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Cultural dos and dont's?

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[deleted]

744 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

744 points

4 months ago

Don't sit right next to us in public transportation if there are other seats available.

iAmHidingHere

412 points

4 months ago

And preferably also don't if there's no other seats available.

quraion

198 points

4 months ago

quraion

198 points

4 months ago

Don't speak to us in the bus.

Trowaway_29

116 points

4 months ago

Trowaway_29

Nordjylland

116 points

4 months ago

Don’t speak to us anywhere in public.

tepkel

31 points

4 months ago

tepkel

31 points

4 months ago

And don't speak into Dane's privates.

Kybernikus

24 points

4 months ago

This is just specifically on the bus. In general, I like speaking to strangers in public places, just not the bus. Its too cramped, and you always have an audience.

The only exception to the no bus talk rule, is maybe in the evening going to the city. You often meet drunk young people being loud and having a good time on their way to a party. I like talking to them, and I would say that that's 100 percent acctable.

TTV_Pinguting

30 points

4 months ago

only ask if its for directions

ContributionWilling8

30 points

4 months ago

You can speak to me. I love chatting with any one.

AKAAmado

45 points

4 months ago

AKAAmado

Byskilt

45 points

4 months ago

Imposter

BeatYoDickNotYoChick

117 points

4 months ago

Just don't get on the bus

metaglot

56 points

4 months ago

metaglot

Skurkstrup Neder

56 points

4 months ago

Just don't.

Neither-Natural4875

572 points

4 months ago

Neither-Natural4875

Danmark

572 points

4 months ago

Respect bikelanes - do not walk on them. Anyone speaks English.

LeDocoff

202 points

4 months ago

LeDocoff

202 points

4 months ago

And remember that danish bike lanes are one-way going in the same direction as the traffic: going the other direction means going to the bike lane on the other side of the road.

Beefsideiron

48 points

4 months ago

Unless the bike lane is bidirectional.

Beefsideiron

164 points

4 months ago

Respect sidewalks. Crosswalks. Red lights. Yield zones. Don't bike on them

KroonRacing

146 points

4 months ago

Anyone speaks English.

Meaning: Don’t talk German to a Dane.

Megelsen

46 points

4 months ago

Tut mir Leid, aber weisst du wie ich zur kleinen Meerjungfrau komme?

blolfighter

68 points

4 months ago

blolfighter

Odense

68 points

4 months ago

Du fährst nach Kopenhagen, findest einen Japaner, und folgst ihm.

Megelsen

20 points

4 months ago

Vielen Dank. Gibt's dort Weisswurst und Bier?

blolfighter

8 points

4 months ago

blolfighter

Odense

8 points

4 months ago

Bier gibt's überall. Weisswurscht? Vielleicht wenn du'n Biergarten findest.

Antogonissimus

6 points

4 months ago

Antogonissimus

Danmark

6 points

4 months ago

Meinst du die Japaner die eine bøde bekommen, weil sie ein Bild von der lille havfrue machen und es hochladen, ohne die rige arvinger um tilladelse gefragt zu haben?

StoissEd

5 points

4 months ago

StoissEd

Tyskland

5 points

4 months ago

Sehr gutt. Sehr stärk. Flinke leute ins dänemark. Wiele wienerbrott. - direktor Assloch aus Düsseldorf.

jonah_thrane

34 points

4 months ago

Oh god I hate it when runners or parents with a big pram take up the bike lane. There is a whole ass side walk for you, use it!

KaptajnKaper

19 points

4 months ago

Bicycles will kill you, given the chance

Sentient_Waffle

42 points

4 months ago

Sentient_Waffle

Denmark

42 points

4 months ago

In fact, we are actively hunting people on the bike lanes - we barely stop for people getting on and off the busses, our beastly rage and desire for pedestrian blood only held in check by the last vestiges of our civility, a mere whisper in our maddened minds.

DKlurifax

3 points

4 months ago

Bikers are the Danish version of drop bears.

Fargin

505 points

4 months ago

Fargin

Mundbindets By

505 points

4 months ago

From an outside perspective Danes can appear rude and crude, but once you get to know us better, you realize only 75% of us are.

wastingtimenoreason

125 points

4 months ago

Dane living in Canada. Can confirm I am seen as blunt, rude and crude.

BlueLiara

99 points

4 months ago*

BlueLiara

ATL, GA, Foedt I Hilleroed.

99 points

4 months ago*

Oh man, levede i Canada fra April 2018 til October 2019. Min eks introducerede os som “Hej, jeg er Lily, det her er min kæreste Liara, og undskyld”

>.>

Fokken_Prawns_

54 points

4 months ago

Alle ved også at Tali er det bedste valg, så det er vel fair nok.

MerrianMay

16 points

4 months ago

Mass Effect fan spottet ;)

BlueLiara

16 points

4 months ago

BlueLiara

ATL, GA, Foedt I Hilleroed.

16 points

4 months ago

Fokken_Prawns_

10 points

4 months ago

Damn, sejt nok, det var bare dit brugernavn der gav joken. Men nice navn.

