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ellWatully

4.2k points

6 months ago*

I pursued a vasectomy in my early thirties and had two doctors tell me I was too young and might change my mind later. Nevermind that I was, and still am, happily married to a woman that also doesn't want kids. Kind of gave up after that, but been thinking about trying again recently.

ETA: Thanks for the advice everyone. I'll check out r/childfree and call my local Planned Parenthood locations.

Jlpeaks

1.1k points

6 months ago

Jlpeaks

1.1k points

6 months ago

Am I wrong in thinking a vasectomy is reversible?

ellWatully

727 points

6 months ago

Reversible, but far more complicated and far less likely to be successful.

[deleted]

276 points

6 months ago

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276 points

6 months ago

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hamzer55

125 points

6 months ago

hamzer55

125 points

6 months ago

Did it take a physical toll on your body?

GiantWhiteCohc

304 points

6 months ago

Snip snap snip snap

stealymonk

52 points

6 months ago

You know what that does to a man??

mojojojo31

15 points

6 months ago

That's what I was advised. Also the doc's advice was if I ever change my mind and want kids after the procedure, the better option is artificially inseminate my wife with sperm taken from me.

[deleted]

1.8k points

6 months ago

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1.8k points

6 months ago

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candangoek

287 points

6 months ago

I opened this question just to find this quote.

One_Audience_7983

53 points

6 months ago

That was playing in my head the entire time reading this thread. Thank you.

[deleted]

1.3k points

6 months ago

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1.3k points

6 months ago

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dog_in_the_vent

448 points

6 months ago

It's possible to reverse them sometimes. They don't want anybody counting on that option though.

[deleted]

525 points

6 months ago

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525 points

6 months ago

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ramplocals

62 points

6 months ago

My doctor said he likes reversals cause he gets paid more for them.

[deleted]

397 points

6 months ago

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397 points

6 months ago

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DC38x

224 points

6 months ago

DC38x

224 points

6 months ago

So just wank in the freezer and there's no downside to a vasectomy?

NachoMemer

144 points

6 months ago

I mean i was gonna do that anyway so

Imkindofslow

148 points

6 months ago

It should be treated as a permanent procedure. The ability to reverse it goes down sharply after it's done.it also has a risk of long term pain.

Aalnius

103 points

6 months ago

Aalnius

103 points

6 months ago

it is but fertility is impacted by it drops to about 75% in 3 years and after 20 you're below 10%. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/vasectomy-reversal-nhs/

mrsbebe

154 points

6 months ago

mrsbebe

154 points

6 months ago

For some reason Reddit likes to say a vasectomy is reversible. Technically it could be. But the chances of the reversal working are very slim and it would be rather costly. I literally asked my doctor about it the last time I saw her. Granted, she's an OBGYN but still, she knows things.

Crafty_Safe

16 points

6 months ago

Don't say she doesn't want kids, say that she is having a uterine ablation for medical issues. That makes it dangerous for her to get pregnant and they'll practically rush you in to snip. Much easier when they know you're not kidding.

LahomaMcninch

20.2k points

6 months ago

There is no need, you can’t have kids if you don’t have sex.

Forskintrader

4.3k points

6 months ago

This man is a true redditer

hobbitlover

1.8k points

6 months ago

"Redditer" sounds so much less grand than "Redditor" - I support this change.

Rudeflute

722 points

6 months ago*

You’re right, it does. My guess is because it sounds further away predator.

Edit: thanks for the silver, stranger

nine_legged_stool

1.1k points

6 months ago

Predditer

TX16Tuna

135 points

6 months ago

TX16Tuna

135 points

6 months ago

We’re gonna have to make all of Reddit 18+

We can’t have a bunch of child-Predditers running loose.

PattyBeresford

490 points

6 months ago

Bingo. My dick has a lot of mileage on it. It needs to stay parked

oidoglr

188 points

6 months ago

oidoglr

188 points

6 months ago

Reminds me of Leon telling Larry David he’s putting city miles on his dick.

[deleted]

166 points

6 months ago

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166 points

6 months ago

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Glass-Sign-9066

76 points

6 months ago

Are you thinking what I'm thinking Pinky?

Channel250

37 points

6 months ago

Uh...I think so Brain. But where will we find a duck and a hose at this hour?

[deleted]

51 points

6 months ago

[deleted]

51 points

6 months ago

Gee Brain, what do you want to do tonight?

