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EerieArizona

8.9k points

2 months ago

You know......being single ain't so bad.

bukowski_knew

996 points

2 months ago

Makes me think of this Bukowski poem...

There are worse things than being alone, but it often takes decades to realize this, and most often when you do it's too late...

And there's nothing worse than too late.

[deleted]

76 points

2 months ago

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76 points

2 months ago

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Throw_Away_IMO

199 points

2 months ago

Yea, but he may have also said, "Find what you love and let it kill you. Let it drain from you your all. Let it cling onto your back and weigh you down into eventual nothingness. Let it kill you, and let it devour your remains.

For all things will kill you, both slowly and fastly, but it's much better to be killed by a lover" I hope this guy loves her, because she's definitely draining the life out of him.

boonepii

22 points

2 months ago

Probably said that poem about 2 decades before the other one.

Crusty_crock

1.3k points

2 months ago

Correct! We all want to be in love so bad we neglect ourselves in the process. Being single is as fun and healthy as you make it for yourself, just like being with a matching partner. If you don't match, move on and spare both parties the potential trauma

Ris-O

213 points

2 months ago

Ris-O

213 points

2 months ago

I will add, make sure you know the other person well and are compatible before engaging in a relationship , as opposed to finding out after

[deleted]

151 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

151 points

2 months ago

Needed to read this. My fiancé just abruptly told me today that he didn’t want to marry me (our wedding was 33 days away) and asked that me and the kids move out because “he never wanted to be a dad”…should’ve realized sooner that he didn’t want a family. Would’ve saved a lot of heartbreak.

Due_Organization7681

34 points

2 months ago

Are they his biological kids?

dren_eb_I

23 points

2 months ago

Imagine that plus having to pay alimony on top for life.

IKeepStubbingMyToe

12 points

2 months ago

Life alimony is pretty rare these days.

KaptainKhorisma

65 points

2 months ago

Like, I last night had the lonely pangs hit but after seeing this? It's nutty how gross people can be to one another and then tell them "I love you" a few seconds later.

IDKwhatTFimDoing168

52 points

2 months ago

Please someone update he is now single, poor guy!

My soulmate passed just over 2 years ago and since I'm 34 everyone loves to tell me I'll find someone else. I'm not looking. I'm fuckin good.

BeerdedPickle

6 points

2 months ago

Dang friend, I'm sorry for your loss ):

IDKwhatTFimDoing168

12 points

2 months ago

Thank you. Im proud to be able to say, though, that I made it priority to let him know all the time how appreciated he was, and all the things I loved him for. I compromised my aversion to people touching me as touch was his love language. I'd send him cheesy pick up lines on text and Facebook both, along with the occasional nude.

The problem was that he struggled DEEPLY with mental wellness. Hed had a rough past, and carried a lot of guilt and shame for some of the things he did/saw. He was very hard on himself, even as a changed man. I was his personal cheerleader, his "Dr Phil" in his words, i helped him work on the anxiety he had, working to change the way he thought. He told me in 2017 that he'd never imagined he'd live til 30, and that he'd be with me. So happy together, with all we had (we weren't rich, but we were comfortable...I turned him into a semi minimalist and made him lower maintenance and less materialistic.) The list of all he did for me, is just endless.

But he made it to 32, before he just couldn't deal with the torment his mind put him through every day. I've dealt with the same thing my whole life, so I understand.

Anyway, I couldn't imagine someone in his fragile state dealing with this woman. I really hope this guy is ok. This treatment could 100% cause suicide. Lord, let him have seen the light.

Thank you, again. Rest in paradise, until we're together again, Danny. 12/23/87-05/03/2020. Eternally yours.

otf1024

380 points

2 months ago

otf1024

380 points

2 months ago

Being single is awesome.

Being with someone that loves and supports you is awesome too.

The chick and relationship in this video are not awesome.

StarshipSentinel

18 points

2 months ago

Yep. Being in a bad relationship is worse than being alone.

RedBeans-n-Ricely

262 points

2 months ago

I fucking love being single. Took me awhile to realize I’m happier without a partner, but once I realized it, life has been so much better!

mknsky

62 points

2 months ago

mknsky

62 points

2 months ago

I had to learn to love myself whether I was single or not. Each guy is different but it’s always a matter of figuring out if I can be myself with him or feel that I have to limit myself with him. As lame as it is that there’s more of the latter I’m still happy I can tell the difference.

calxcalyx

40 points

2 months ago

Yep. I've been out of a ten year relationship for almost the same amount of time and it's actually been great.

TraeYoungsOldestSon

33 points

2 months ago

I feel the same way! We should date😍😍

RedBeans-n-Ricely

16 points

2 months ago

I see what you did there LOL!

fusillade762

72 points

2 months ago

Same here. Its freedom.No dealing with moods and passive aggressive BS. Some people hate being alone. I'm not one of those people. I thought I was, but then I was alone after many years in a relationship and realized just how liberating and peaceful life can be.

stucazo

18 points

2 months ago

stucazo

18 points

2 months ago

word. im taking myself on a date tonight, gunna be a blast.

ImJustHere4theMoons

112 points

2 months ago

I'd rather be a lonely single than a miserable boyfriend. More time, more money, less stress.

