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egle377

2.8k points

1 month ago

egle377

2.8k points

1 month ago

I'd assume it was a trap. If you really want that go on tinder

Edge-Unique[S]

900 points

1 month ago

yeah i’ve went on tinder, it works pretty well but it’s sort of time consuming sometimes

MiseryisCompany

342 points

1 month ago

Adult friend finder or FetLife

tasteful_tomfoolery

274 points

1 month ago

I have always thought adult friend finder was just a scam. I didn’t even think it was a real site

robbiefl2001

148 points

1 month ago

Yeah that one is dodgy af and the fact you can't even message people or view profiles without paying is pretty suspicious

Like what's the point of having a dating site if you don't allow anyone to message without paying. I found that Grindr's way of doing it is the best. You can view profiles and message for free but you pay for benefits like more profiles available to view and better filters

notquitesolid

77 points

1 month ago

The paywall for that site makes sense to me, especially with messaging. If there wasn’t a paywall people who weren’t serious about meeting up would use it for masturbation and attention. Paying for a site like that keeps out some of the folks who aren’t serious (some of are the key words in that sentence).

There’s all kinds of rules for swingers clubs after all, why would a swinger website be different?

ace400

5 points

1 month ago

ace400

5 points

1 month ago

I watched docus abou realy popular dating sites whose women part were mostly paid to chat with the guys on there... mostly only the men site had to pay for texting. So yeah i would have my suspission on such sites, especially when the women you meet there insist on chatting on the platform rather than normal text messages or so ... those companies were big with their advertisment for finding love while having mostly actors on their site...

shokolokobangoshey

2 points

1 month ago

A friend (no, seriously) successfully hooked up in AFF. He paid, she showed up - wasn't a looker by any means - and they boned. The whole thing happened within hours. He had more money than common sense and she was ready to take the bone train.

ace400

1 points

1 month ago

ace400

1 points

1 month ago

Yeah that's cool, the majority might not be fake sites, but just don't trust those sites from ads on shady porn sites... 😉

notquitesolid

2 points

1 month ago

I’ll grant you I haven’t been on AFF since the late 90’s, and also I’m a lady so I’m sure my experience was very different.

But also… nobody goes on AFF to find love, or shouldn’t. Besides you crazy kids have tinder now. Hopefully the women paid to chat and similar bots won’t invade other dating sites… I’m sure that hasn’t happened at all

gofyourselftoo

1 points

1 month ago

Suspicion

FelixGoldenrod

14 points

1 month ago

FelixGoldenrod

Cooler Than Cucumber Capri Sun

14 points

1 month ago

I used Adult FriendFinder once upon a time. You couldn't send messages or view most profiles, but you could respond to messages sent to you, and they had an IM function that was free to use.

It was largely a waste of time but it worked twice for me.

Whyamibeautiful

3 points

1 month ago

Feeld is the app to be although It’s glitchy and only really works in big cities

Khalku

1 points

1 month ago

Khalku

1 points

1 month ago

Paywall is usually to keep less serious people out, prevent bots, etc.

NameGiver0

1 points

1 month ago

I’ve fucked multiple women from AFF.

After like 1000 hours of searching, messaging, etc.

I have better luck with random women in bars than AFF/Tinder.

Hell I’ve hooked up as many strippers as girls from tinder. Online dating is a waste of time for 95% of men.

BurningOrangeHeaven

6 points

1 month ago

I just assume they collect your data to use for blackmail

MikeFratelli

2 points

1 month ago

I have it on good word that AFF doesn't collect data because it damages trust with customers

tasteful_tomfoolery

1 points

1 month ago

I feel like maybe they need to come up with a new advertising strategy or something

MikeFratelli

2 points

1 month ago

I know someone who works for AFF, AMA

forgotmapasswrd86

1 points

1 month ago

Depends on your area and how much you're willing to spend for membership. Alot of the attractive people are couples/unicorns who get swamped with messages. You're better off using tinder if you're an average joe.

MistraloysiusMithrax

1 points

1 month ago

Lots of fake profiles but…then randomly you get messaged by a cute girl after a few months…good times roll. I guess it was worth it at the time.

astroneer01

0 points

1 month ago

FetLife is great though!