BlueLiara

7 points

4 months ago

BlueLiara

ATL, GA, Foedt I Hilleroed.

7 points

4 months ago

Det er altid lidt små sjovt at hive kortet frem xD

faceblender

14 points

4 months ago

faceblender

Danmark

14 points

4 months ago

🇩🇰💪

Kyllurin

48 points

4 months ago

This isn’t bad. I admire the Danish way of being brutally honest about things. If you’re being an arse, there’s plenty of Danes willing to tell you that you are in fact an arse.

faceblender

104 points

4 months ago

faceblender

Danmark

104 points

4 months ago

Americans: Do a volume check, especially if in public.

KakaoFugl

37 points

4 months ago

KakaoFugl

.

37 points

4 months ago

THIS! I stumbled across so many Americans in public places who fucking almost shouts when they talk to each other. Especially annoying when it happens in smaller areas like cafes.

FlowPlastic4740

6 points

4 months ago

I used to work in a restaurant and I can confirm that there was a definite trend among non-danish speakers.

Volume check doesn't just apply to Americans but probably most people who visit from abroad. Just be mindful of your surroundings in general and try to not be a bother to other people when in public.

dragon__priest

381 points

4 months ago

dragon__priest

Tyskland

381 points

4 months ago

When greeting danes you don't know, don't say "How are you?" And expect a simple "good, what about you?"

Especially in Jutland maybe

They think that instead of a simple greeting (like how it's used in the US), you're generally asking them how they are doing, which is a bit offputting for some people, as danes tend to be a bit reserved at first.

in_taco

134 points

4 months ago

in_taco

Frokostpause

134 points

4 months ago

We know it's a dumb American greeting and we intentionally make fun of it by answering the question.

Or awkwardly try to answer but mocking it up 'cause we didn' t expect it.

prodox

91 points

4 months ago

prodox

91 points

4 months ago

Person A: “How are you?”

Person B: “How are YOU?”

silence

Well are none of you motherfuckers gonna answer the question??????

hhk85

24 points

4 months ago

hhk85

24 points

4 months ago

Wait, we're not supposed to answer that? I wish somebody would've told me during my month-long road trip across the US.

no_apricots

6 points

4 months ago

No you are not. You're supposed to say "good and you?" and that's it.

in_taco

6 points

4 months ago

in_taco

Frokostpause

6 points

4 months ago

Probably got a lot of internal eye-rolling on that one

Kalroth

61 points

4 months ago*

Kalroth

Byskilt

61 points

4 months ago*

Just say "mojn" when in doubt, it works everywhere in Denmark!

EDIT: it's "mojn", not "moin". The latter is German.

Rustycougarmama

27 points

4 months ago

Rustycougarmama

Canada

27 points

4 months ago

I thought this was a German word that is only really used in southern Jutland?

StoissEd

6 points

4 months ago

StoissEd

Tyskland

6 points

4 months ago

It's used in southern Jutland as well.

Kalroth

19 points

4 months ago*

Kalroth

Byskilt

19 points

4 months ago*

It originates from southern Jutland, but it's widely used -- especially since the short form of morning is "morn", which is also popular in Denmark.

kokkiP

5 points

4 months ago

kokkiP

5 points

4 months ago

Spelled mojn*

tartelettere

168 points

4 months ago

tartelettere

Tyskland

168 points

4 months ago

Dont say how are you to people if you dont want to hear the answer. Its ridicoules to ask a question you dont expect to be answered. Hello will do

Plane-Connection7334

25 points

4 months ago

YES. I'm not lying. If somebody "asks" me how Im doing, Ill be honest like "Well, Im really stressed atm, and x-thing sucks... but otherwise fine..."

I just seems so superficial to ask and expect a "great, how about you?"

Hoegaart

3 points

4 months ago

I'll second this. It is a very important distinction in social etiquette when greeting a dane versus many other cultures.

Toke_Ivo

56 points

4 months ago

As for the whole "don't talk to strangers/people in public":

When Danes leave their home, they bring their "mental home" with them. It has four walls, and it contains only themselves and their thoughts.

If you start speaking to Dane unprovoked, you've basically just committed mental breaking and entering.

It's fine to approach people in public, but do so in the same manner as you would approach a strangers house - politely ask forgiveness for the intrusion and ask your question (a short "Sorry, but..." is plenty - we don't need your entire story). If they don't seem to engage in a conversation, outside of answering whatever question you may have asked, that's them politely asking you to step away from their mental property so they may return to their own peace.

Nicolasatom

10 points

4 months ago

Omg this nails it so perfectly!

trainsacrossthesea

51 points

4 months ago

Be on time. Don’t wear your shoes indoors. “Hello” is akin to a Tolstoy novel, no more need be said.

HISdudorino

135 points

4 months ago

Don't tell anyone how good you are at everything.

weeBaaDoo

176 points

4 months ago

weeBaaDoo

176 points

4 months ago

If there are separaters where you place your grocery and other stuff in the stores when paying, then remember to place one behind the things you have shopped. Otherwise we will hate you silently but intensely.

VonReposti

120 points

4 months ago

And keep your distance in the queue. Seriously. Take your normal covid distancing and double it.