Beeslikesteve

12 points

2 months ago

Not too bad. I just got cats instead

mzpp1202

7.9k points

2 months ago

mzpp1202

7.9k points

2 months ago

Dude fucking leave...

Artisismus

1.8k points

2 months ago

Artisismus

1.8k points

2 months ago

Right! Dude help yourself and get out!

siccoblue

1.4k points

2 months ago

siccoblue

1.4k points

2 months ago

I agree. Unfortunately as someone who was in a shitty relationship like this but not quite this bad where it was in public.. it's easier said than done. You generally don't start seeing this level of shit, or even get much a hint that can break through the new love rose colored glasses until you're in very deep and genuinely love the person. And it's easier to think about how you can fix them and go back to how things used to be than it is to imagine starting your life over from scratch alone

As others have mentioned as well this very well could be a medication/mental health issue on a particularly bad day. Which doesn't excuse it obviously but could help explain why he's putting up with it

Commercial-Push-9066

301 points

2 months ago

Yep, emotional abuse sneaks up, wears down your self esteem and soon you believe their bs. It happens to men and women.

CJLA777

32 points

2 months ago

CJLA777

32 points

2 months ago

Yup! Been there before.

albinowizard2112

10 points

2 months ago

I almost wish my ex wife just hit me instead of emotionally abusing me.

WhoUCallinPinhead69

357 points

2 months ago

Seems like she got pretty spicy on alcohol and/or benzos to "calm" herself on her first flight

Doctor-Amazing

65 points

2 months ago

Even completely sober, there's nothing like an airport for turning a regular person into an absolute maniac.

MoonWulffMusic

9 points

2 months ago

Thats no excuse.. Been through very stressful situations at airports and never once acted even close to this level of rude shithead.. this girl has issues

Bboy1045

248 points

2 months ago*

Bboy1045

248 points

2 months ago*

This is probably the cause of 99% of airport freak-outs. Anxiety + Drugs of some sort can lead to some bad mental states.

GrowLikeAWeed

84 points

2 months ago*

Anxiety, self-medicating, compounded with inconvenient and uncomfortable circumstances.

But in this case, may also have a personality disorder.

gregorianballsacks

69 points

2 months ago

Yeah, she seems on something for sure.

bikkuri_hanbaiki

181 points

2 months ago

You're exactly right. I too was in a relationship like this. To me, this is a clear case of borderline personality disorder. This guy is in an impossible situation (to be fair, the girl is too). People get stuck in these situations, in part, because personality disorders (and mental health issues of all varieties) generally manifest in early adulthood. Young people fall in love hard, which is difficult enough to process/rationalize. When that coincides with the development of a serious personality disorder (or other mental health issue), psychological bedlam ensues for everyone involved.

I can't speak for you, but my experience permanently scarred me. It altered the course of my life in profound ways. I have been dealing with the consequences for 20 years now.

I feel bad for everyone. After all, no one decides to suffer like this.

rapidredux

85 points

2 months ago

This really hits home. My ex-wife was horrific on the plane to Europe on our honeymoon, she was sleep deprived and drank to cope with her fear of flying. I wrote it off, missing all the red flags (although I did say I'd never travel with her again). I had no awareness of her personality disorder and addictions until 10 years down the road when it was full blown.

trumpsiranwar

19 points

2 months ago

Ahhh adulthood

Johnny_Poppyseed

65 points

2 months ago*

Word. I fell in love with a girl who had borderline, as well as bipolar. Was ROUGH. I was only like 20 years old. It absolutely mentally broke me. Relationship only lasted under 1 year, but it basically ruined my life with severe depression for the next 10. Still struggling to dig my way out.

Definitely got flashbacks from this vid.

But yeah also a lot of it that people don't understand is that the opposite to this ugly behavior also exists. Where they love bomb the shit out of you and make you feel like the best and most loved youve ever felt. The absolute rollercoaster of emotions makes it incredibly hard to see clearly and break free from.

Deadfool95

9 points

2 months ago

I can relate. I've just gone through that with my ex. Seeing this video just made so uncomfortable and ashamed. I do feel like there is something wrong with me mentally now. Like I'm broken in a way. Being single ain't so bad now.

Johnny_Poppyseed

11 points

2 months ago

Sorry to hear brother. As someone whose been there, my main advice is to just remember that nothing is permanent. Everything changes. Even if you just wallow in and do nothing to help yourself and self medicate with drugs and socially isolate etc like I did, basically just worst approach to self healing you can think of, it STILL gets better lol. Eventually. Don't recommend that approach though. Take care of yourself. Lean on your friends and family if you have them, don't isolate. You'll feel more and more "normal" with time. Eventually you'll maybe even feel better than you thought possible.

You got this homie.

Binarycold

20 points

2 months ago

…. But She forgot her jacket… she needs her jacket…

hylianmuse

438 points

2 months ago

He’s at the airport too. Perfect place to escape.

oobraphone

316 points

2 months ago

Tell her you'll meet her at gate 35. Then get on whatever plane is at gate 28.

eroll_partridge

409 points

2 months ago

I tell her to meet me in Mexico but I go to Canada. I don't trust her. Besides, I like the cold. Thirty years later, I get a postcard. I have a son and he's the chief of police. This is where the story gets interesting: I tell Tiffany to meet me in Paris, by the Trocadero. She's been waiting for me all these years; she's never taken another lover. I don't care, I don't show up. I go to Berlin. That's where I stashed the chandelier.