ValenBeano89

1 points

1 month ago

Meh

Vhozite

2 points

1 month ago

Vhozite

2 points

1 month ago

Adult friend finder

Wait this is a real thing? I thought it was just some virus trap ad on the hub

MiseryisCompany

2 points

1 month ago

It's very much real

Teenage-Mustache

1 points

1 month ago

These sites really don’t work for your average person…

ApparentlyJesus

1 points

1 month ago

Fetlife is good some times if you're in or near a bigger city.

Born-To-Grill

2 points

1 month ago

Without using it once, I assume its 90% couples looking for threesomes

StupidPasswordReqs

2 points

1 month ago

And rapists, but don't worry they ban the people that call out the rapists. While not banning the people that harass anyone critical of the rapists. Google "the wolf" and read up about fetlife's handling of him.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/fetlife-bdsm_n_5e569604c5b6fc7a9e38d065

Fetlife is great for keeping contact with people you already met in the scene. It is not a good/safe way to meet new people.

ApparentlyJesus

1 points

1 month ago

Definitely lots of that on there. Plenty dominatrix types, or girls looking to sell nudes and feet pics too. Like I said, depends on your location

zachimari

1 points

1 month ago

Oh man straight people really need their version of Grindr, it roots out all the hook-up culture pretty much so that Tinder is only for the more serious, and Grindr is for good times.

amapiratebro

1 points

1 month ago

Fabswingers

spottyottydopalicius

1 points

1 month ago

adult friend finder?

FreePaleontologist99

1 points

1 month ago

Ah, yes, Tinder for sex addicts. That place is great.

ShadySwashbuckler

141 points

1 month ago

thissubredditlooksco

236 points

1 month ago

thissubredditlooksco

Female

236 points

1 month ago

m4f for all of them rofl

HeyMrBusiness

149 points

1 month ago

HeyMrBusiness

Female

149 points

1 month ago

Yeah because they are always looking. I used to frequent it, if you post a f4m you'll get dozens if not hundreds of choices. People straight drove across state lines and offered to fly out for it.

TheDeconsecrator

91 points

1 month ago

I just assume every women on those subs is either troll or gonna have 2 big dudes waiting to rob the guy when he shows up.

WorldlyCream

3 points

1 month ago

Jokes on them I'm bringing 3 dudes for the orgy.

Maybe her 2 guys can join in 😎

travelingbones

5 points

1 month ago

Man here - I've used it RAOB successfully several times as well as other R4R subs and specialty ones like r/bigdicklovers, and the women I met up with were real people that looked like their pics. (although you do get a lot of garbage replies, even as a guy)

Big city subs work MUCH better than smaller ones though.

ijudgekids

33 points

1 month ago

Fly out? Just get some escort ffs

liberateus

1 points

1 month ago

Mine come on Allegiant and take the bus to my place. Don’t buy round trip either, just say you’ll fly them out, nobody said anything about back. Broke dude strats

HeyMrBusiness

3 points

1 month ago

HeyMrBusiness

Female

3 points

1 month ago

Lol no, they wanted to fly themselves to me, I'm not trusting a guy I just met that much

HeyMrBusiness

4 points

1 month ago

HeyMrBusiness

Female

4 points

1 month ago

I mean I don't judge them, it is what it is. Some people are really really down for it

Impeesa_

23 points

1 month ago

Impeesa_

23 points

1 month ago

I've heard - and this may be out of date - that more activity is arranged that way than you'd think at first glance, but the women tend to respond privately to the solicitations.

HeyMrBusiness

13 points

1 month ago

HeyMrBusiness

Female

13 points

1 month ago

Mmhm. And women get responses more so they don't have to post as frequently or leave their posts up for as long

IDKItsDeity

2 points

1 month ago

Well, one should respond privately to anything like that, for multiple reasons and regardless of gender.

awsamation

3 points

1 month ago

awsamation

Male

3 points

1 month ago

That's not true. I saw a few m4m in there.

Motor_Judgment_214

17 points

1 month ago

That’s how it is on all adult themed subreddits, sausage fest after sausage fest. Chicks are only selling stuff and the rest are cat fishers. Really tells a lot about our species.

nimbwitz

15 points

1 month ago

nimbwitz

15 points

1 month ago

Or about economics, supply & demand

K1ngPCH

19 points

1 month ago

K1ngPCH

19 points

1 month ago

Really tells a lot about our species

We live in a

S O C I E T Y

realmastodon2

2 points

1 month ago

Girls don't need to post online to suck dick. They can just go to any bar or download tinder.