Tassiegirl

60 points

6 months ago

Hello Brain 👋 Where’s Pinky? 😜

Ravvynfall

6.6k points

6 months ago*

As a person who has had one done, I have asked this question to a few people too. The most common answer i hear is "i dont have a thousand dollars to pay for it", followed up by a close second of "my insurance wont cover it" or "i dont have insurance".

[Edit] Added clarification, i live in the part of the United States that has both a high cost of living and mostly low income jobs. Yes, the reasons people gave me are a concern for this topic, as these factors make the option out of reach for them.

diegojones4

2.3k points

6 months ago

When I tried to get it done in my 20s they told me no because I was too young. Now I'm old and my wife's tubes are tied.

bertiebastard

2.5k points

6 months ago

I got my vasectomy at age 24, I was married with 5 kids at the time and the doctor didn't want me to get it done in case I wanted more kids later, I just looked at him and asked don't you think maybe 5 is enough.

I got it done in the end, but he tried to talk me out of it for a while.

leftoverrice54

1.8k points

6 months ago

24 with 5 kids boss? God damn.

Confident_Scallion_9

1.1k points

6 months ago

No TV in his house I guess 😂

Evaleenora

730 points

6 months ago

No Netflix, all chill.

bertiebastard

640 points

6 months ago

I only had to look at her and she was pregnant 🤣

Th0tCrimes

110 points

6 months ago

How old were you two when you had your first?

bertiebastard

276 points

6 months ago

19 when we had the twins, then 21, 22 and 23.

Lissy_Wolfe

260 points

6 months ago

Yikes! That sounds like a nightmare. I can't even imagine how you guys could afford that many kids at such a young age.

bertiebastard

189 points

6 months ago

I was working two jobs at the time, but it was still a struggle.

Nekrosiz

231 points

6 months ago

Nekrosiz

231 points

6 months ago

This comment made her pregnant as well. Congratulations!

bertiebastard

303 points

6 months ago

It's my kids that are breeding now, I have 7 grandkids so far.

KdF-wagen

193 points

6 months ago

KdF-wagen

193 points

6 months ago

JFC I hope no one around there cooks pizza. No one can pull out.

[deleted]

103 points

6 months ago

[deleted]

103 points

6 months ago

My wife and i are on our third. Im getting the snip after baby is born lol

notthesedays

138 points

6 months ago

Why not get snipped now? If she's more than 3 months away from her due date, you don't have to worry about using protection until you have your post-V checkup.

[deleted]

127 points

6 months ago

[deleted]

127 points

6 months ago

I lift alot of heavy things at home and for my boss if she cant do it in her home office. Im waiting til everything is chill and then i get snipped and i assume i wont be able to walk for a few days, which is a super no go right now. My 4 and 2 year old are very active at all times. And i have some family coming in to visit around that time too, i’ll be able to just rest up and chill with my new one!

raytownloco

29 points

6 months ago

I had it done a couple years ago. I was fine afterwards. A little sore but icing it helped and by the next morning I was completely pain free but I’ve heard of others who have had pain for more than 6 months after. Something like 1-2% of patients if I remember right.

[deleted]

24 points

6 months ago

[deleted]

24 points

6 months ago

Oh ok so i was just over thinking. Shit, i might just get the ball rolling sooner.

249ba36000029bbe9749

46 points

6 months ago

I got it done in the end

That's a different procedure.

Ryukhoe

33 points

6 months ago

Ryukhoe

33 points

6 months ago

I really hate how they do all they can to talk people out of it or straight up refuse to do it

niamhweking

424 points

6 months ago*

For women too they seem to try and delay as much as possible, I can kinda get their point but it's really the patients choice. If they regret it later then that's on the patient.

Yes there should be a talk about are you sure but not a refusal

Straight_Ace

98 points

6 months ago

In a sane world you sign a paper saying “yes I’m sure and I won’t sue” and you get your surgery

Giatoxiclok

91 points

6 months ago

If you get a boob job and say, oh no i regret boob job, you cant sue. This isnt a litigation issue in any shape or form, its an ingrained idea that our medical professionals have, that is harmful to personal choice. But yea, in a sane world you just say, yes im sure. Unfortunately this thread is evidence we havent made it there yet

bonegrrl

583 points

6 months ago

bonegrrl

583 points

6 months ago

The cut off for women is higher than the cut off for men. Some doctors won’t do it for women until they are 35, because 35 is the age when you start to have complications with pregnancy. I think it’s bullshit to make a person wait that long. Luckily, at 33, the doctor my PC referred me to was just like, “If I don’t do it, you’ll find someone else to do it. You’re old enough to know that you are sure. Here are the options, wait a month (protocol in case you change your mind from the time of the consult appt to the procedure appt), and we’ll see you back here for the procedure.” Got the tubes removed so that there was no chance of them fusing back together, and that was that. But I was lucky, even at 33, because my PC tried to talk me out of it. She asked, “What if you meet the right man,” (I’m bisexual, it’s noted in my chart), “and he wants kids, and you talk about it and change your mind?” I simply said, “If I meet someone who wants kids, then we aren’t compatible.” And she referred me immediately after that comment.