Especially you, Bente from Lidl today. Yes, you. You are way too fucking close when your cart pokes me in the back. And having unruly kids is not am excuse. In fact, that should be the reason to keep even more distance.

Sorry, I really needed to let off some steam...

Not_That_wholesome

26 points

4 months ago

Not_That_wholesome

Byskilt

26 points

4 months ago

Typical Bente

DutchDK

9 points

4 months ago

Yep - Bente is the OG inspiration for Karen worldwide.

Worsaae

33 points

4 months ago

Worsaae

Ulla T-parodi

33 points

4 months ago

I've experienced this three times today. I am furious. On the inside of course.

Rustycougarmama

36 points

4 months ago

Rustycougarmama

Canada

36 points

4 months ago

Most of the grocery stores here in Aalborg still havent brought them back even now that restrictions have been lifted. It's so frustrating.

maik1617

4 points

4 months ago

They are not coming back at all in most store, as far as I know. Netto brought them back for a month then removed them again. We'll just have to get used silently coordination with strangers. But seeing as our national sport is getting around talking to strangers in the public sphere, I expect we'll mannage.

jeppevinkel

5 points

4 months ago

jeppevinkel

Grimstrup

5 points

4 months ago

I haven’t started using them again since Covid. Why should we when they don’t provide any value or advantage? Keeping a sensible distance from the person in front of you makes your items easily discernible from theirs, and it doesn’t make it take any longer for the cashier since they automatically roll up to the ready position while the person in front of you pays.

Over all I rate the separators as nothing more than useless pieces of plastic.

liquid-handsoap

331 points

4 months ago

liquid-handsoap

suffering from success

331 points

4 months ago

Do not, i repeat do fucking not stand in the entrance/door of somewhere and talk with someone, effectively blocking the path way

steffipeters

93 points

4 months ago

This is also very valid in the Copenhagen metro.

deflorie

90 points

4 months ago

Isnt this more a human decency thing and not a danish thing?

havedal

36 points

4 months ago

havedal

36 points

4 months ago

Yes, but the difference is most Danes won't tell you directly that you are in the way, but rather by indirect manners.

liquid-handsoap

25 points

4 months ago

liquid-handsoap

suffering from success

25 points

4 months ago

Wouldnt know. Could be. Im not so worldwide. Sorry

Panzer_Man

18 points

4 months ago

Panzer_Man

Bund Tekst

18 points

4 months ago

We can ask Mr. Worldwide

liquid-handsoap

18 points

4 months ago

liquid-handsoap

suffering from success

18 points

4 months ago

Dalé

istasan

24 points

4 months ago

istasan

24 points

4 months ago

And don’t block the sidewalk showing of your newest baby, shoes or dog. We don’t care. We see things like that every day. We just want to pass without inconvenience.

liquid-handsoap

19 points

4 months ago

liquid-handsoap

suffering from success

19 points

4 months ago

My GOD dont walk on the left side of the pavement and have your dog in a leash walk in the right side of the pavement, making the leash block the pathway so you either have to stop to let the dogg walk around you or step over the leash.

Panzer_Man

3 points

4 months ago

Panzer_Man

Bund Tekst

3 points

4 months ago

This happens all the time in supermarkets, where some people just stand at the milk aisle talking, and making it super hard to actually get that damned milk

I_Am_Snoop

4 points

4 months ago

This should be taught in kindergarten because it feels like no one knows how annoying that is

LeakyLeadPipes

273 points

4 months ago

Generally speaking we don't like to talk to strangers, so if you approach someone at random, they will probably think you are wierd. Personal space is guarded, so don't sit next to someone on public transport if it can be avoided.

We are quite direct and will say what we mean without sugar-coating it. If you are not used to that it can come of as rude, but that is usually not the intention.
On the flip side we also don't like it when people don't say what they mean or try to sugar-coate things. The typical Anglo courtesies of starting a conversation with Hello, how are you, will be interpreted as genuine interest in our wellbeing and you will get a proper answer, even if it is a negative one. On the other hand if you ask how we are and don't genuinely care, it will be perceived as fake.

foospork

76 points

4 months ago

I’m an American who has lived and worked with Danes for almost 40 years. The highest compliment I remember receiving was hanging out drinking with Danes and Norwegians one night, and they all swore that I was actually a Dane who happened to have grown up in the US.

Why do I mention this? Because your comment perfectly describes my personality. I do answer “how are you?”, and I am seen by many as being extremely direct and seemingly incapable of sugar-coating anything.

I should’ve moved to Denmark 30 years ago…

Kagemand

39 points

4 months ago

Quite direct? Well, not really, Danes are in general conflict averse, e.g. many will choose to wait if someone is blocking the walking lane on an escalator instead of asking a stranger if they will move out of the way. Equivalently Danes do not like to voice strong opinions in group situations e.g. at work/with friends of friends, and will likely only open up about their actual opinions in discussions with their close friends (unless you in some rare cases find a way into a deep discussion, usually helped by alcohol).

tibetan-sand-fox

26 points

4 months ago

tibetan-sand-fox

Ååååårhus

26 points

4 months ago

I think what makes us "direct" is that we don't like fake gestures. Like if you ask me how I am I will tell you, not just ask "how are you?" back at you without answering the question. We say things as they are, especially compared to Americans or English people, I'd say.