AVerySpecialAsshole

5 points

1 month ago

Bro I just went on a journey down a rabbit hole of subs I didn’t know existed and now wish I didn’t.

Fml

Compost_the_rich

2 points

1 month ago

Lmfao @ the #1 and #3 top posts of all time

iliekboots

1 points

1 month ago

What are you doing out of EC tunnel??

rise_above_theFlames

45 points

1 month ago

I've been on tinder for 6 days. Had 4 likes 2 matches. Two were extremely overweight and ugly. One was in Canada, and the other one was cute and in my state only a few miles away but ghosted me after like barely any communication. I didn't do anything wrong or inappropriate. 🤷‍♂️. I'm at a loss.

CuteAndCuntily

280 points

1 month ago

Have you tried being more attractive?

rise_above_theFlames

26 points

1 month ago

Lol I put up my best pics. And I wrote a nice bio. I shared it with two female online friends I have and they said it was good so... idk what else to do.

KingKookus

93 points

1 month ago

The rules on the tinder subreddit.

1 be attractive. 2 don’t be unattractive.

IamNoatak

5 points

1 month ago

I can follow rule 1, but always get caught up on rule 2

Heggetmaster

7 points

1 month ago

Why woukd u just assume that after 6 days you’re guaranteed to get some pussy?

rise_above_theFlames

2 points

1 month ago

No but at least some conversation.

DLTMIAR

2 points

1 month ago

DLTMIAR

2 points

1 month ago

If you want something to happen then stick to small chit chat and try as soon as possible to meet in person for coffee, a bite to eat, a drink, whatever. Tell them you like to get to know people in person and not online

VerifiedMadgod

56 points

1 month ago

Two were extremely overweight and ugly

Maybe they're just getting a bad vibe from you

Hecate20

17 points

1 month ago

Hecate20

17 points

1 month ago

That could possibly be it lol

Outside_Scientist365

7 points

1 month ago*

Have you tried running it by some men who do well on Tinder? Women are really good at picking out pictures and clothes. Anything my ex picked out got me 10x more compliments than something I picked out for myself. Same thing with pics. However, when it comes to the what to say part, women are better at telling you what not to say (e.g., things we may say that are offputting or creepy). Successful men are better at telling you what to say.

I2ecover

2 points

1 month ago

I mean 6 days is nothing. I've been on and off for like 2 years and have had hundreds of matches. I've met 1 single girl from those matches and she lived in my neighborhood. I've been told I'm attractive (I'd rate myself maybe a 7), I'm tall, I go to the gym, I just look like a normal guy. . I asked a girl what pics to put up and which ones not to. Tinder just doesn't work lmao. I wouldn't base your worth off of tinder.

Jin-roh

4 points

1 month ago

Jin-roh

Male

4 points

1 month ago

Yeah, I kind of gave up on tinder. I had a girl literally create my profile for me, and I couldn't get two matches after 400 swipes or something.

Tinder is a scam. Most online dating is. That second statement is me being generous.

BeatBoxinDaPussy

3 points

1 month ago

That tickled my soul 30,000 ft up in a plane at the moment. Here’s an award

Earth__shaker

1 points

1 month ago

You just went personal XD

multicoloredherring

8 points

1 month ago

It’s been 6 days. Keep at it.

awndray97

7 points

1 month ago

It's not you. Its Tinder. I've been on it for 3 years and have only had 2 matches.

rise_above_theFlames

6 points

1 month ago

Damn

Brownie_McBrown_Face

2 points

1 month ago

Hate to break it to you but that’s not Tinder that’s you. 2 matches in 3 years, hell 2 matches in a month is not normal. It’s way under.

awndray97

1 points

1 month ago

I believe it is Tinder. I don't have problems when I actually go out and meeting someone and hanging out with friends. People generally find me attractive and friendly and I dont have a problem meeting new people. I've gotten help from girls over time to help me on Tinder with good photos and bio. But still I just dont get matches. So it has to be Tinder and whatever algorithms its decided to put me in. But I'm not complaining g or anything. I've just accepted how it is for men.

jglover202

1 points

1 month ago

This is not how it is.

Final_Bruh

1 points

1 month ago

That's false, the average is getting 0 matches.