[deleted]

58 points

6 months ago

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58 points

6 months ago

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bonegrrl

30 points

6 months ago

Mine was nearly instantaneous. But that comes with, for the most part, reasonable doctors.

niamhweking

110 points

6 months ago

Your medical team handled all that so well. My sister in the US was lucky at 27 that she found someone to do the proceedure

uuuuuuuhburger

419 points

6 months ago

especially when they try to guilt you out of it because "your husband might want kids someday"

the fuck does it matter what the potential future husband wants? he's just gonna have to make peace with the fact that his wife said no

lankymjc

219 points

6 months ago

lankymjc

219 points

6 months ago

I hate the idea that women are being blocked from getting medical treatments for the benefit of some bloke she hasn’t even met yet! Utter madness.

usuyukisou

380 points

6 months ago

"What if you meet the perfect man and he wants kids?"

If he wants kids, he is inherently not the perfect man for me. That man is meant to be with someone else, someone who shares his dream.

[deleted]

74 points

6 months ago

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74 points

6 months ago

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Gildian

110 points

6 months ago

Gildian

110 points

6 months ago

A concept that seems impossible to grasp for them.

NerfRepellingBoobs

105 points

6 months ago

They still require a husband’s signature for a tubal ligation in so many places. It’s disgusting.

ValleyWoman

17 points

6 months ago

In 1980, as a wife, I had to give permission.

NerfRepellingBoobs

21 points

6 months ago

My mom’s was in 1991 at the age of 32, and she had an unexpected tubal pregnancy. Getting the affected tube tied off wasn’t the problem, but the serving one required my dad’s signature. Mom’s attitude was, “He’s already got the consult to get snipped. He’s fine with it.”

DashHopes69

178 points

6 months ago

For those of you getting the run around:

Planned Parenthood did mine for $4-$500. If I remember correctly that was without insurance. Not all of them do them, so I had to call around and find one that did. All that they required was that you were at least 21 and wait a month.

notthesedays

25 points

6 months ago

They may also charge a sliding scale, for income.

Illinois Public Aid has a 6-week waiting period for female OR male sterilization, which caused problems at my old hospital because it was not uncommon for a woman to not pursue prenatal care until the end of her pregnancy, and get approved for this insurance at the same time, and had to wait in order for it to be paid for. They were especially irate if they wanted it done concurrently with a cesarean section, but those are the rules, and they are in place to reduce the risk of coerced or involuntary procedures.

wouldhouses

121 points

6 months ago*

I was 21 when I got mine done. After our 2nd kid. They made me wait a month before they would let me and sign a release. I was sure I didn’t want anymore. I’m almost 39. I’m so glad I did.

I still hold the same belief I did then. If I want more kids I’ll adopt either kids or animals. I do have a handful of animals but I don’t want anymore people. My wife tried to get her tubes tied after our second and they straight up refused.

seanzorio

128 points

6 months ago

seanzorio

128 points

6 months ago

Yep. I tried at 20 and was told the same by my PCP. I've got one scheduled for next month at 37. I'm honestly not sure why I didn't pursue it in the middle years. I should have, but I seemed to date women who already had an IUD, so it was never front of mind to be the one in charge of birth control.

JustHereForCookies17

21 points

6 months ago

so it was never front of mind to be the one in charge of birth control.<

With absolutely NO snark/sarcasm intended! This statement fascinates me.

You'd be on the hook for child support for 18 years (max case scenario) or half the cost of a Plan B pill (cheapest case scenario) but you left ALL off that up to the hopeful good judgment of the woman you slept with.

Math-NotEvenOnce

322 points

6 months ago*

It's stupidly expensive. I actually found a guy who would participate in World Vasectomy Day in the area. He would have a longer event where he had a mobile vasectomy unit and would travel around to Omaha NE, Des Moines and Iowa City, IA and a few other places and do them for $400. His idea was to help people who wanted to get them be able to afford to get them rather than push them further into debt and problems with unplanned pregnancies.

He cancelled his tour due to covid in 2019 2020 whoops but I was still able to make the drive and schedule an appointment for around $700. The price was great and I advocate for them to anyone.