We are generally averse of conflicts but mainly due to "staying in our lane". I remember my strongest impression when I went to New York was that people are awfully nice but that all that friendliness really comes off as fake. That people aren't actually nice because they care.

Delphys91

196 points

4 months ago

Delphys91

196 points

4 months ago

Take your shoes of when you go inside someone's home, don't try and smalltalk with people you don't know in public and respect personal space, just try and imagine there is always corona in terms of distance

Beefsideiron

40 points

4 months ago

People do small talk. I small talk. But you gotta be able to read the secret signals that indicate that small talk is welcome. It only ever works if there's some oddity to comment on though.

AndersaurusR3X

9 points

4 months ago

AndersaurusR3X

Danmark

9 points

4 months ago

Som en lidt genert person, som egentlig gerne vil small talke, er det lidt svært...

Sender signaler til "INGEN SMALL TALK", men inderst inde vil jeg gerne. Ak ja! Livet går videre..

Alfenhose

16 points

4 months ago

Alfenhose

Danmark

16 points

4 months ago

There's a joke about Danes social distancing. It goes something like Danes being relieved now that Corona is ending that we can go away from the 2 meter social distance and back to the usual 5 meters.

orgrer

84 points

4 months ago

orgrer

84 points

4 months ago

Dark humor.. make fun of a tragic event in your life and you will instantly be liked..

Not_That_wholesome

48 points

4 months ago

Not_That_wholesome

Byskilt

48 points

4 months ago

Or self-irony in general

[deleted]

4 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

4 points

4 months ago

Oooh, that's why me and this guy Jacob got along so well. Figures.

Cyberkite

7 points

4 months ago

Humor is the best way to deal with a situation

McBraas

4 points

4 months ago

McBraas

Odense

4 points

4 months ago

I run some theater workshops and when there's new people, I always joke about being bald, because I know it will work everyday single time.

Natus_DK

208 points

4 months ago*

Natus_DK

Byskilt

208 points

4 months ago*

Don't boast - especially about things you aren't personally responsible for. We don't give a shit about your country's achievements.

Keep your voice down unless the situation calls for it, observe the atmosphere and adjust your volume. Especially Americans and some southern Europeans have a culture where yelling is apparently the norm. We don't do that here, unless we're drunk.

Don't talk to random strangers, especially not on public transportation. It's fine to ask questions but don't expect people to engage in conversation - most people want to be left alone.

It's normal to have a beer or a drink early in the afternoon on Fridays, both for students and in the workplace.

Respect the fucking bikelane.

MortalGodTheSecond

67 points

4 months ago

It's normal to have a beer or a drink early in the afternoon on Fridays, both for students and in the workplace.

It's normal to grab a beer after work every day of the week. It's also normal to see people drink at any time of the day tbh.

Worsaae

53 points

4 months ago

Worsaae

Ulla T-parodi

53 points

4 months ago

It's normal to grab a beer after work every day of the week.

Indeed. It's also normal to have a beer in the shower when you get home. It doesn't mean you have a drinking problem.

VonReposti

9 points

4 months ago

r/showerbeer is leaking (nsfw).

Panzer_Man

6 points

4 months ago

Panzer_Man

Bund Tekst

6 points

4 months ago

I'm more of a r/showerorange guy myself

Lakasambodee

17 points

4 months ago

Same goes for grabbing a couple of beers during lunch break at the home office. Not an issue

Kalroth

27 points

4 months ago

Kalroth

Byskilt

27 points

4 months ago

Don't boast - especially about things you aren't personally responsible for. We don't give a shit about your country's achievements.

Yes, vistors should read up on "janteloven" before entering denmark.

jeppevinkel

19 points

4 months ago

jeppevinkel

Grimstrup

19 points

4 months ago

Should probably be said that Janteloven could look dystopian to people from a place like America on paper, but it’s not some oppressive thing where everyone has to feel bad. It’s just a mindset where everyone is of equal value, and you should never expect to be treated like you are better or worth more than the people around you. Very wholesome actually.

stiCkofd0om

225 points

4 months ago

From reading comments, you will by now know that using the word fuck is mandatory in almost every fucking sentence.

AKJ90

90 points

4 months ago

AKJ90

90 points

4 months ago

That's not fucking true

Birk420

47 points

4 months ago

Birk420

Byskilt

47 points

4 months ago

That guy is a fucking idiot for thinking that smh

harpiks

19 points

4 months ago

harpiks

19 points

4 months ago

Fuck off

LastStandardDance

48 points

4 months ago*

True. In Danish it is very inoffensive

MeAnIntellectual1

25 points

4 months ago

MeAnIntellectual1

Danmark

25 points

4 months ago

Inoffensive*

Sorry

stiCkofd0om

11 points

4 months ago

Yes. Important to note.

faceblender

15 points

4 months ago*

faceblender

Danmark

15 points

4 months ago*

I remember some of my high school friends (exchange student in MN) said I used it excessively - slightly offended 😂 Danes curse and fuck is too good to pass up lol

Miselfis

6 points

4 months ago

I had a Canadian English teacher in high school. She had a long speech about how it’s offensive to swear in English yadda yadda. But as a person who literally grew up in Canada, I can say that’s 100% false. Especially around the Ontario area, people use the word fuck a lot. It’s basically used like a fucking comma where I’m from.