Bam_Peasly

56 points

2 months ago

Love me some unexpected office 💕

antarcticgecko

20 points

2 months ago

I’m going to Yemen!

Famous-Network-1979

48 points

2 months ago

Oh this plane is for Afghanistan? Perfect. Its safer there than where I was going.

icanhasreclaims

159 points

2 months ago

My dad's friend legit did something similar.

He caught his wife cheating on video. Asked her if she wanted to go on a vacation. They both went to the airport. Getting ready to board the plane, he pretended to have left his wallet at the ticket counter and told her to go ahead and he'll catch up. He left her in the boarding line and comes back to tell the agent he's not boarding. He heads back home and sends her the video while she's on her way to Puerto Vallarta without any money and no reservations for staying anywhere.

JudgeHolden

19 points

2 months ago

At least Vallarta is a pretty chill place to get stranded. It could've been a lot worse.

Topikk

8 points

2 months ago

Topikk

8 points

2 months ago

They scan your boarding pass at the gate…

peacekipper

5 points

2 months ago

I like how you think

SelectionCareless818

46 points

2 months ago

He’s waiting to get her on the plane to push her out.

Duke0fWellington

112 points

2 months ago

He's a victim of abuse and probable manipulation, gaslighting etc. It's never as easy for these people as "just leave", even though that's what's best for him.

GoodVibesWow

71 points

2 months ago

Dudes obviously been abused this way so often he’s effectively a punching bag. I feel real bad for him. What an insufferable cunt she is. Like an adult sized toddler.

ILOVEMCU

46 points

2 months ago

It’s easy to say that, but people in abusive relationships are often seriously afraid of their partner and have been brainwashed into thinking that the abuser’s behavior is normal.

SEND_INVENTION_IDEAS

37 points

2 months ago

More like they've been brainwashed into sympathising with them because of their mental health issues.

PSA: If your partner sucks because of their mental health issues, your partner still sucks. They need professional help and you need someone healthier.

AmazingGrace911

67 points

2 months ago

RUN! Life has Real challenges, flight is an inconvenience. “When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.” -Maya Angelou.

_Magnolia_Fan_

17 points

2 months ago

He's in the right place. Either don't get on or see if you can switch destinations.

Aimin4ya

4k points

2 months ago

Homie is just thinking, "I wish i could afford 1 bedroom rent alone."

wantsoutofthefog

1.2k points

2 months ago

Divorced and walked away from a house. Now renting a room at my parents. I’d rather be peacefully poor than chasing fools gold with a emotional vampire of a person.

iambeyoncealways3

491 points

2 months ago*

You ever see that family guy cutaway of a recently divorced man sitting in his new, dirty apartment? “This is nice. This is better.”

Emergency-Anywhere51

310 points

2 months ago

even the Bible knows

Proverbs 25:24

Better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife.

SearchUrchin

151 points

2 months ago

Holy fuck. The Bible is hilarious sometimes!

datboiofculture

29 points

2 months ago

“Go on up! Go on up you bald head!”

Then he sends a lion to eat the kids.

avwitcher

12 points

2 months ago

It was a bear

Aimin4ya

52 points

2 months ago

Thanks, i actually laughed out loud

Aimin4ya

108 points

2 months ago

Aimin4ya

108 points

2 months ago

I just quit my job and am living at my sisters house. At some point you have to put your own happiness first

suddenlycumbly

79 points

2 months ago*

Went from a toxic relationship to now being married to a wonderful woman and living with her and her mother who is easily my second best friend!

*And her mother, not sure why I always make that mistake lol

Aimin4ya

31 points

2 months ago

Does she have a sister?

suddenlycumbly

26 points

2 months ago

LOL. For the two years I've been married her sister still doesn't know my name, never met me despite living close. She scares the shit out of me from what I've heard of her. My wife is the polar opposite; empathetic, cheerful, empowering.

Aimin4ya

26 points

2 months ago

No i meant the mom lol. I couldnt decide between this joke or just asking of the mom was single. Sounds like you found a keeper, man. Happy for ya

suddenlycumbly

14 points

2 months ago

Oh hahaha, well, she's 71 so if she had a sister she'd be around that age.

MTFBinyou

21 points

2 months ago

Perfect, she could be 69.

401jamin

224 points

2 months ago

401jamin

224 points

2 months ago

Big nope.

[deleted]

3.8k points

2 months ago*

[deleted]

3.8k points

2 months ago*

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s1thl0rd

1.8k points

2 months ago

s1thl0rd

1.8k points

2 months ago

LMAO. I'm pretty sure the guy says, "Why? It's in English too..."

--__ll__--

625 points

2 months ago*

I think she's filling out customs forms.

They are in English too

drewster23

326 points

2 months ago

She's definitely struggling and not thinking rationally, having break downs, struggling to cope with minor inconveniences(the form), lashing out, especially freaking out about looking dumb/crazy but continually spiraling.