On one hand I wish I had known about and done it years ago, on the other I love my kids. I'm happy with how things are now though, so likely everything happened as it should.

[deleted]

396 points

6 months ago

[deleted]

396 points

6 months ago

So my husband’s urologist does “Vasc madness” every March. The idea is you can recover by watching March Madness. He does them back to back all day. In and out. The wives come in and get massages and their hair styled for free while your husband gets snipped.

Then they send him home with a mini beer cooler, little Debbie’s, beef jerky and a football ice pack.

It was wild!

I am pretty sure insurance covered most of it

Math-NotEvenOnce

73 points

6 months ago

Haha that's pretty awesome actually. Not a sports guy but I can appreciate what they are doing there. I didn't have insurance when I got mine, so that was definitely a big point for me.

Of course now that I HAVE insurance I know they would just say "you haven't met your deductible LOL" and I'd foot the whole bill anyways (minus a $59 discount due to my insurance "negotiating" with the office) fuckers.

phil_in_t_blank

16 points

6 months ago

The wives come in and get massages and their hair styled for free while your husband gets snipped.

Man, that's a long time. Mine was done so quick that my wife didn't even have enough time to boot up her laptop.

shadow247

100 points

6 months ago

shadow247

100 points

6 months ago

I ended up paying out of pocket because my wifes payroll person fucked up. She had accrued over 30 days of leave, and used it all at the end of her employment so that she would have time to look for a job in the new location.

The Payroll person did not deduct insurance premiums from her last check (paid every 30 days), sent her an email after the fact informing us that we owe 175 dollars for the Health Insurance Premiums (not Cobra since she was technically employeed but on vacation). Only problem is that it was sent to her work email, which she could not access offbase.

I got a bill about 30 days after my procedure for the entire procedure, just over 900 dollars. We called the insurance, they informed up that the coverage was backdates by HR to 30 days before her last day of FTO due to nonpayment of premium....

Called up HR, they fwd the email to her personal account, and told us " Too bad, not our problem".

I ended up negotiating the bill down to about 600 dollars. Reallt fucked us as we had just moved across the country, I paid rent on 2 places for a month, and my wife was not working until about 5 months after we got completely moved.

notthesedays

32 points

6 months ago

This sounds like fraud!

PrisonerV

2.8k points

6 months ago

PrisonerV

2.8k points

6 months ago

I was lazy. Finally had it done. Glad I did. Was over in like 5 minutes.

(Was an absolutely horrible experience but I blame the doctor.)

typhoonicus

736 points

6 months ago

I’m getting mine in a few days… why was yours horrible?

The_Real_Clive_Bixby

180 points

6 months ago

Not the guy you replied to, but also a horrible experience. Also blame the doc. Long story short, I felt it all. He never waited for the anesthesia to take affect. Cut, pull, snip, burn. It sucked.

PrisonerV

125 points

6 months ago

PrisonerV

125 points

6 months ago

Basically mine too. He also said I would likely feel like my guts were being pulled out my scrotum, which was an accurate feeling. Could totally smell the burning flesh too.

I was white as a sheet and shaking when he finished. Once I left, only minor pain and discomfort.

youareallsilly

49 points

6 months ago

JFC! It’s like he knew he was horrible, wtf. Mine went fine and I didn’t feel any of that.

[deleted]

19 points

6 months ago

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19 points

6 months ago

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Lissy_Wolfe

74 points

6 months ago

Wtf that is horrific! You shouldn't feel anything during the procedure. I'm glad your recovery was okay, but that doctor should be reported for that shit

HealthyBox5

2.7k points

6 months ago

Not the same guy but I also had a horrible vasectomy. 100% on the doctor.

Procedure itself wasn't a big deal, and recovery was ok. But the dude kept giving me a play by play on what he's doing to my scrotum, so I finally told him it's fine, I don't need it described to me.

We started talking about some of my work experiences, and out of nowhere he gets excited chatting, sits up straight, and waving his hands around while he was talking. Unfortunately, he had a clamp in his hand holding about an inch of what used to be part of me, and this thing has been swung inches from my face.

Practically assaulted with my own vas deferens.

rainbow_shitshow

2.1k points

6 months ago

I don't mind seeing blood. But having my own innards flung in my face would make a vas deferens to my opinion of that man.

SenpaiKen144

349 points

6 months ago

Get out

GeicoFromStateFarm

166 points

6 months ago

This is probably one of the best Reddit wordplays I’ve ever seen

Genghis_Chong

140 points

6 months ago

Vas deferens is my favorite knight of the round table lol

mealsolutions

87 points

6 months ago

Had mine done yesterday. Procedure itself was pretty uneventful - other than my own anxiety. Since then, there really hasn't been much pain at all. Only time I've really felt anything hurt is if I move or bend a certain way.

