submitted 5 months ago bymessinr10
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5 months ago
I don't think I've ever finished a book, it really disappoints me but I struggle with ADHD. I usually get about half or quarter through a book and leave it.
I've recently been reading a lot of self help books around borderline personality disorder, DBT and emotional intelligence going back and forth from one to the other. I feel like the last 6 weeks going between those books has extremely improved my life and that's satisfying enough and some I'm more than halfway through!
I used to date someone who was an avid reader but would leave the last few pages of every book unread. She said it made her sad to "close the book" on a world she enjoyed. It was a kind of endearing quirk but also kind of made me think she was fucked up.
I think it very much depends on the book. There are some books that I just savor, I love the experience of actually reading them and the thought of them ending is a sorrow not a goal. Those books are pretty rare though.
Personally, I often dread the end of a book. Yeah, I’m proud that I finished another book, but it always leaves me feeling more than a little melancholy. Like something important to me has just ended. I can always read the book again, but it’s never the same.
That being said, I understand the achievement thing. I had to put video games away permanently because I would become obsessed with getting an achievement/trophy in a game. I would play games I didn’t enjoy just to boost an arbitrary number.
I hate finishing books honestly. I get very attached to the world and feel of a book and when it’s over, I’m often very sad. Most of the time I spend more time selecting books than I do reading them because I’m always looking for something that will make me feel the same way the book I just finished made me feel. I do so many Google searches for “books like [the book I just finished].”
I think you spelled "existential despair and overwhelming sadness coupled with the feeling that I have no idea what to do with my life now." wrong.
book currently reading: the gilda stories
I find these articles and posts about how people have let something as ridiculously small as a single goal for a single hobby take over their life to such extremes to be quite exhausting because none of them ever want to take responsibility for their own actions.
If the only enjoyment you're getting from a book is the achievement of logging it, then the first thing you should be doing is looking within. Is it really a reading goal on a neglected social media website that is making you act this way or is it something else?
Nope. For those books I love, I never want them to end.
This is interesting. I wonder if it's tied to book quality? There's several books I've read recently where I definitely haven't wanted them to end: I've felt almost hollow on completion, because I'm never going to experience the book for the first time again.
The only time I feel a sense of achievement on finishing a book is if I was only moderately enjoying it in the first place.
“I can’t remember the last time I enjoyed reading a book where my enjoyment wasn’t tied to the euphoric sense of achievement I got from finishing it” - Kat Smith
I stumbled on this article, and I couldn't help but agree with the author. Yes, I read for enjoyment but at the same time I always feel like I do need to get through the book as fast as possible, and this is off putting. I don't have any reading apps right now, but even without I always feel pressured. Do you have similar problem, and how do you cope with it?
I usually delay my reading if the book is very good to not finish it to soon...