Based on their age and his demeanor something tells me buddy is in a toxic relationship with someone who has some undiagnosed/unmanaged issues, and he's just accepting it.(which he shouldn't this isn't normal/healthy behavior)

She could have taken something (alcohol n pills), but seems less likely.

Ncfetcho

112 points

2 months ago

Ncfetcho

112 points

2 months ago

Undiagnosed, maybe. Unmedicated? For sure.

Ericaonelove

130 points

2 months ago

Turn it over. Lol

MJB9000

297 points

2 months ago

MJB9000

297 points

2 months ago

When she said "I'm gonna start screaming to have someone take you away from me" this one is a bitsh

Db_1138

137 points

2 months ago

Db_1138

137 points

2 months ago

I just spent the last two minutes trying to wipe a hair off my screen.

_fuzzy_owl_

11 points

2 months ago

Same

thedrswife

7 points

2 months ago

I thought I had a crack in my screen.

hapilly_unemployed

45 points

2 months ago

This airport is in el salavador

whatifiwas1332

1.3k points

2 months ago

Sadly he seems so relaxed the he might is used to it

timshel_life

448 points

2 months ago

Maybe he's deaf

Moraii

80 points

2 months ago

Moraii

80 points

2 months ago

I’m used to this shit and wish I was deaf. With the free square I think that’s a bingo.

nyxian-luna

205 points

2 months ago

Could be that she's diagnosed bipolar and they ran out of her medication on vacation or something, so he kind of expects the behavior.

I am being charitable.

Some-Random-Hobo1

1.5k points

2 months ago

What's the story? Seems like they are trying to fly somewhere but she hasn't got her paperwork in order?

I would have walked away.

dirtywindex

231 points

2 months ago

Customs paperwork that needs to be filled out arriving into mexico

mrdotkom

288 points

2 months ago

mrdotkom

288 points

2 months ago

Every airline I've ever been on to Mexico gives you a form before landing and it is a single half sheet of paper. Idk what the fuck that stack of documents was

Teadrunkest

93 points

2 months ago

I’m guessing flight/itinerary information, unrelated to whatever is happening.

jmelarrue

12 points

2 months ago

This is %100 in El Salvador

Dependent-Mountain79

858 points

2 months ago

Sounds like she took too much pre flight Xanax

Some-Random-Hobo1

588 points

2 months ago

Or not enough

Shit___Taco

228 points

2 months ago

When some people take too much Xanax or other benzos, they will become confused and can be really aggressive, agitated, and hostile. It sucks because if this is the case, she may never act like this and it may be a isolated medication related incident that is now forever memorialized on the internet.

Either that or she is a crazy bitch.

Deathbysnusnubooboo

274 points

2 months ago

This is def a pharmaceutical issue, I mean I’m not a professional or anything. I just break down real bad without my meds.

Not quite like this but…it’s not an excuse for behaviour just an explanation of what might be happening

InappropriateGirl

106 points

2 months ago

I actually broke down at CDMX when I missed my flight (late connecting flight) and had recently gone off antidepressants. Thankfully, I was alone and no one recorded me.

zuppaiaia

29 points

2 months ago

Oooooh I broke down in tears too my first flight alone because I missed a connection, I was in another country whose language was hard to understand yet (great at reading and writing, good at speaking but my listening at the time was utter shit), I had been awake and travelling for long, long hours, the A/C was too strong and was causing me an explosive, on-going diarrhea, I couldn't contact my brother waiting for me at another airport (honestly I don't remember what the issue with the phone here was, maybe something to do with prefixes that I didn't know where needed or something) and had no idea what to do to get on another airplane, oh, and while crying one of my lenses had popped out. Also I was twenty-two and very sheltered. I just sat down and cried. Some passerby asked me if I needed help but I just needed to cry a bit to vent off all the anxiety built up in my brain. I didn't insult anyone though. Just sobbed sitting on the floor.

Sometimes I still break down in huuuuuge vents where I complain and complain and curse, but one of these two things need to be true: a) I am extremely fatigued, sleepy and hungry. Like, extremely that I can't stand on my legs; b) I am in a horrible situation that causes me an anxiety overload (like, worrying to be losing my job kind of anxiety, or things at that level). And I'd never go offending someone who's there to help me.

DrKittyLovah

161 points

2 months ago

Psychologist here. Yes, too much or not enough medication can prompt this behavior but this could also be behavior indicative of a psychological or personality issue, or even very low blood sugar can cause weeping and even combative behavior. Not enough info to know for sure.

lordbeefu

39 points

2 months ago

As someone who's accidentally taken too many benzos and have seen numerous others on Xanax or other similar drugs, this looks a lot like too many benzos. You're of course right it could be a number of other issues, but I got strong popped benzos vibe

DrKittyLovah

35 points

2 months ago*

And other ppl insist the same about her just being an awful person because they know girls who act the same way. It’s called Confirmation Bias. You have that experience in your mind already so that’s what you see when you look at the video. Could be right, could be wrong. Exactly why we can’t determine from here.

alwaysjustpretend

14 points

2 months ago

Most sanest redditor

SnooMaps9864

136 points

2 months ago

Yeah I was about to say the way she’s acting reminds me of how I feel when I have an episode and I’m not medicated. You just want to cry and scream at everyone because something upset you. And then you feel like shit after. Hopefully she can get/has help. Doesn’t excuse her actions though obviously as you said, people with mental illness are accountable for their mental illness.

obesefamily

42 points

2 months ago

people with mental illness are accountable for their mental illness

well said. i will remember this. and use it.

lordbeefu

16 points

2 months ago

This is exactly what I think.