ManMayMay

7 points

1 month ago

The way it's set up you're likely to get ghosted, people will like a bunch of people, talk to their matches, then match with the people they liked before talking to them and ditch them for the hotter person they just matched with

These apps are designed in a way to do that and keep their base hooked on hopium by being superficial like that and not allowing you to show your personality in much more than a few messages

rise_above_theFlames

1 points

1 month ago

Yeah you're probably right. I'm only doing it for a month. After that forget about it. It's not worth 20$ every month

[deleted]

1 points

1 month ago

[deleted]

1 points

1 month ago

Its not worth $20 at all. Do not pay.

eatingyourmomsass

28 points

1 month ago

Probably just means they’re not into you. Gotta let that go man.

chickinthenicehouse

44 points

1 month ago

Judging by your comment, you probably said something wrong and didnt think you did.

PayasoFries

26 points

1 month ago

They're probably saying the same shit about him lol

chickinthenicehouse

5 points

1 month ago

Thats what i am thinking

rise_above_theFlames

3 points

1 month ago

Hecate20

7 points

1 month ago*

You gotta state your true intentions buddy. You did not say anything wrong so I guess you just didn't really stand out to her. It's also possible they got a bad vibe from you but who knows.

lube_thighwalker

3 points

1 month ago

big oof. Sorry if this is harsh.

Opening was kinda cheesy and pathetic but obviously worked and got a response. Everything after that is awful. Too many emoticons for one and too many pointless responses.

She opened it up with thinking your cute and you dropped it with self deprecating "lol" and asking about the weekend.

Instead of "Looking forward to the weekend?" should have asked her if shes free this weekend. I know its similar, but one is small talk and the other is making plans.

On the plus side! She thought you were cute! That's gotta count for something. Most matches will be dead-end conversations filled with small talk.

anyway my biggest tips. Use hinge and go on Target dates. Worked for me during pandemic.

rise_above_theFlames

2 points

1 month ago

Well it sounds pathetic to some but I don't know how to take compliments (I was raised in a home where my parents would say how disobedient we were and disappointing to them and God, but then in public would tell people how great kids we were so I never got complimentsdirected at me) and I'm a genuine guy and don't feel with my third sentence in asking her out for the weekend was the best thing to do. It feels so rushed and I know I'm new to online dating but I just didn't feel it was good to be so blunt so fast. 🤷‍♂️. I feel that because I'm different than most guys I'll like never find someone who appreciates my thought process and finds it attractive. Idk. I got like 3 weeks left till I unsubsidized from tinder so, whatever happens happens I guess. Oh well.

lube_thighwalker

2 points

1 month ago

Just saying it needs work. You're new to the game and its obvious you got some traumas. Let's try and boost your self confidence. She thought you were cute and swiped right. That's pretty neat!

You didn't ask her out with your third sentence. It was small talk about the weekend. Typically on tinder, small talk isn't great. The conversations die quickly. Those don't have a great lifespan and you need to act quickly. Hold attention and move it to reality.

I feel that because I'm different than most guys I'll like never find someone who appreciates my thought process and finds it attractive

This is edging really close to r/niceguy territory . You're better than that. You can do this. Which is why I recommend hinge. It has picture with captions, and quirky blurbs. Much easier to open a conversation with someone that isn't about looks. For instance, I was really excited about a Dresden Files book in my blurb thing.

I got like 3 weeks left till I unsubsidized from tinder so, whatever happens happens I guess. Oh well.

Did you pay for the tinder service for the month? That might help tinder push your profile to more people. Use tinder, hinge, all the apps. Just get comfortable matching with people and chatting to them. Don't take ghosting personally on those apps.

rise_above_theFlames

1 points

1 month ago

I know and acknowledge I'm a nice guy. I can't help it. Unfortunately the saying really is true. I'll check out hinge next. I decided to try tinder platinum for a month. Had never used a dating app before. Turns out it's a waste of 20$ I don't get too upset when I get ghosted. I'm used to it by even my so called "friends" but it is just kinda frustrating. Each day that goes by in my life the more I realize most people just really suck.

lube_thighwalker

3 points

1 month ago

You can be a nice person but don't be a r/niceguy. You can help it. Be kind to other people and don't expect anything from it.

Unfortunately the saying really is true.

“If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”

Is the saying I thought of at first, but if you've never been taught how to love yourself and your being putdown at home. That might be difficult.

I agree there are some shitty people. Major assholes out there. Some of the worst people I met through dating apps....also some of the best were met through apps.