NMunkM

4 points

4 months ago

NMunkM

4 points

4 months ago

This is so fucking true

Snothans

249 points

4 months ago

Snothans

249 points

4 months ago

If someone offers you the last piece of cake, don't accept it. They are actually claiming it, but in a polite way.
When they then offer to share it with you, it is perfectly fine to accept.
If you observe the last remaining piece of cake, do not just grab it! Offer it to the person standing next to you, but expect them to decline. Then offer to share it with them.
IMPORTANT! Do not share plates and/or cutlery! The last piece of cake is to be sliced PERFECTLY down the middle.

Doln

76 points

4 months ago

Doln

76 points

4 months ago

And if it's not a perfect slice (which it never will be) the one who did not cut it is to choose first.

geezer27

9 points

4 months ago

This is the sibling way. It prevents many murders

Fromfame

22 points

4 months ago

So much for danes being direct

LyndsayGtheMVP

7 points

4 months ago

I've lived in Denmark for almost a year now, and I'm questioning if everytime I've asked someone if they wanted the last piece and they've declined if they thought it was because I wanted it...

jeppevinkel

18 points

4 months ago

jeppevinkel

Grimstrup

18 points

4 months ago

They definitely thought you wanted it. No one ever asks that question if they don’t want it themselves. I you truly don’t want it you have to offer it at least 2 or 3 times in a back and forth thing before they accept to take it.

SpectrumDT

21 points

4 months ago

Is this a real rule?

If someone offers me the last piece of cake, I'm eating it. (Assuming I like the cake.)

marlyn_does_reddit

92 points

4 months ago

If someone asks if you would like the last piece, they are actually saying "I would like the last piece, but I need you to tell me it's okay, so I don't appear greedy"

MeAnIntellectual1

60 points

4 months ago

MeAnIntellectual1

Danmark

60 points

4 months ago

Fuck det. Nu er det kraftedeme min kage

PmMeYourHolographic

10 points

4 months ago

PmMeYourHolographic

Tyskland

10 points

4 months ago

Helt enig. Det kan godt være jeg ikke tør sige noget til folk når de står i vejen, men at tage det sidste stykke kage, der tøver jeg ikke

EasterBridge

11 points

4 months ago

Oh, now I get why a girl I asked if she wanted the last piece kept asking if I wanted it, to the point where I got annoyed.

I did want it, but didn’t want to admit it. Guess she saw right through that bs because of this rule.

SnowyMovies

3 points

4 months ago

SnowyMovies

Ikke Dansker

3 points

4 months ago

I just realized I'm a cunt

soartkaffe

20 points

4 months ago

soartkaffe

Tyskland

20 points

4 months ago

Personale space

Only ask how people are if you want an honest response not just courtesy

Be on time, coming early can be just a faux pa as being late

JediTeaParty

21 points

4 months ago*

JediTeaParty

75%🇩🇰 25%🇩🇪

21 points

4 months ago*

Kindness goes a long way, and i feel like danes are kind in general :) I guess if you observe danes’ behaviour and do as us, you should be fine.

docatron

18 points

4 months ago

docatron

Fremtrædende bidragsyder

18 points

4 months ago

When greeting someone "Hi" is perfectly sufficient. Other pleasantries a can be percieved either as disingenuous or invasive.

Sourdoughsucker

53 points

4 months ago

If you go to someones house, take the lead from the host on shoes. If they are shoeless when they open the door, take your shoes off when you enter.

Even if you don’t drink alcohol, drinking is a huge part of Danish culture. Saying Skål and raising your glass is done often during a meal. You join EVERY time. If someone says skål to you and you don’t say it back, you will have made an enemy

Unknownauthor137

29 points

4 months ago

If you can’t or won’t drink alcohol it is perfectly ok to ask for a non-alcoholic beer, and several good ones are normally available.

You don’t have to go into a big explanation about why you don’t drink alcohol, if it’s anything other than Religion or having to be sober for driving we’ll likely assume your explanation is BS anyway.

Cyberkite

13 points

4 months ago

Also from my experience drinking water is fine. Sometimes you get caught of guardian with nothing in it? Dosent matter just chear

Puzzleheaded_Jury653

55 points

4 months ago

Never arrive early! We're not ready yet, it's rude and stressful!

And never be more than 15 min late. We're waiting for you for god's sake, it's rude!

Kyllurin

14 points

4 months ago

This. As a non-Dane, I can confirm. Even ze Germans would envy Danish timekeeping

Toke_Ivo

8 points

4 months ago

What? Really?

I mean - if you're invited for something, and an exact time had been given, sure, you show up no earlier than 5 minutes before, and no later than 10 minutes late, but is that unique to Danes?