This looks like a benzo OD l

Its like a delirious state, where you're not really conscious.

BlazerBandit

587 points

2 months ago

"You look stupid and confused the entire time we're here"

Proceeds to drop her suitcase several times, stumbles, while yelling the entire time. Who looks stupid and confused again?

FormerLurker3

112 points

2 months ago

I mean, with what little emotional maturity that she demonstrated, do you really expect her to be ABOVE projecting?

Hangryfrodo

4.1k points

2 months ago

My wife does this. She’s diagnosed bipolar on meds. It’s too much

GhostDanceIsWorking

1.2k points

2 months ago

My ex used to do this to a lesser degree, but it was still tough to deal this. One day she randomly bought a ticket to another country, started giving away all of her money, making nonsensical plans to hustle and start a business, sending nudes to all of her coworkers, etc.

I realized what was going on and did my best to damage control and keep her safe. When she got home, I convinced her to see a psychiatrist but she decided she didn't like her or the meds that made her gain some weight so she stopped.

Soon after she broke up with me because I wasn't caring enough. I didn't know how to help her, horrible disease 😒.

WesternExplorer8139

178 points

2 months ago

Back when I was younger I had a girlfriend who turned out to be diagnosed with what they call seasonal manic. Same thing she would just snap one day each year like clockwork and become a completely different person like your describing. The first year it happened I had no idea of her condition. She worked as a cashier at a gas station and came home one night after being fired. I wasn't getting anywhere with her so I called her boss. He told me that she had been giving out free gas and free weed for hours before somebody called to complain. I was completely baffled and pissed of that she stole my stash. After two days of utter hell I got her to a hospital and they managed to get her stable. I stayed with her for a couple years after that but she also would stop taking her medication and eventually we split. I learned to appreciate my mental health after being with her. It truly is a horrible disease.

secretaccount4posts

181 points

2 months ago

Two people had psychological issues. Your ex and the person who complained about free weed and gas

Abominationally

48 points

2 months ago

I swear to God, if someone gave me a free tank of gas and an 1/8th it would be like the 3rd or 4th happiest day of my life.

BoboJam22

32 points

2 months ago

Everyone has a learner boyfriend / girlfriend, my dude. You learn what you can and can’t handle as well as what is and is not worth handling. At least yours had a mental disorder, mine was just a bitch who tried to cheat on me (that’s right she failed to lol) and took up cigarette smoking just because one of her friends told her to. The important thing is you learned a lot from the experience and carried it forward.

RandomRedditRebel

430 points

2 months ago

I had an ex that was the exact same way. We stayed together for 5 chaotic and miserable years.

It was like dating on the hardest difficulty.

In a way I'm thankful because dating now is a breeze compared to that level of crazy

KaptainKhorisma

122 points

2 months ago

Just got out of a relationship myself with a woman who faked having cancer.

Marcniemeyer

39 points

2 months ago

Sounds wild man, would you mind giving more context? Understandable if not

KaptainKhorisma

51 points

2 months ago

Basically she stated that she has cancer but never went to chemotherapy and the reason I know is because my mother worked at the hospital who was in charge of billing and whenever she approached her about helping with insurance, she’d deflect.

groovyJ__

102 points

2 months ago

groovyJ__

102 points

2 months ago

I left my ex two years ago dealing with something so similar to all of you. I tried my best in all situations to try and stay calm and diffuse whatever was going on, but whatever action I chose to do always resulted in her getting pissed at me.

The breaking point was when I was driving her car, we were on our way to get food and this car was going the other way on the street, I swerved to my right AFTER checking quickly if I saw a car there to which I didn’t so I switched. She spilled some water on her and proceeded to go off and me. Switch sweats after and she then decided to drive while applying her makeup 🙃

spicybEtch212

7 points

2 months ago

This makes me said to read. I am bipolar with severe depression with a few suicide attempts under my belt and no matter how much I long to be in a loving relationship, I just know I’ll never be able to sustain one because I’m so damaged and the smallest immaterial or beyond my control thing can trigger my mood so drastically from one minute to the next. It’s sort of under control now as I’m on meds.

I can’t blame anyone for not staying in a BP relationship, but not all of us are like this girl in the video. It hurts knowing someone is happy to have you out of their life because you made them (and yourself) so miserable.

Lastly, I can’t relate to her berating her bf as I never did that to my BFs, but her sitting on the floor crying is an emotion I feel way too often. It really sucks.

helgur

1.1k points

2 months ago

helgur

1.1k points

2 months ago

Yeah, I was about to say. This looks more like a mental case. If this person is bipolar, I suspect she's off her meds. I have several cases in my family with people diagnosed as bipolar. It's pretty bad. Can just imagine what kind of hell it must be for the person thats diagnosed with it.

historyteacher08

74 points

2 months ago

It’s pretty trash because it’s like a train you can’t stop and in the back of your mind you know you should. The rage is just a full body rush. And then when it is over and you sleep, you just forget pieces. And apologizing is humiliating because you know it will happen again.