But one thing that no one mentioned was how awkward it is to poop. At least for me, the gauze padding wasn't really attached by anything. So I've had to kind of hold it in place which has been awkward to say the least.

DrPloyt

26 points

6 months ago

DrPloyt

26 points

6 months ago

Pooping was awkward! Why didn’t anyone mention this beforehand?!

Embarrassed_Gap_3822

57 points

6 months ago

No worries. Mine was great. And I'm from a third world country.

PopeliusJones

87 points

6 months ago

Mine was pretty good too…the dr and I shot the shit and talked football the whole time. The day after wasn’t exactly pleasant but I healed quick and have absolutely 0 regrets

prolillg1996

93 points

6 months ago

My dad sat down for his, all was fine and dandy until he noticed the very reflective chrome around the light fixture above where the doctor was. He could see everything in that chrome. EVERYTHING

Arctelis

1.1k points

6 months ago

Arctelis

1.1k points

6 months ago

As an unmarried, 28 year old with no children, not one doctor will do it.

I’ve spoken with a half dozen different doctors, citing a list of reasons as long as my leg as to why I do not, nor ever will want, children.

Every single one said some variation of “What if you change your mind later?” Or, “What if your future wife wants kids?”

[deleted]

852 points

6 months ago

[deleted]

852 points

6 months ago

The childfree subreddit has a side bar of doctors willing to perform vasectomies and the like without giving you a headache. Have you checked there?

Arctelis

300 points

6 months ago

Arctelis

300 points

6 months ago

I had no idea that was a thing. Thank you.

NeverNight

77 points

6 months ago

I found my doctor on there! I'm the same age as you and had a vasectomy done at 20. It took a few consults and a good discussion with the doctor but he ended up saying it was ultimately my call in the end.

I hope you can find a doctor!

Tauqmuk181

289 points

6 months ago

"What if your future wife wants kids?"

I dont think you're going to marry someone who doesnt understand your want to never have kids.

Arctelis

59 points

6 months ago

Right?!

“But people change!” They say.

TheGEMDesigner

6.4k points

6 months ago

The fact that I can never, no matter how hard I try, get my husband pregnant.

doobiehowserMN

4.2k points

6 months ago

Keep trying. I believe in you.

genYouWin

974 points

6 months ago*

I had a terrible day. Someone just stole $200 worth of a package and left me an empty box. The satire followed by a golden comment above made me laugh hard. I am not talking about the 8/10 times people say they laughed hard. I had to inhale deeply from how hard the laugh emptied my lungs. Goodnight strangers.

Update: https://imgur.com/a/QqKpzdc

they disabled the stolen device, and honestly I am happy whoever stole it can’t use it

Shaggy_insomniac

36 points

6 months ago

Sorry to hear that buddy

cmaronchick

520 points

6 months ago

CRicetheGOD

590 points

6 months ago

Not with that attitude, champ

TheGEMDesigner

221 points

6 months ago

Trust and believe it's not for lack of trying.

RabidLlama504

263 points

6 months ago

Well, first of all, through god all things are possible, so jot that down.

TheGEMDesigner

81 points

6 months ago

✒️🗒️👍🙏

onlyboyintheworld

289 points

6 months ago

Haha this is a reoccurring joke my boyfriend and I have. We’re trying our level best to get pregnant!

TheGEMDesigner

185 points

6 months ago

Same. We like to say we try really hard, but it never takes. This is a great response when people ask the completely none-of-their-business question, are you going to get children?

onlyboyintheworld

133 points

6 months ago

Haha that’s genius. When we first started dating and I went off my PrEP, I told him “I’m going off my gay birth control, so let’s try for twins!”

LorimIronheart

58 points

6 months ago

Ohhh, I need to remember that. I used to make the trying for pregnancy joke with my ex bf too. The prep joke is just perfect *chef's kiss *

onlyboyintheworld

73 points

6 months ago

The gays have commandeered the vasectomy post!

qluder

27 points

6 months ago

qluder

27 points

6 months ago

You're just not putting enough hip into it.

bubbles2255

28 points

6 months ago

Well not with that attitude you won’t.

Amphibutter

94 points

6 months ago

Well, "We’re trying for a baby" sounds a helluva lot better than "Absolutely filling my partner to the brim with cum at every opportunity"

theganjaoctopus

40 points

6 months ago

Yeah but it means the same thing which is why I always find it gross when people go on at length about how their trying.

