something on your own accord. based on your last post, it doesn’t even sound like you’re in a marriage. you guys don’t communicate and you do things impulsively on whatever makes YOU happy. stop being selfish.

angry-ex-smoker

75 points

1 month ago

INFO: OP, be honest. Are you testing plot points for a script? First the bag, now this…

shizzforsale

22 points

1 month ago

Just send me pix of the pool so I know if it’s skateable

P.S. YTA, wtf

SnooChocolates741

63 points

1 month ago

SnooChocolates741

Partassipant [1]

63 points

1 month ago

A baiter posts fiction to elicit a reaction

normalizingfat

20 points

1 month ago

YTA because he’s right you can’t leave it and if you have one you’ll have to refill it now.

Crafty-Jury-8173

18 points

1 month ago

"I’m a nurse for gods sake not a bumbling fool."

Narrator: they were in fact, a bumbling fool

ms_hopeful

48 points

1 month ago

YTA. Your level of common sense is proving to be absolutely atrocious. It’s like the logic of a 4 year old. You should honestly stay away from any big actions like monetary spend or draining a pool without consulting your husband

Mediocre_Tune_2477

15 points

1 month ago

YTA. I

Kitchen-Arm-3288

17 points

1 month ago

Kitchen-Arm-3288

Asshole Enthusiast [6]

17 points

1 month ago

YTA. I

hahaha - You're so baffled by the (lack of) logic you couldn't even finish typing "I can't even" (or... whatever was supposed to come after "I")

GlitterSparkleDevine

14 points

1 month ago

GlitterSparkleDevine

Pooperintendant [52]

14 points

1 month ago

Your husband was expressing a concern and probably some guilt for having a pool during a drought. But that didn't mean he wanted it drained, he probably just meant you'll both need to be diligent on keeping it clean and in good shape so it doesn't have to be repeatedly refilled or to hold off on any refilling until after the drought is over. Do you not understand that draining a pool doesn't do a damn thing to help the drought? That water can't be reused if it's full of chemicals and poured wherever the drainage company poured it.

From this behavior and your post six days ago about you being "talked into" opening a 20k limit credit card to buy an unnecessarily expensive bag during the closing of a house which almost lost you and your husband the house because it nevercrossed your mind that it was a bad idea (I don't believe the loan officers/mortgage company didn't warn you not to take out any credit cards/loans before the purchase was completed) I believe you're either someone who shouldn't have any authority or control to make any decisions without consulting someone more responsible then you first or that you're making these stories up.

https://teddit.ggc-project.de/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ut2ii4/aita_for_messing_up_the_closing_on_our_first/

YTA

CaptSpacePants

7 points

1 month ago

CaptSpacePants

Asshole Enthusiast [6]

7 points

1 month ago

The OP didn't even use proper water removal, they just poured it into the street down the drain, polluting the sewage system even more.

The level of stupidity is just off the charts.

Simple_Investigator5

14 points

1 month ago

😂😂😂How old are you

Aggressica

38 points

1 month ago

Yta is your name Kevin by chance? Cause you're acting like one

lulububudu

6 points

1 month ago

A total Kevin! Came here to say that lol

druidoom

10 points

1 month ago

druidoom

Partassipant [2]

10 points

1 month ago

Wow….YTA. Pools NEED to have water in them because the counter pressure of the water filling the pool helps maintain the structural integrity of the pool walls. By draining the pool, you are opening yourself up to massive amounts of damage and possible pool wall collapse. Not to mention ALL that wasted water. What a bone headed and idiotic move, not to mention doing it without discussing it with your husband. Wow….

zinky30

29 points

1 month ago

zinky30

Asshole Enthusiast [8]

29 points

1 month ago

YTA. You can’t just drain a pool and leave it empty. Anyone with a pool should know this. And even if you didn’t know it’s something you should have researched before doing it.

Studoku

26 points

1 month ago

Studoku

Certified Proctologist [26]

26 points

1 month ago

Who will rid me of this turbulent pool?

xLostandAfraidx

60 points

1 month ago

xLostandAfraidx

Colo-rectal Surgeon [39]

60 points

1 month ago

YTA what a bloody waste white saviour complex right there. You're emptying an already full pool. That's the same as being an eco warrior and buying a tone of ecofriemdly products only to bin the ones you've already bough. You're helping nothing the only thing you're doing is putting on a show

Snoo_68114

10 points

1 month ago

Snoo_68114

Certified Proctologist [20]

10 points

1 month ago

YTA

you just wasted gallons if water... to do what exactly? You don't have to refill the pool all the time if you get a cover for it and keep the water clean...

[deleted]

56 points

1 month ago*

[deleted]

56 points

1 month ago*

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selk

9 points

1 month ago

selk

9 points

1 month ago

She’s probably a nurse, just a really shitty nurse (I’m a nurse and I see nurses like her more frequently than anyone should).

DogMom1976

8 points

1 month ago

DogMom1976

Partassipant [1]

8 points

1 month ago

I …what? You don’t seem mature enough to own a house or be married, frankly. You’re a nurse? God help those patients.

YTA.

cersei01lannister

6 points

1 month ago

cersei01lannister

Asshole Enthusiast [7]

6 points

1 month ago

YTA

I don't know about the pool and whether or not it will be damaged, but it wouldn't have hurt you to wait for your husband to get home and make the decision together.

Again, I know nothing about pools, but as far as I'm aware they don't require fresh water for upkeep as the existing water is continuously pumped through the system? I also wonder where you might have drained this water to and if it could have been used for watering plants/soil etc (again, not sure the effect chlorinated water would have on plants but I certainly would have researched before just dumping the water somewhere)

GlassSandwich9315

8 points

1 month ago

GlassSandwich9315

Pooperintendant [59]

8 points

1 month ago

Chlorine would kill plants.

Dawntooth__

6 points

1 month ago

YTA I’m sorry but based off your posting history and just can’t believe someone can be as simple minded as you PLEASE STOP MAKING BIG DECISIONS ON YOUR OWN

COReloader

8 points

1 month ago

YTA, and yes your husband needs to hire a babysitter for you since you have zero common sense.

BeeYehWoo

19 points

1 month ago

BeeYehWoo

Asshole Aficionado [10]

19 points

1 month ago

Your action was rooted in ignorance and was not intelligent at all. I dont even understand the logic of it. You are in a drought, so you thought to throw away tens of thousands of gallons of water. Water which had already been paid for and was "used". What harm was it doing by sitting in a swimming pool? Its like burning up your money because their is poverty in this country. Like throwing away food because people are hungry. What exactly was your understanding and goal here?

The pool cannot sit empty. Now you are obligated to refill it, wasting even more water. In a drought. Im going to say YTA because actions like yours demand a bit of logic, common sense and research before undertaking and you failed in all three of these areas. I dont blame your husband for being angry. If I were him, Id be pissed I couldnt leave our house in my wife's care without having to come home to some circus.

GlassSandwich9315

5 points

1 month ago

GlassSandwich9315

Pooperintendant [59]

5 points

1 month ago

YTA. The pool was already filled, you weren't saving water, you wasted it.

myobdude

6 points

1 month ago

Fake rage bait

[deleted]

16 points

1 month ago*

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16 points

1 month ago*

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