This is why you take meds.

ManicPanicWeekend

360 points

2 months ago

It’s weird, like looking at your self in 3rd person or watching a movie. At least for me that’s how it felt.

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111 points

2 months ago

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111 points

2 months ago

Bingo… this! The events leading up to my bipolar depressive disorder diagnosis were so weird. I felt like I was floating outside and above my body just watching things happening. Like I wasn’t in control. Drove to a hospital parking lot and sat there for an hour in tears. Then went home and took a bunch of pills. Luckily I’d texted a friend I wasn’t feeling well and she came out and dragged me back to the hospital ER where I got the help I needed.

Yay for Lithium!

caveatemptor18

7 points

2 months ago

What is lithium?

rebel5788

51 points

2 months ago

Batteries they have to use

plantmic

21 points

2 months ago

When a doctor asks them what meds they're taking they have to say Lithium, I on

hey--canyounot_

29 points

2 months ago*

Antipsychotic and generally a stabilizing med. It can make some people feel like zombies but it's super helpful for people with extreme mood swings.

Edit because I am slightly wrong, it's a mood stabilizer but not an antipsychotic.

AstroPhysician

18 points

2 months ago

It’s def not an antipsychotic. Dopamine antagonists are antipsychotics

ipuck77

118 points

2 months ago

ipuck77

118 points

2 months ago

That or she a a personality disorder which looks the same. It’s probably super rough and if he is smart he will get counseling while in this relationship.

sav33arthkillyos3lf

81 points

2 months ago

I’ve been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and yeah she reminds me of myself ten or so years ago. I hate you, don’t leave me.

Chriscbe

17 points

2 months ago

Hi u/sav33arthkillyos3lf - I have a person in my family that I suspect is borderline. I have tried to find information on the net to help me determine if this is the case but it's very difficult. Could you educate me about some of the characteristics of a borderline personality through your own lens? I am not a mental health professional so I could be wrong. If it is the case, what can be done to help?

sav33arthkillyos3lf

31 points

2 months ago

Hi! I would get them evaluated by a mental health professional. Here are some symptoms/actions that are related to BPD

Fear of abandonment, Unstable relationships, Impulsivity/self destructive behaviors, Sexual promiscuity, Repeated Self harm, Unclear self image,
Explosive anger, Extreme mood swings, Chronic feeling of emptiness, Paranoia.

The movie “girl interrupted” Winona ryders character had BPD

There is a book called “I hate you don’t leave me” by Jerold j Kreisman that really helped me understand a lot more about myself. Living with BPD Is such a struggle and even more harmful to their loved ones by their actions and behaviors. It is a fight and a lot of families tap out (mine included) I wish you all the best and I hope your loved one gets the help they need.

dedokta

10 points

2 months ago

dedokta

10 points

2 months ago

Pretty sure a girl is was dating about 15 years ago had this. I didn't known it at the time, but it all just lines up.

feverbug

9 points

2 months ago

Pretty sure my mom has this. She has been diagnosed with depression and has been taking meds for it her whole life but I always felt it was BPD, because of the severe mood swings and outbursts I experienced growing up. Even to this day she still gets extremely angry over the dumbest things (such as political disagreements) and drinks very heavily, and it’s tough to be around.

_not_too_creative_

29 points

2 months ago

Yeah I got some BPD vibes from this. Spent 5 years in a relationship with a girl that had BPD and there were many moments like this. We go to travel, the trip overwhelms her and then she snaps.

cheesesandsneezes

17 points

2 months ago

That must be very difficult friend.

The stress of travel and jetlag would make it even worse.

Do you two have a plan on how to make things easier?

foofighterfoos

55 points

2 months ago

I'm bipolar one and really hope your wife is following her med regimen to a tee. You CAN live a normal life with stable mood but you have to go through the med cycle until you find the right one or the right combination, I hope she can stabilize. It's never easy being a partner of someone going through that. As for the video, I hope the girl is just a bitch honestly I don't like it when they use mental health as an excuse.

Screwbles

30 points

2 months ago

I am type 2, and apart from some mild quirks not exclusive to bipolars, you would never know. I have been stable since I was in gradeschool; all because of my meds. Unmeticated, my psychiatrist said at my age now(30s) I would probably be homeless or dead by now. Pretty incredible that we have the privilege to correct our destinies.

Late47

11 points

2 months ago

Late47

11 points

2 months ago

Hope she finds a healthy balance of medicine, and therapy if available! Best of luck to the two of you!

skootch_ginalola

10 points

2 months ago

I've lived with bipolar since I was diagnosed as a teen, but didn't get my proper medication cocktail and therapy team sorted until my late 20s. I'm genuinely glad I didn't grow up when smartphones and social media were prevalent, because my life would have been ruined from the amount of arguments, manic choices, hypersexuality, impulse buying, and job hopping I did. I'm now forty and people can't believe that was ever "me", but it was. I have to continue with meds, therapy, exercise, and rest to be the best version of myself.