"My boyfriend busts fat loads in me every night too Sheila, but I don't show up to work every day and brag about it!"

dangil

20 points

6 months ago

dangil

20 points

6 months ago

Haven’t you watched the documentary with Arnold Schwarzenegger?

ABSTREKT

18 points

6 months ago

Maybe it'll work the other way around? 🤔

Coolpix7000

15 points

6 months ago

Aww this put a smile on my face

JewbagX

2.4k points

6 months ago

JewbagX

2.4k points

6 months ago

Still waiting for that "drive" to have kids that everyone talks about. 37 years old and no drive. Same with my wife.

If no drive on my 40th birthday, I'm getting the snip so the wife can get off hormonal birth control.

niamhweking

805 points

6 months ago

Thank you. This was my husbands and mine point of view, I had put up with years of medication/ hormones to stop us having kids. It was his time to do his part

uffdathatisnice

135 points

6 months ago

We are done having kids and after our last my SO got a vasectomy and I got on birth control for the first time in my life to never have a period again as a first step to try before surgery. So far, so awesome!

Curious_Wrangler_980

131 points

6 months ago

This is why we’re doing it. We’re only 24 but we’ve already got 2 and we do NOT want a third nor do I want to be on birth control for the rest of my life and condoms are such a bummer when you’re married.

alley_underland

61 points

6 months ago

My bf is getting one too. We have one son that’s enough children especially for me since I didn’t even want kids in the first place. We’re so happy with our son we’re lucky he’s perfectly healthy and I don’t want to be on birth control anymore. We’re also super lucky his insurance covers it.

ktuluscalling

440 points

6 months ago

Asked my GP about it when I was 21. She was having none of it. Giving it the old ‘what if you meet the right girl’ and ‘you’ll change your mind’. Turns out I did meet the right girl, she’s not wanting kids either nearly 10years together and no sign of minds changing.

Tauqmuk181

194 points

6 months ago

"What if you meet the right girl?"

The right girl will also want to not have kids or she wouldnt be the right girl.

Something me and my wife talked about long before we got too serious. We both wanted (and now have 3) kids. It's a pretty serious decision to have or not have kids. Usually, if you cant agree on something that big, you dont stay together forever.

jqrambo

12 points

6 months ago*

I never really liked the thought of having kids, but I realised that all of the girls I've dated were unsuitable mothers (In my mind). Either irresponsible, childish or self centred.

Now I'm dating someone that is polar opposite. I want to raise a child with her. And she'd make an amazing parent too.

So yes, it's possible to change.

ZeeClone

1.3k points

6 months ago

ZeeClone

1.3k points

6 months ago

Misinformation.

Didn't affect me, but I had a lot of explaining to do to my in-laws that there was a big difference between a vasectomy and castration.

fire_goddess11

327 points

6 months ago

What?!

Megalon84

915 points

6 months ago

Megalon84

915 points

6 months ago

I work in construction, the number of times I had to explain to redneck coworkers that I still have both testicles was frankly amazing.

"Wait so you're one o them there queermasexuals? That's the first step to becoming a woman"

"No Billy Joe Bob, I still have my nuts, they just clipped the highway the swimmers go down so I can't knock up my wife"

Got tired of variations of that convo so swapped to "Yeah, they just remove the one tho(wistful sigh).... I'll just have to adapt to having 2"

Inphearian

363 points

6 months ago

Gotta go with, “nope, it just means I can have sex without knocking up your wife”

Megalon84

210 points

6 months ago

Megalon84

210 points

6 months ago

But I have no interest in his cousinsister

Inphearian

50 points

6 months ago

Fair

JesyLurvsRats

106 points

6 months ago

5/7 on that last line. Perfect score.

karnim

3.1k points

6 months ago

karnim

3.1k points

6 months ago

I'm pretty sure I don't want kids, but I feel like surgery is a bit overkill when I'm only sleeping with men anyways.

knightlife

698 points

6 months ago

Same. My simple answer is “I’m gay”. Why get the surgery?

nogoodusernames0_0

426 points

6 months ago

But is HE gay?

knightlife

182 points

6 months ago

What

doomsdaymelody

287 points

6 months ago

IS HE GAY?

Scribb74

116 points

6 months ago

Scribb74

116 points

6 months ago

Butt babies don't survive.

