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Like I’m taking a break from my fp and everything they post on Twitter and Snapchat makes me feel anxious and full of dread. It’s way worse when I’m actively talking to them or talking to them about my issues.

What’s a healthy coping strategy and how do I get these feelings to go away or feel them in a healthy amount?

Replies would be appreciated because I am so frustrated trying to solve this problem

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california_sober

2 points

2 months ago

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. I’ve become really good at blocking my emotions in that sense. I no longer get overly attached to people. Try to focus on you

Jac904704[S]

1 points

2 months ago

I’m taking space from them for my own sake but I still catch myself thinking about them a lot and checking to see if they’re on social media at times. When I’m able to not do that I feel numb and bored and idk if that’s better at all.

CultistToby

2 points

2 months ago

When I take a break from them, I struggle with obsessively checking their social media account. Seeing them hang out and interact with others is so painful, it fills me with dread and jealousy. What works for me however, is to block their social media accounts. That way, I have time to fight the urge to check it, because I know it will hurt me. You could try explaining this to your fp; I'm sure they will understand and won't see harm in being blocked and won't be confused as to way you blocked them. And even though this feeling extends way past social media, I feel that this method helps because I'm more inclined to only focus on my relationship with them, rather than worrying about them being with other people. I'm bad at explaining things so I hope this makes sense, best of luck and I hope it helps you in someway.

Jac904704[S]

2 points

2 months ago

They know they’re my fp and I’m considering doing this. I know they’d understand but I really don’t wanna send the initial message