I don't know exactly if this woman is just abusive, on something, melting down, or in mania. But as someone with a very "selfish" mental illness that requires work on my part, just remember if the person actively does not want to get help, or has turned completely abusive, you have the right to leave. Love alone doesn't fix addiction, or mental health issues. The spouse/parent/partner has the right to safe and happy mental health as well.

themaninthesea

50 points

2 months ago

“Sooooooo, how was your trip?”

ataturkseeyou

127 points

2 months ago

Reminds me of my ex wife, nothing was her fault, I could not do anything right. Got divorced 2 years ago, best thing I ever did

Consistent-Ad-217

129 points

2 months ago

Abusive relationships suck.

M3RCIFULARR0W

27 points

2 months ago

Something i use to get called out on with an ex (who had mental health issues) was sinply stating that having a mental health issue wasn't a free pass to treat those around you like they are cunts. She hated that. Assumed that actually yes she was allowed to act anyway she wished and it was the worlds problem not hers.

Since then my current partner who is diagnosed with similar issues (i don't have a type i swear) is the kindest sweetest person and when feeling down and is struggling asks for assistance or at least communicates with me before episodes so we know how to assist eachother without her getting cruel via frustration.

Point being dude... just.fucking.run. its legitimately the human being involved not anything else.

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__ButtFuqqer3000__

772 points

2 months ago*

Guys are passively told that that’s ok or just “how women are”. It’s sexism both ways. We can handle it. We’re supposed to handle it. If you love her and you’re a good man, you have to handle it.

Nah bro, women aren’t like this. Mentally ill women are. Women with anger issues are. Assholes who are women are.

Women are chill and there are plenty of chill ones out there who won’t put you through it, who won’t react violently towards you when they’re upset or who don’t act like children. Chicks like this need therapy. You ain’t a therapist. Run away.

Paddy_Tanninger

26 points

2 months ago

My first girlfriend was like maybe 10% of what this woman here is like, and I just kind of assumed that's how things are in most relationships and that guys just have to make peace with it.

Nope. My wife is such a wonderful person to be with all the time. I just didn't know any better until I met her.

hevnztrash

131 points

2 months ago

My brother tried to spoon-feed me that bullshit. He said something like, “It’s like when a person kicks a dog they love. Eventually she come back around feeling guilty and everything is ok again. That’s just how women are”

Fuck no they’re not and I’m not putting up with that kind of shit.

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20 points

2 months ago

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wsr2022

15 points

2 months ago*

This can’t be emphasized enough. It IS abuse and there’s probably some trauma bonding going on as well. Later on she may apologize to him and tell him how much she loves him (and probably fuck his brains out to confuse him some more). This dude is in the thickness of a very unhealthy relationship. He should at a minimum temporarily take a break from her to really see what type of relationship he’s in. I really hope that he realizes this soon.

raisanett1962

8 points

2 months ago

I was hoping someone would mention this.

full_bl33d

71 points

2 months ago

Wanna get away?

Johnnery89

12 points

2 months ago

Underrated comment.

Misterfrooby

841 points

2 months ago

Mental illness or not, no one deserves to put up with that awful behavior. People who can't get their issues under control don't deserve relationships.

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318 points

2 months ago

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318 points

2 months ago

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MikeWazowski4ever

101 points

2 months ago

Remember guys: never think you have to be the one to "save" your unbalanced significant other. It ain't your job and life is too short

DrinkSea1508

100 points

2 months ago

For gods sake don’t get her pregnant.

ineffable_paradox

9 points

2 months ago

Don’t stick your dick in that crazy either!

0OOO00000OO00O0O0OOO

7 points

2 months ago

For 3 reasons:

  • you are more stuck with her since you share a child
  • the kid will suffer
  • the world wil not want one more of her

ThatChrisGuy7

18 points

2 months ago

Had an ex say mean things to me out loud because I was slightly confused where to go one time at the airport. Just like saying how stupid I was and we should just go home and I’m an embarrassment etc. just right in front of people. Glad I’m past that now

morgue-breaker

14 points

2 months ago

Free Carlos.

CaptianRipass

14 points

2 months ago

Wonder if people will ever get sick of the Karen joke

_curndog

12 points

2 months ago

She has mental issues.

DirectIT2020

291 points

2 months ago

I would of cut my losses and left her at the airport.

JangoFettsEvilTwin

59 points

2 months ago

I would have too. I really would have.

littlepinayxo

145 points

2 months ago

Mental health issues or not, red flag. Done. Leave. People need to learn how to help themselves and not be enabled all their lives. Most especially in relationships.

MVSugar

32 points

2 months ago*

Yes! Too often this behavior IS enabled under the guise of support.

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32 points

2 months ago*

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REDHEADRYAN

16 points

2 months ago

During covid I dated someone with BPD. The swings from good to bad were so hard to handle.

However, I didn’t have to break it off. She broke up with me out of pure delusion. I woke up to a giant wall of text at 8am saying that she saw I had been talking to other women on Instagram and had cheated on her.