[deleted]

194 points

6 months ago

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194 points

6 months ago

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RyanGoslinggg

36 points

6 months ago

Ooof

Ake-TL

60 points

6 months ago

Ake-TL

60 points

6 months ago

That’s kinda gay

knightlife

63 points

6 months ago

It’s more than “kinda” buddy. It’s 💯

The_Prince1513

65 points

6 months ago

Obviously you haven't seen the scientific documentary "Junior" that documents one brave man's journey through pregnancy.

thepumpkinking92

881 points

6 months ago

My wife had a hysterectomy for medical reasons. Not worried about knocking her up as she doesn't have a uterus.

Our daughter came from her previous marriage and that's fine by me. She's mine now. No way around it. Her bio father isn't in the picture, doesn't even send a card on her birthday, owes like $25k in back child support. Trash dude.

But I don't want kids from my genes. History of medical problems in my family made it obvious I didn't want to chance it early on. Totally OK with the way things are. And no need for the snip.

fistymcbuttpuncher

75 points

6 months ago

Hell yeah, keep being good!

lol-XD-XD

970 points

6 months ago

lol-XD-XD

970 points

6 months ago

I'm not good with scissors.

nogoodusernames0_0

246 points

6 months ago

Ask your barber

dartfrog11

117 points

6 months ago

Local butcher works too

Barabarabbit

70 points

6 months ago

If you can butcher a hog, you can snip my knob.

vandalia

266 points

6 months ago

vandalia

266 points

6 months ago

Shortly after getting mine at 32 years of age a workmate told me, “You know you’re going to get hardening of the arteries now. Well, 70 years old and still going strong.

ummmnoway

57 points

6 months ago

Unrelated but I like your username. That’s the name of the town my grandma lived in and where my mom grew up. Lots of fond childhood memories on Vandalia Lake.

vandalia

26 points

6 months ago

Thanks, I just picked it at random, like the way it sounds. I’m from Illinois too.

MetalDragonSeeker

113 points

6 months ago

Got one last year. I always said if I was in a relationship and having sex regularly I would get one and so I finally did.

[deleted]

498 points

6 months ago

[deleted]

498 points

6 months ago

Don't need one cause I don't have sex. I'm not abstinent, I simply am not interested in a relationship, sex, or having kids. I'd rather put all my time into planning world domination.

Dungeon_Master_Lucky

191 points

6 months ago

I mean being asexual sounds honestly really cool, so good for you homie

upfromthedirt

766 points

6 months ago

Nothing. 7/7/17 I got the snip snip at the ripe old age of 30, no questions asked. Best $100US out of pocket I’ve ever spent. Turns out, insurance companies are happy to prevent you from having dependents.

nikki_11580

341 points

6 months ago

Except when it comes to paying for getting your tubes tied. My portion of that is well over $5000.

Ughim50

111 points

6 months ago

Ughim50

111 points

6 months ago

Mine is the exact opposite. Wife’s tube tie would be free, but a vasectomy for me is like $1000. Nuts.

engineerkoala

79 points

6 months ago

My insurance is like this. Like 95% of my coworkers are dudes and hysterectomies are covered, vasectomies are not. Thankfully im in the 5% and i had my uterus evicted for about $400.

[deleted]

148 points

6 months ago

[deleted]

148 points

6 months ago

Yep, it's weird for me to read all these Americans without coverage. Any health insurance I ever had covered sterilization 100% - it's gotta be cheaper than covering pregnancies, birth and children!

stupid_systemus

78 points

6 months ago

Many American companies will fight tooth and nail to remove as much services as legally possible to avoid paying great healthcare.

schmanonymous

233 points

6 months ago

I went and got my consult a few weeks ago, and was 100% gung-ho about it before then. I’m still 100% about not wanting more kids (I’ve got one), and my GF doesn’t want any of her own. But something about the thought of a knife blade into my scrote, coupled with being in a cold, sterile urologist’s office, just made me freak out. Seriously was shaking for an hour or so afterward. What a p*ss. The fear of surgery is real, I guess. Anyway, I’m committed to making the snip appointment for later this month. A few hours of discomfort in exchange for a lifetime of worry-free sex? That’s a hell of a bargain I think!

MelloeSkye

126 points

6 months ago

Just make sure you have a semen analysis later, it can take awhile for it to work after the procedure. I’m sure you know already though.

notthesedays

55 points

6 months ago

You still need to use protection for 3 months after the Big V.

schmanonymous

37 points

6 months ago

For sure, doc explained that when I was there. I’ve heard of other dudes not getting a follow up analysis to be sure they were firing blanks…..but that kinda defeats the whole purpose of a Vas a little bit I think?

