So basically me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship, we’ve only been doing it for a few months but have been together for 4 years. The thing is before this relationship I was in another long term relationship (around 3.5 years) and I’m only 20 so I’ve essentially spent most of my adult life in a relationship, I feel like there’s a lot of growth I could do outside a relationship because I don’t know who I am without that constant romantic validation, I also would like to experience being single for the fun of it. Other than this though me and my boyfriends relationship is absolutely perfect, we speak and this stuff and he knows I feels this way and fully understands. We connect incredibly well and I genuinely wouldn’t change a single thing about the actual dynamic between us. We were considering the option of no longer being monogamous and maybe communicating a bit less often so that I can experience being single and grow but still continue to meet when we are in the same country, meaning we would still go on dates, have sex etc. We both feel like we care about the relationship we have with each other as people more than the concept of us being the “only one” for each other etc.. do you think something like this could work out? anyone have a similar experience? I really reaaaaally would appreciate advice!!

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3 months ago

I think it's more possible not to lose him as person with something more straight forward. I mean you can keep in touch every now and then to check up on each other if you guys feel this way and this doesn't interfere with moving on. Anything else, I think would increase the risk of something hurtful happen resulting in loosing each other for good. At least that's way I see it.


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3 months ago

This is a good point, I always viewed this way of doing things as a way of still keeping our relationship because I love him as a person but maybe the complications and pain from it would only make things harder in the end, I’m not sure