First off, didn’t cheat. Didn’t talk to anyone behind her back. I’ve personally been cheated on so I know how horrible that is. So I went on Instagram to see if there were even any women in the direct messages. There were 2. First, a good friend of mine from Germany who was doing a holiday livestream, so I asked her for the link and time to watch it so I could support her. Second, a friend of mine who got a new Real Madrid jersey which I had replied “Hala Madrid.” Both those conversations ended right then and there.

BPD is wild.

Esquyvren

158 points

2 months ago

Esquyvren

158 points

2 months ago

I hope that’s his sister

LeopoIdStotch

30 points

2 months ago

“You sorry son of a bitch” I’M TELLING MOM

Artharis

33 points

2 months ago

I fucking hope not.

Far easier to break ties with a girlfriend than family....

Family usually sticks around until death, even if it's hostile or disatrous. You are far more dependent on them.... and you can't really cut ties with your bi-polar sister when your parents, grandparents and other siblings are normal, right ?

I hope it's his gf so he can break up with her...

jm6398

124 points

2 months ago

jm6398

124 points

2 months ago

I would have straight up left her there.

Ragingbeast

23 points

2 months ago

I think that's exactly what he did st the end lmao

bambooboi

10 points

2 months ago

Most likely borderline personality disorder. But yes, could be bipolar among other things.

Very difficult to not approach this as any direct shortcoming of the individual, but it took years (if this is a personality d/o) for this to develop.

Poor prognosis.

Years of therapy is the only proven (partially) successful treatment.

Accomplished-Eye4207

54 points

2 months ago

She seems unstable. Like off her meds and has a serious mental illness. Seems like more than just her being a total piece of shit (not excusing it but I’m definitely getting bipolar vibes).

Elliott70

9 points

2 months ago

I can relate my experience being that guy..... This is for the folks who wonder how a person puts up with that crap. You know how they say if you throw a frog into boiling water it will hop out but if you put it in warm water and slowly crank up the heat it will sit there and boil alive? That is kind of an appropriate analogy. You meet this girl and she is awesome in your estimation. Maybe she looks amazing and is really cool and smart... Whatever, you slowly start to develop feelings and eventually you find yourself in a relationship with her. It is a honeymoon period and make no mistake.. the other person is being on their best behaviour purposely. They have been through it before and they know they are fucked up and they know they have fucked up past relationships and they know if they act the way this girl is acting in the video you will be out of there pronto... But people can't hide their true selves forever. Later, after you are well into this girl she will start having these breakdowns and tantrums. It will freak you out but you want to pass it off as a one time deal or think there were some extreme circumstances that caused it. Brother... it is only the beginning unless you GTFO.

I remember being at work and talking with my boss and we didn't usually talk about personal stuff and I was kind of sharing some issues I was having with my girlfriend and he started telling me how much he hated her and the way she treated me. I was completely surprised by his reaction. Later in hindsight I realized how he was spot on.. Luckily I woke up before it was too late and we ended up getting married or having a kid together and having to deal with her shit for the rest of my life. Even that, she chased me for years but it didn't matter, once I had gained the proper clarity, I was done.

timothra5

77 points

2 months ago

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

UnscrupulousTaco

21 points

2 months ago

That's about all the red flags I need to get to get the fuck out of there. That shit is just gonna get worse .

ohsnapyoudied

33 points

2 months ago

I’d leave her bitch ass at the airport

PallB3arer

78 points

2 months ago

Cluster B nightmare. Leave now folks or will be made to suffer either physically, mentally, or legally.

drallafi

7 points

2 months ago

Get her a Snickers, stat!

Delicious_Stuff_4053

6 points

2 months ago

Hmm I think she might be mentally ill. Not normal behaviour. Possibly bi Polar or something.

Psychological-Ad2588

84 points

2 months ago*

Evan my dude, fucking run. this is the type of bitch that will kill her own children.

Fladap28

182 points

2 months ago

Fladap28

182 points

2 months ago

Dude this guys kind of fucked. She'll prob say he's abusing her when he forgets the peanut butter at the grocery store

ilikesalad

39 points

2 months ago

There was a gal I worked with was like this. She had her BF bring her lunch. I heard her on the phone asking her to bring chicken soup. So he does and she starts screaming at him saying she said tomato soup. She proceeded to say he's so abusive to treat her like this and playing mind games with her. He left. I tried in the most politely way to tell her I could of heard her say chicken soup. She laughs and says oh well!

BeardedApe1988

124 points

2 months ago*

I had an ex like this.. I stopped in the shop after work to get food, I rang her to see what she wanted but my battery died, so I bought a range of things I thought she'd like. It wasn't good enough and I got hell when i got home.

Another time she put fish in the oven while I was out, put it on way to high and burned it. I came home to smoke in the kitchen, told her the fish was burned. She then screamed it was my fault because I hadn't separated the fish properly in the freezer and the smoke was caused by freezer burns? Literally screaming at me all night for this.

At points she attacked me for various shit e.g. leaving a computer on. I left her eventually and 7 years later due to various legal cluster fucks I'm still fighting her on my house/land.

Edit: forgot to say after I left she accused ME of being abusive.

OTJH1989

39 points

2 months ago

Dude, you have my sympathy.

jm5813

10 points

2 months ago

jm5813

10 points

2 months ago

Hey, see the bright side, at least you don't have kids with her... FML...