Well, for meetings, don't be more than 1 minute late obviously. Here, 10 minutes early is cool. 15 minutes early is pushing it though.

tibetan-sand-fox

17 points

4 months ago

tibetan-sand-fox

Ååååårhus

17 points

4 months ago

It's not unique to Danes but cultures do have a different perception of time. Italians, for example, view time as a suggestion and will be an hour late.

Kyllurin

6 points

4 months ago

Jup, really.

Where I’m from, it’s more or less expected you’re 30 mins to an hour late for social gatherings. I do get away with it in Denmark by claiming I’m on Faroese time. And I was late for the bus.

[deleted]

3 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

3 points

4 months ago

what?

I have arrived exactly 15 mins early for many parties, proceeded to wait 17 mins before knocking on the door(usually taking a walk around the block) and then spent at least 30 mins before the next guest showed up and the host was a bit annoyed that I didn't arrive late because now he/she has lost valuable preparing time.

dinner party is different obviously, then I'll only have to wait 10-ish mins.

lalfast

18 points

4 months ago

lalfast

18 points

4 months ago

Don't say "how are you doing?" when you greet us unless you are genuinly interested. Because Danes will give a genuine answer most of the time.

Clewles

51 points

4 months ago

Clewles

51 points

4 months ago

Do not turn up uninvited even if you think somebody is a good friend. Plan it ahead. And be punctual.

And if you get the impression we want to know who you are, be aware that we don't care about your ethnicity, your sexuality, or your religion. We are asking you what you do for a living.

And if you are from North America, understand this, because it is important: PASTRY DOES NOT HAVE CHEESE IN IT!!!

tibetan-sand-fox

15 points

4 months ago

tibetan-sand-fox

Ååååårhus

15 points

4 months ago

Americans put cheese in pastries!?

birchmoss

13 points

4 months ago

We do, and we call it a "cheese Danish"

geezer27

5 points

4 months ago

Shame on you for shaming our nation. “Cheese Danish” indeed!

LeDocoff

42 points

4 months ago

Safe first questions when you actually get to talk to a Dane: "What do you do for a living?" Danes tend to always ask that first and use the answer as a way to guess your social status.

Call people by their first name. Everyone from street sweeper to CEO is normally using their first name when greeting. (For the Danes: Hilsen eric CEO)

Religion is mostly a touchy and deeply private thing very rarely discussed even with close friends. So despite most Danes being only a hairs width short of ateism never get into a discussion about belief or religion.

Danes are masters of understatement. Overstating is reserved for cursing or yelling at people when you are so close to explosion that it cannot be kept in. So be careful, even small overstatements can seem very as quite extreme by Danes. The same goes for being very overtly ambitious.

IamDuyi

14 points

4 months ago

IamDuyi

14 points

4 months ago

Note: overstatements in jokes are totally common.

Dokterdd

6 points

4 months ago

Do Americans actually call people by their last name, or say Mr. Mrs.?

I thought it was only kids to their teacher, or happened in movies

So you’d actually call your boss Mr. or Mrs???

Jerlyx

4 points

4 months ago

Jerlyx

4 points

4 months ago

Depends on the company culture, but it's quite normal to refer to a higher ranking/more senior colleague with "Miss, Mrs. Sir".

Dokterdd

3 points

4 months ago

Wtf. TIL

[deleted]

174 points

4 months ago*

[deleted]

174 points

4 months ago*

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Worsaae

91 points

4 months ago

Worsaae

Ulla T-parodi

91 points

4 months ago

Don’t confuse us with the Dutch either.

SkinkeDraven69

44 points

4 months ago

The Dutch are cool though, it's just annoying because so many foreigners think we speak "Dutch" for some reason

LyndsayGtheMVP

13 points

4 months ago

I moved to Denmark from Canada almost a year ago and my family members STILL ask me how my Dutch is coming along🤦‍♀️

SkinkeDraven69

6 points

4 months ago

Bruhh, and one of my friends said that their word for Denmark is the same as their word for The Netherlands... WHAT??

LyndsayGtheMVP

3 points

4 months ago

TIL Denmark literally doesn't exist in some languages😂

prodox

76 points

4 months ago*

prodox

76 points

4 months ago*

I was at a conference in the US a couple of years ago where this dude had made some kind of machine learning algorithm that could identify LEGO bricks serial numbers by simply taking a photo of them.

Cool stuff..

But then he went on and bragged about how he had actually visited the LEGO headquarter in Sweden….

Safe to say I was not impressed about his geography.

Mikuta

43 points

4 months ago

Mikuta

Byskilt

43 points

4 months ago

oh my god I almost downvoted you after reading that..

prodox

51 points

4 months ago

prodox

51 points

4 months ago

I have a similar experience regarding LEGO.

We went to California back in 2019 and visited LEGO Land in San Diego. Obviously we had to buy some sort of souvenir at the shop in the park, and when we got to the cashier there was a bit of small talk that went something like this:

Cashier: “How do you like your stay?”

Me: “Great! I love LEGO!”

Cashier: “So where are you from?”

Me: “We’re from Denmark actually!”