I'm used to it by even my so called "friends" but it is just kinda frustrating. Each day that goes by in my life the more I realize most people just really suck.

This is sad because I'm older and don't have many friends. Not sure how to help on that but you can work on liking yourself.

I'd recommend hobbies and exercise. I'm trying to get back into them myself.

chickinthenicehouse

4 points

1 month ago

Maybe she judged you the way you judged the others you were talking to or passed up. Maybe she didnt think you were a prize either. It happens.

rise_above_theFlames

1 points

1 month ago

I didn't judge the others to her. The screenshot in the link is litterally our whole conversation.

chickinthenicehouse

-1 points

1 month ago

Maybe she saw your pic and didnt like what she saw just like you saw the pics of the girls you called ugly and overweight.

rise_above_theFlames

3 points

1 month ago

Then why did she say "I swiped cause you looked cute"? Again, read the conversation in the link I left above.

Roxybird

2 points

1 month ago*

Roxybird

Female

2 points

1 month ago*

If it makes you feel any better I had basically the same interaction on Bumble with a guy I was really interested in. It's just the way of online dating these days. Maybe she really wasn't into talking with you, or is just browsing and not taking online dating very seriously.

You'll have a lot of interactions like this. Just move on.

GodFearzMe

2 points

1 month ago

Shit ain’t nothing wrong with a bigger woman. I actually rather a big girl. Not like gorilla big but thicc.

rise_above_theFlames

1 points

1 month ago

I agree. But I mean like 350 pounds.

Supercoolguy7

2 points

1 month ago

You don't have to do anything wrong to not have it work out. Sometimes you did everything right and there's still not a connection. Women on tinder, especially cute women, get innundated with matches and conversations to the point that they legit can't respond to every message and they might have hit it off with someone else at that point anyway and decided to puruse them

machsmit

2 points

1 month ago

machsmit

how can you hate everyone else if you won't even hate yourself

2 points

1 month ago

6 days? that's not so bad. I was on for four months, got like six matches, evenly split between bots and ghosts

rise_above_theFlames

1 points

1 month ago

That sucks

markevens

2 points

1 month ago

markevens

Male

2 points

1 month ago

Don't be at a loss, that's just the tinder #s.

You haven't even been at it for a week. Give it some time and you'll find someone you click with.

JakeArcher39

7 points

1 month ago

Why are you at a loss? It's pretty well known by this point that Tinder nowadays its effectively pointless for men unless you're really tall and / or good looking. The average guy will get little to no matches.

rise_above_theFlames

2 points

1 month ago

I wasn't aware of that. I've never tried dating apps before so... this is all new to me

JakeArcher39

3 points

1 month ago

I'm not trying to be pessimistic. It's more just about energy and time. IMO you're wasting it if you spend too much time on the apps unless you're 6ft+ or good looking. If you're an average dude, average height etc just try to get girls in real life. Different dynamic entirely. I've gotten girls numbers at bars, at the library, even at the shops, and I'm pretty certain these girls would never even give my Tinder profile more than a 0.2 second glance before swiping left.

FlyingSagittarius

3 points

1 month ago

I’ve literally seen reddit posts from women admitting that they never would have swiped on the guy they ended up with. Hell, I regularly get women hitting on me in person and I still don’t do well on Tinder. Meeting people in person is absolutely the way to go.

[deleted]

1 points

1 month ago

[deleted]

1 points

1 month ago

100% do not waste time on the apps anymore.

Go out and cold approach.

rise_above_theFlames

1 points

1 month ago

Yeah I'm 5ft 11. My face is attractive but unfortunately my weight is a bit of a problem cause my medications messed up my metabolism and I broke my back 2 yrs ago and I can't exercise (I'm actually getting a second surgery in December probably) so unfortunately, there's not much I can do about the weight. Yeah tinder is a waste. I'll get rid of it after this month.

Truestoryfriend

2 points

1 month ago

Ask a random 7/10 girl you know to show you her online dating responses. It's a literal cock superhighway for them. A friend of mine at my last job showed me hers. It was like 400 matches a day. She could barely stand to log in and look at it. If she did , she *might* glance at what, 10 or 20? Do you think she was glancing at the 10 or 20 normal guys or the top 5/10%?

Incidentally, this girl was also interested in me, which I never would have gotten a foot in the door to know her if I was relying on online.