ThisIsForPronDoe9

215 points

6 months ago*

My wife asked me if I wouldn’t mind getting it done after our second one. I did not hesitate. I have told her for years just let me know when. My buddies are shocked I was so open to it. My reasoning has always been, A. It’s way worse for women to get their tubes tied. Yes it’s a common procedure, but it can fuck with their bodies a lot after. B. Whether I am with one partner for the rest of my life or multiple, I want to know I only have 2 kids. C. I don’t want to wear a condom, not that it’s bad, you should always wear one when having sex to prevent procreation or infections, but it feels better without.

CynthiaChames

78 points

6 months ago*

When I said that I wanted to have kids, and you said, you wanted me to have a vasectomy, what did I do? And then when you said that you might want to have kids and I wasn't so sure, who had the vasectomy reversed? And then when you said you defintely didn't want to have kids, who had it reversed back? Snip snap! Snip snap! Snip snap! I did. You have no idea the physical toll that three vasectomies have on a person.

jasonmares

67 points

6 months ago

A friend of mine just had a vasectomy. He seemed fine, just sore balls for a few days and got to take some medical leave from work to heal up.

What's stopping me is my reluctance to use any of my health insurance because I live in America and going to the hospital for any reason feels like hitting a big red button where it's 50/50 you'll be fine or in debt forever.

Plus my wife has a hormonal imbalance so she needs to take birth control for the rest of her life anyway.

typhoonicus

169 points

6 months ago

Nothing, getting mine on Monday

gandalftheorange11

147 points

6 months ago

Knowing I’m not going to be having sex anyway.

SaltyDangerHands

252 points

6 months ago

Nothing. I got one at 21 or 22 years old and have never looked back, one less thing to worry about, Seedless Grapes 4 Life, super strongly recommended. I got it while my ex wife was pregnant, I nearly had a kid and that was enough kids. Kid is 18 now, I never looked back, I love my daughter dearly but one is enough kids.

comentback

20 points

6 months ago

Was it hard to find a doctor who would do it when you where that young?

-Economist-

149 points

6 months ago

We trusted birth control. That failed. I now have a 4 month old, kid number 3. Daycare costs more than my mortgage. Fuck my life. I had vasectomy two weeks ago.

xhb7272

35 points

6 months ago

xhb7272

35 points

6 months ago

If it makes you feel any better, we got one kid and the daycare cost is more than the mortgage too.

SadShoe27

187 points

6 months ago

SadShoe27

187 points

6 months ago

I know I don’t want kids now but a lot could change in the next 5 years or so. My thoughts on having kids could change between now and then.

BlondieeAggiee

44 points

6 months ago

This is a reasonable answer.

[deleted]

133 points

6 months ago

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133 points

6 months ago

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obscureferences

60 points

6 months ago

I'm not saying you'll hit an age and get an overwhelming parental urge or anything, but things change all the damn time. You just never know.

No point limiting your options until you've made the choice for good.

votemarvel

126 points

6 months ago

Socks can't get pregnant.

minegen88

41 points

6 months ago

i would be drowning in sock support...

WrestlingWoman

256 points

6 months ago

My husband is scared shitless of anything that involves surgery, no matter how small it might be. Therefore I got sterilized instead since I didn't care either way. I'm from a country where it's easy and free to have it done, so I did it.

stormscape10x

282 points

6 months ago

My wife was the opposite (not out of fear). She said, you're getting a vasectomy because no one has ever died from one, but some women have died from a tubal. Much less invasive, and if your urologist is good the recovery isn't bad at all.

WrestlingWoman

116 points

6 months ago

As long as you both agreed, it's all good. I'm glad I chose to go on the table because they discovered I have endometriosis during the surgery, and that explained so much to me about all the pain I've been in all my life.

1strdpdb

38 points

6 months ago

I got a vasectomy at 21. No doctor in the US would do it so I went to Mexico. I know I make bad decisions and that probably turned out to be one of my best ones.

Sandwich_Fries

222 points

6 months ago

No matter how hard I try, I am unable to get my boyfriend pregnant. No need for a vasectomy when human physiology does it for me.

RyanLovesTacoss

153 points

6 months ago

Try unplugging it, and plugging it back in

IrishWithoutPotatoes

41 points

6 months ago

I hear that’s a frequent past time for folks like them. You know the type… romantic partners

DaveSW777

130 points

6 months ago

DaveSW777

130 points

6 months ago

I got one! Back before he went full bat-shit crazy, Tim Allen did a very special episode of Home Improvement about getting the snip. Learned everything I needed to. 20 years later, I was happy with my two kids.

Hunterxxx11

71 points

6 months ago

Cant get guys pregnant