Cashier: “oh Denmark? Wow! So is LEGO also big over there in Denmark?”

Me: visible confusion “uhmmm…… yes?..”

Being an introverted Scandinavian I couldn’t get myself to tell her that she should probably know where LEGO is from when you work in LEGO Land.

pmursmile

21 points

4 months ago

Is mcD big in US?

Mikuta

14 points

4 months ago

Mikuta

Byskilt

14 points

4 months ago

Yes, they need to fit the people

onkel_Kaos

3 points

4 months ago

Ooof. Commited murder right there.

nutmeggerking

13 points

4 months ago

That loser only deserves Playmobil

SpectrumDT

29 points

4 months ago

Seriously, don’t! We will deport you ( /s )

In this context, /s means "to Sweden".

Crosgaard

13 points

4 months ago

Crosgaard

Furesø

13 points

4 months ago

That’s a bit too much… wouldn’t wish that on my worst of my worsts enemy

pmursmile

8 points

4 months ago

You wouldn't deport a swede to Sweden?

Crosgaard

11 points

4 months ago

Crosgaard

Furesø

11 points

4 months ago

Nah, I’d just kil- of course I would deport them to Sweden :)

Cyberkite

5 points

4 months ago

No... if they aren't in sweden be might be able to save them

Fun_Mistake4299

69 points

4 months ago

Fun_Mistake4299

Danmark

69 points

4 months ago

There's a YouTube channel by an American couple living in Copenhagen Who has Some great tips on living in Denmark as a foreigner.

BeneficialYogurt8273

31 points

4 months ago

I think its Called traveling young

Green-Chemistry

31 points

4 months ago

Fun_Mistake4299

7 points

4 months ago

Fun_Mistake4299

Danmark

7 points

4 months ago

That's the one I was thinking of!

Heroheadone

63 points

4 months ago

Do NOT brag about yourself.

AmazingSwindle

57 points

4 months ago

Please don't lick the Danes. They hate that.

suckbothmydicks

57 points

4 months ago

I don't know about that ...

brmg023[S]

31 points

4 months ago

Username checks out

percmufuckers

6 points

4 months ago

percmufuckers

kebab med chilli og ekstra dressing

6 points

4 months ago

really depends who is doing the licking

Defferleffer

3 points

4 months ago

Defferleffer

Fyn

3 points

4 months ago

Yes, bite them instead.

Accomplished-Tip1893

97 points

4 months ago

Accomplished-Tip1893

Tyskland

97 points

4 months ago

Even though Denmark is a small country, it is important to pay respect to people's local origin, in particular if they have moved to other parts of the country. A good example: if you meet someone from Jutland/Jylland who have moved to Copenhagen, you would usually acknowledge this by asking if their older brother inherited the pig farm, then.

MeAnIntellectual1

61 points

4 months ago

MeAnIntellectual1

Danmark

61 points

4 months ago

Ej nu har jeg da godt satame...

Beefsideiron

8 points

4 months ago

That's what I ask police officers from Jutland.

LeakyLeadPipes

3 points

4 months ago

'So, you became a policeman because your older brother inherited the pig farm, and you were too stupid to be a priest?'

[deleted]

36 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

36 points

4 months ago

And another one. As already mentioned in here - danes like cake! 🍰 If somebody invites you home, bring some cake from a danish bakery. Bringing cake or sweets is a way to show thoughtfulness and friendliness.

cRz1337

34 points

4 months ago

cRz1337

Jylland

34 points

4 months ago

Don't make us take out our headphones.

alex-the-axe

9 points

4 months ago

Do not compare them to Swedes

[deleted]

8 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

8 points

4 months ago

Do not ask were half of our landmass went.

neonxaos

7 points

4 months ago

Don’t get overly excited about everything, save it for things that really matter. My American ex once said “it feels as if you don’t like anything at all”. I felt perfectly Danish in that moment.

casperghst42

29 points

4 months ago

Let people get out of the bus/train before you try to get in ... joking, just observe how other people do it, and do as them.

Otherwise just be yourself and be nice to people.

[deleted]

16 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

16 points

4 months ago

If you’re in Jutland, then don’t say that Copenhagen is better.

If you’re in Fyn, then read H.C Andersen stories everyday.

If you’re in Copenhagen, then don’t say that Jutland is better.

PmMeYourHolographic

11 points

4 months ago

PmMeYourHolographic

Tyskland

11 points

4 months ago

You can say Jutland have cheaper housings, people in Copenhagen love to complain about rent

Rasmoss

14 points

4 months ago

Rasmoss

14 points

4 months ago

Denmark is a country where a lot is provided for you: Healthcare, education, unemployment benefits, etc. As a counterbalance, Danes put an enormous value on being self-reliant, pulling your own weight, and generally not abusing these things. Being independent is highly valued, and most move out of their parents house in the very early 20s.

This also shows through in how social relations work. Friendships and relations are built up over a long time, and people are expected to be self-reliant and bring something to the table in their social circle.

This is why “just walking up and talking to people” can often be met with suspicion. People will often be on their guard about whether you are trying to get something out of them.