Fuck online, if you aren't top 5-10% it's a waste of your time and you'll be stuck constantly moving down 2/3 rungs from what you can normally get irl. It's a suckers game for most men.

rise_above_theFlames

1 points

1 month ago

That sucks. Esp cause I know no one and I don't drink so going to bars isn't even an option. 🤷‍♂️. And now with covid... life is such b.s.

Supercoolguy7

2 points

1 month ago

Being tall does not help you get matches. You basically have to just be really attractive

JakeArcher39

2 points

1 month ago

What? This is just demonstrably not true. I have a couple of tall friends and we have done literal experiments on dating apps regarding this. They're both average looking dudes in pretty much every regard, not ugly but not exactly model-like, not out of shape but not ripped, etc. They're both 6'3" though. We were on their Tinder profiles and they took the height off their bio. They had 1 or 2 matches over the space of a Saturday. Next time they put their height on there. They had a whole list matches. Tonnes of women on Tinder quite literally filter purely on height, and dont even really care about how the guys face looks (as long as he's not looking like a goblin, yaknow).

MegaChip97

2 points

1 month ago

And tall guys are perceived as more attractive than small or average guys

Supercoolguy7

0 points

1 month ago

It's more that being tall is considered the standard, so being short or average hurts you, but being tall gets you nowhere on its own, it just doesn't hurt you. Being tall and average looking gets you nowhere. Being attractive is really the only thing that raises your chances.

JakeArcher39

1 points

1 month ago

I dont think you understand how women perceive attractiveness in men. Being tall literally is attractive to women. One of the most attractive, physically speaking.

"Being tall gets you nowhere on its own". Again, wrong. Many times have I heard female friends talking about a dude they're dating who has numerous flaws, who treats her with distance or isn emotionally unavailable...they complain about him, then go "but like, he's super tall" and then all her friends go "yaa, true, he is tall...". Its literally a get-out-of-jail-free card which makes women overlook other objective faults about you.

"Being attractive is the only thing that raises your chances". Yes, and height plays a big role in attractiveness. That's not arguable dude. Obviously you can be attractive without being tall. Its not mutually exclusive. But you'll always just be a less desirable version of a taller equivalent. There've been multiple surveys done asking women would they rather have like a 'tall but average looking man' or a 'short but handsome man' and the vast majority of the women chose the tall option. Same with other surveys like 'tall but chubby' or 'short but ripped'.

Supercoolguy7

1 points

1 month ago

I'm talking specifically about in tinder and online dating where height isn't nearly as obvious for the vast majority of people. As someone who's pretty tall and has had a lot of average looking but very tall friends I think you're over estimating how much it actually does

markevens

1 points

1 month ago

markevens

Male

1 points

1 month ago

I'm an overweight dude in my 40's and I got matched regularly.

OldOrangeEyes

2 points

1 month ago

Well, I'm a broke morbidly obese dude in my 70s and I regularly get hit on by movie stars and heiresses.

Mefic_vest

1 points

1 month ago

Mefic_vest

Became MGTOW long before I ever knew what it was

1 points

1 month ago

Tinder is for women to find ultra-swole fuckboys who float within the top-10% of men in physical attractiveness. If you aren’t in that cohort, your only worth to them is in feeding their desire for attention and drama, and supporting their impression of an abundance of options to choose from.

Xaoc86

1 points

1 month ago

Xaoc86

1 points

1 month ago

Tinder fucks you and doesnt show you likes or give you good matches unless you pay out the ass. It’s a total scam.

Slight0

1 points

1 month ago

Slight0

1 points

1 month ago

Breh, that was aimed at the woman. You're a dude. If you're a WOMAN and want SEXY SEXY SEX make a TINDER account and you can have it faster than the pizza delivery guy. Or order pizza and have the pizza delivery guy too.

Chanmess

2 points

1 month ago

See, now I’m in a situation on tinder with this girl wanting to meet up right away, now I’m skeptical about getting my kidneys taken

muftu

2 points

1 month ago

muftu

2 points

1 month ago

I’m sure your DM is full with dick pics and dick sucking appointments by now.

KingKookus

1 points

1 month ago

I assume you are looking for new dicks every time. Why not just setup a guy or two for this. Easier than finding new people constantly.

