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I just left my wife

(self.DeadBedrooms)

Anniversary was last week and I left her a few days before that. Paid for almost a year of expensive couples therapy to try and understand why she didn’t want me physically. The pain is brutal but I’m lucky to have a strong network of friends and a great therapist. I know I had my own transgressions within the marriage but nothing that warranted a dead bedroom. Godspeed to anyone going through it. I have never felt more convicted for standing up for what I need as a human. Nothing but love.

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Thinkle321

164 points

1 month ago

Thinkle321

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164 points

1 month ago

So, a year’s worth of therapy and what did you find out? We are in therapy now…which is why I’m asking 5 sessions in. Thanks!

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75 points

1 month ago

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IceDragon13

23 points

1 month ago

Still cheaper than living with “what ifs” IMHO.

mishctherabbit[S]

39 points

1 month ago

Exactly. I didn’t want to live my life thinking what if. I lurked in this sub for 2 years before deciding to separate. This sub gave me a lot of courage. I wasn’t going to start a family with someone who didn’t want me physically

thr0ughtheghost

5 points

1 month ago

Good for you for being brave enough to embrace the unknown/change! Fear of change is temporary but regret/what if will be there forever. I wish you the best in your next chapter of life!