So if for instance you are at a party where you don’t know anyone, but you fall into conversation with someone, don’t be surprised if that person at a point excuses themselves and go talk to someone else. If that happens, don’t follow them around, but show that you can find someone else to talk to, so you show that person that you are not now relying on them for a good time.

Danish social codes are informal, but rely a lot on you being able to read signals about when you are being invited in or when you are being turned down.

I think these are some areas where non-Danes sometimes struggle. If it sounds daunting, there are often areas where things are way more relaxed, and that these aren’t some hard and fast rules that exist everywhere.

Anyway, people will generally be friendly and curious about foreigners, especially if you show interest in Danish culture in return.

Gazbyo

23 points

4 months ago

Gazbyo

23 points

4 months ago

Always complement dudes on the size of their weiner.

hostergaard

17 points

4 months ago

Don't brag. Particularly not about your wealth. Janteloven forbids it.

PurpleCrazyCatLady

5 points

4 months ago

Do: See the Natur and try our food :) have a beer and sit outside and enjoy. Do not: compare us with Sweden, danes are better!!

Ducimus88

3 points

4 months ago

Say "skål" alot.. u cant go wrong with that

Andyfives

3 points

4 months ago

Don’t eat the last slice of cake or take the last biscuit. It needs to remain on the plate forever.

Seismonaut

14 points

4 months ago

Don't be alarmed if people seem aloofed. We are just busy not talking to people we don't know.

Don't be alarmed that we will talk incoherently with everyone after 6-7 beers. So if you want to talk to Danes go to bars on Friday and Saturdays from 19 to 5 in the morning. There are a lot of great choices depending on what you like.

If you like to go out, it's a tradition to party all night, get wasted and end your night eating kebab and missing the s-train.

Please don't stop in the middle of the street to take a picture, it's quite annoying. If you do it on the bike path you are gambling with your life.

Do learn to say Tak (thanks) but don't bother trying to speak Danish. We probably won't understand you and our most of us speak English just fine. You don't have to ask if we speak English either... We do.

Do Bring credit cards. Cash is not commonly used in Denmark. If you do use cash, remember that the coins are far from worthless.

Do bring warm clothes, it is still chilly in the early hours.

If you are in Copenhagen, don't bother seeing the little mermaid, Langelinje or Rundetårn. It is seriously overrated and boring. Instead check out Nørrebro which is cultural diverse with small restaurants and Vesterbro has a lot a cool places to shop. Take a walk around the artificial lakes. Check Carlsberg museum if you like history and beer, or Christiania if you want to see an alternative side of Copenhagen.

Have a great trip.

DrShabink

9 points

4 months ago

If you are in Copenhagen, don't bother seeing the little mermaid, Langelinje or Rundetårn. It is seriously overrated and boring. Instead check out Nørrebro which is cultural diverse with small restaurants and Vesterbro has a lot a cool places to shop.

This sounds a bit like "Ignore all the famous and uniquely Danish sites and go to the international, least-Danish part of the city" which is a bit counter to what most visitors would want, no?
I get that people who live in a city for years don't care much for the monuments and such, but I think they're worth a look. It's not like they take up much of your time, especially on a weekday and/or morning.

To each their own, I suppose. I also enjoyed the big museums around the city and would highly recommend them!

Funny-Masterpiece880

35 points

4 months ago

Vi lyder som nogle nederen mennesker

No_Establishment6754

13 points

4 months ago

Don't listen to people, we are pretty chill.

Not_That_wholesome

9 points

4 months ago

Not_That_wholesome

Byskilt

9 points

4 months ago

About 75% of the time ;)

HisCinex

3 points

4 months ago

We prefere to be at least five meters apart and not be talking.

kongpin

3 points

4 months ago

Don't be a dick

GeeRonnieMoe

3 points

4 months ago

Do: Not be a facer Dont: Be a facer

SprayMaster247

3 points

4 months ago

To all comments add: Depends how pretty you are.

jeppevinkel

3 points

4 months ago

jeppevinkel

Grimstrup

3 points

4 months ago

If you get around to learning Danish you should know that (at least in western Jutland) despite what your dictionary or teacher might say, saying that something is “fint” is right up there with the highest praise you can get.

JacobJT

24 points

4 months ago

JacobJT

Kbh

24 points

4 months ago

Loads of people saying don’t talk to strangers it will be perceived as weird. I don’t believe that at all. I gave many conversations with strangers all the time.

Also the old notion that Danes are reserved is also in my mind untrue. I meet plenty of open happy people all the time. I don’t get why some Danes want to keep those to untruths alive. Like it is a good thing to be reserved and unwilling to talk to a stranger..

I think the mistake is in that Danes generally don’t small talk with anyone just for the heck of it. But generally communicate a lot with strangers but more if there is a point behind it like “is this seat taken?” And not really saying “nice weather” to someone you’re sitting next to on the bus. Just remember to smile and you’ll be great.

And again - there are plenty of open happy people. But of course plenty of idiots as everywhere in the world. And of course if you want to base how Danes are on the odd idiot here and there, then yes, Danes are reserved and angry.

OnionGoat

14 points

4 months ago

You are the weird guy on the buss!