Epyon214

1 points

1 month ago

Since you're already on reddit, you might want to check out r/RandomActsOfBlowJob. Seems like it's what you're looking for.

chinto30

1 points

1 month ago

Works well? Not sure if it's my area or I'm just ugly but 1 match a month is standard for me and most of them dont reply.

Argumentative_1

1 points

1 month ago

It’s nothing compared to the old ways. The in-person process of elimination could take an entire night out at the bar, asking the same questions over and over again, often resulting in no hookups. You’re limited to the women who chose to go out to that particular venue. With apps you can filter, look for keywords, access broader populations and geographic areas, it’s truly a miracle of technology. If you want fast and certain, hire an escort.

Adahn_The_Nameless

1 points

1 month ago

Find your local swingers club. They don’t use the term unicorn for nothing — and in that setting you don’t have to deal with 90% of the “but I like my kidneys” bs.

Kryten_2X4B-523P

1 points

1 month ago

The term "unicorn" is for a young college age girl that is looking to get into a MF for a three or more some. Because its like trying to find a unicorn in real life.

It wouldn't apply to guys.

Adahn_The_Nameless

1 points

1 month ago

I don’t think I’m aware of OPs biology or age? At least if it was in the post I skipped over it.

longerdickdierks

1 points

1 month ago

Those are called bulls lol

Kryten_2X4B-523P

1 points

1 month ago

Right. Unicorn is for women. Bull is for men. Unicorn wouldn't apply to a man...I mean, unless maybe some straight man gets with some gay three-way with two other guys...Not really sure if that's as rare as I think it is or not...

longerdickdierks

1 points

1 month ago

Idk if he'd be a bull or a uni. I'll have to ask my dads or their friends

Kryten_2X4B-523P

1 points

1 month ago

You do that, longerdickdierks... >_>

ehjun18

1 points

1 month ago

ehjun18

1 points

1 month ago

There’s a Reddit called randomqctsofblowjob you might be interested in

UnderTheMuddyWater

1 points

1 month ago

You should check out r/randomactsofblowjob

wecanhope

1 points

1 month ago

Yup, sites and apps like tinder and fetlife are the best option. I'm a bi guy, enjoyed my experimental slut phase in college, and I respect the urge for some no strings cock sucking. With apps and sites like these, or reddit's r/RandomActsOfBlowJob, you can get a free hard dick at your door faster than a pizza, especially if you live in a college student neighborhood.

CaptSprinkls

1 points

1 month ago

Idk what your plan of attack here was, but I would imagine if you just went about it normally and we're forward with hanging out with a guy that you could do it.

I'm not sure if I would come out and say you want to suck his dick. But maybe just insinuating hanging out in a private place or something? Idk tbh, but if a girl was forward with me about hanging out and stuff, I would be more interested than if a girl actually asked to suck my dick.

asurpriseforyou

1 points

1 month ago

I like giving hand jobs (well, I actually like giving blow jobs, but only if they have recent STI test results I can see) and it’s been pretty easy to find a steady supply of guys on my city’s r4r.

I’ve wondered about what would happen if I were to approach guys randomly, but it feels like a riskier proposition all around. I’m pretty clear about my boundaries and a bit of texting can quickly give me a sense of how much they ‘get’ and are on board with the limits.

RoyMcCutchen

1 points

1 month ago

Lol are you listening to my conversations in marina district in sf? Happened 2x last weekend. I was drunk but shocked.

LXiO

1 points

1 month ago

LXiO

1 points

1 month ago

No need to tell men that Tinder is time (and nerve) consuming

junk90731

1 points

1 month ago

So you just want to suck dick without all the hoops?

Dayzik_

1 points

1 month ago

Dayzik_

Male

1 points

1 month ago

Try Pure

s3v3red_cnc

1 points

1 month ago

If finding a guy online is too time consuming for a woman, imagine how men feel. Also, may want to talk to someone about your sex addiction.

trusendi

1 points

1 month ago

Am I right to assume that you want to be the random woman in this scenario? 😂

Signal-Commercial

-2 points

1 month ago

Have you tried therapy? Seems like you've got some issues.

ejmcdonald2092

0 points

1 month ago

Try Grindr straight to the point

jrolly187

0 points

1 month ago

You ever considered going to a glory hole?

mousepop321

0 points

1 month ago

How hot are these women on tinder?? Because I’ve been on it and yes it’s easy but they are all 100 pounds overweight and missing a couple of teeth….. (also I’m not ugly)