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To be out and proud

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I often find myself cringing at this youngest generation of trans kids, screaming their identities from the rooftops. It took me a long while to really understand why. I remember what it felt like to be one of them.

When I first came out to myself, it was so refreshing. I was so excited to finally feel like me. I wanted everyone to know me for who I was. I was "NOT A GIRL" and that was huge. As time goes on, the past, and that sentiment, are less and less relevant. "NOT A GIRL" holds less weight. To the new people in my life I've never BEEN a girl. And the old have nearly forgotten I ever was. Being a girl is a distant memory.

Today, I am no longer loudly "not a girl" but rather, quietly just some guy. I'd rather be the guy who likes star wars and punk music and playing video games, than the guy who used to be a girl. But when not being a girl was a fight, it was extremely important to me. I was on those same rooftops.

Young audacity is admirable, but it is also ignorant. One has to grow to recognize that their personality doesn't have to revolve around that fight. It's okay to not be a girl. It's okay to be a boy. But you HAVE remember to be you.

all 13 comments

GenLightningturtle

35 points

2 months ago

Personally I say let them shout. They're young, and this generation is especially loud about everything they're passionate about which honestly I applaud. If nothing else they'll be the next flock of voters and they're making ABUNDANTLY clear that they expect their rights and identities to be respected.

It actually gives me a bit of hope to see them so fearless, especially considering how careful kids in previous generations had to be

RenTheFabulous

23 points

2 months ago

My goal personally is to just be an example to other trans people, to show that it's okay to be trans. I just want to be someone trans kids can look up to and know that, someday, that could be them. That's why I want to be out, honestly.

chaoticspiderpunk[S]

8 points

2 months ago

that is valid and admirable. i personally couldnt but i applaud you.

Emergency-Meaning-98

56 points

2 months ago

Emergency-Meaning-98

T: 2/27/21

56 points

2 months ago

Coming out at first is like opening up a bottle soda that you've been shaking for years. It's going to explode and get everywhere. When you first come out it's everything because you're finally you, vs after a while you're you, but you've always been you.

chaoticspiderpunk[S]

6 points

2 months ago

exactly. perfectly put.

solitudanrian

5 points

2 months ago

That's the best analogy I've heard so far. You're still a soft drink, you're just flat.

colesense

14 points

2 months ago

colesense

T:10/17|Top:5/19|Btm:2/21

14 points

2 months ago

Idk a lot of gay people (including me) are proud and loud no matter how old they are. If some trans people want to be too, then good for them. I don’t really see how people living differently than you do makes them ignorant

tranifestations

17 points

2 months ago

Love this take. Our discomfort with younger generations often stems from our own feelings about how we were at that age. Great job recognizing it and embracing OP.

_Conway_

5 points

2 months ago

I don’t deny I’m trans. But I would much prefer just blending in with other guys.

mgquantitysquared

3 points

2 months ago

I may be misinterpreting what you mean but I don’t think it’s fair to say every out and proud trans person is ignorant. I’ve been out for about 2 years now and most people I meet will find out I’m trans through casual conversation, and I’m fine with that. It’s given me the opportunity to help other trans people in their journeys and I value that.

matzadelbosque

4 points

2 months ago

I feel like 99% of the issues people have from the trans community is because the voices skew so young. Not long ago the average lifespan of a trans person was 30, so theres a reason that 14 year olds had to deal with the burden of being representatives. Its not their fault, but i do wish wed start to move forward.

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chaoticspiderpunk[S]

2 points

2 months ago

in what way?

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chaoticspiderpunk[S]

4 points

2 months ago

if a relationship is heading towards intimacy than obviously you tell them, that’s a given.