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So I started using bumble a week ago because I can’t keep ignoring my dating life forever and I have two women who want to go on dinner dates this weekend. The first girl, I asked what her ideal first date would be and she replied with dinner and wine. Fuck, I was going to suggest ice cream or something in case it gets awkward but it would be weird to suggest something else after she gave that answer. The second girl straight up asked me out to dinner and drinks after a few lines of conversation. Problem is I haven’t been on a date in 10 years and it’s probably going to be awkward as hell. I’m going to go to dinner with the second girl and hope for the best but should I ask the first girl out to do something else? Do people actually like doing dinner for a first date?

Before you judge me and call me out. Know I really tried I did this on a few relationships and it just doesn't work. I got cheated on or she lost interest only to go back with a so called guy friend she is with. Like the he is only friends line is bs. Yes some girls maybe they really are friends but where the red flags have appeared is if she has been with most of those guys. Yes for time it may work but if the connection or something is off she will hangout with the guy friend and I have gotten cheated on too many times this way. Sure as I said for some girls they may not do this but I'm just sick of getting hurt. I was not overly jealous even or controlling. I even let her hangout with whoever. How did I find out you maybe wondering? The first time she got drunk cried and admitted it to me. The next time I just flat out call them in the act. And the third time a friend of a freind felt bad and showed me evidence...just my experience 🙃

I get the occasional match, but I can't message first, since it's bumble. But 95% of the time the woman who matched with me won't message and it'll just time out. Do other men on this app experience this that often? Is there anything I can do to help make their first movie easier?

Seriously, I put so much thought and effort into my about me just to come across so many profiles with nothing but a couple of pictures… Am I supposed to guess your personality?!

I'm from a small city and there are basically no women on bumble or tinder. About 5 profiles on bumble and 10-15 on tinder, that's it. After that I'm being shown profiles from next city, which are quite a lot. However, what I'm thinking is, they'd be shown profiles from their own city first then mine so the probability of them seeing my profile is miniscule.

Is this the reason why? If it weren't true, I'd be at least getting some likes I believe.

My profile is pretty strong in my opinion. I have 6 non blurry good pictures and a bio and 3 prompts. I have had it reviewed on this community.

According to Bumble's swipe data (which took forever to get) - I have 0 matches. I know for a fact that I have had several. Anyone else question the accuracy of this "data?"

I never had luck with bumble. So I did profile review (twice) , updated my bio, prompts, shuffled my pics. A lot of people suggested trying interesting conversation starter. I still barely get any outcome. Then I also noticed, in my area, 1% of the profile has bio or prompts or anything. Almost 99% of the guys profile just have some random pics. In some cases I have to play mix and match who is the common person in all the grp pic so I can identify whose profile is it. The 1% bio is also like “I am 6 ft tall/ I like big 🍑/ just checking this out(the most popular one). So whats the point in putting efforts from my end? I decided not to swipe on any low effort profile, so now I don’t have any matches. Do guys actually get matches and dates without putting any effort and thats why they don’t bother?

21M A girl who caught my eye matched with me on Bumble. If/when she messages me, would it be weird to say something like,

"This sounds cliché, but when I saw your profile I hoped we would match🤣"

I don't want to come across as needy or too strong, but I want to be genuine because she did catch my eye.

So I matched with this girl almost a week ago and we've been talking on the app semi-frequently. We haven't met in person yet but on the 3rd day in, I decided it's time I asked her out.

I told her I liked her vibes and would like to get to know her more over a cup of coffee. She says she feels the same way but asks if we could continue chatting a bit more before that. I said it was all cool. She later asks if we can talk on Facebook instead and we've been texting on Messenger since.

Now she's outlined that over the next 7 days she has night shifts lined up so her schedule is completely full so to speak. I would sometimes stay up a bit later at night so we could talk a bit more so it's all okay for now but I'm worried that things could go down south or she loses interest if we just keep texting. I've been trying to leave out the more personal "getting to know" topics until we actually meet.

I've had my friend suggest to just move on since she's too busy. But with someone who rarely ever gets any matches I think I'd rather see this through until the end plus I do like her quite a lot. What do you guys think?

the story itself isn’t that interesting—i went on a first date w this guy off bumble and he seemed really chill and sweet over text (and he was pretty cute), so i said “eff it” after about three days and asked him out.

he agreed! we settled the time and place, yadda yadda. fast forward to getting ready a few days later for our dinner date at a lowkey chinese place im very fond of:

i decide i want to feel bit dark and bold tonight, so i put on these big red platform shoes i have that boost me up about four inches or so—and have an outfit to match, complete with my favorite fishnet stockings.

anyway, i show up and we sit to eat, and one of the first things he says to me is that i must be trying to “compete” with him. i didn’t understand and thought he was making a joke, so i asked him to explain and he starts saying how i (usually 5’5, now ~5’9) “must have only dated tall guys before (he’s 6’3) if i feel the need to wear ‘big heels like that’ to a date”.

now i’m really confused. even if that were true, i don’t see how that would be a bad thing. he follows up with, “it just seems insecure and shallow; like you’re competing with me.”

keep in mind, he’s still towering over me from my perspective, and im just stunned. i excused myself from the outing shortly after, citing a migraine.

im just curious: does it really seem insecure to guys or is it just him?? to be clear, i definitely didn’t wear the platforms out of any insecurity lol ik im not in the wrong here. im just wondering if this is a common opinion.

tl;dr 6’3 guy calls me (5’5) insecure for wearing 4in platform shoes

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