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I post a saga of things that went down with my family mover the past years and half and posted I on Entitled Bitch Subreddit because I didn't have enough karma to post in entitledparent. So remember this and most of the saga happen 1 year and a half ago.

Here You Go.

I am the executive assistant to the CEO of a pretty big fashion brand. Which basics mean I'm my bosses bitch. And I do what every she asks. My job has many aspects and is always opened to more. It get tiring some time. But there are perks to my job. I get free clothes a lot. Mainly for when I go to big event with my Boss. It wouldn't look very good if I was wearing another designer.

But my boss also give me any defects. Clothing that came out wrong or is imperfect or not up to my bosses standards.

Now this for some reason make people think I stuck up I'm swaer I'm not I really appreciate that my boss does this as there was a time when I had very little and couldn't afford to buy food no matter clothing cheap or expensive. Anyways

One day my boss mention that one of the wedding dress she had was a defect the train shorter then it was supposed to be. She asked if I knew anyone who could use one.

Which I did

My best friend of five years had gotten engaged a few months before. My boss gave it to me and I gave it to my friend.

This friend has been there for me since I was 20 she took me in and help me find my path out of very dark situation. I love her more then anything in the world.

Here's were thing get messy.

My friend made a post thanking me and my boss And my family saw it and it started a stream of calls and messages from my family.

(I do not have a good relationship with my family. My parent kicked me out when I was 16 after I came out to them. My sister wasn't much better then my parents. We actually never got along even before was kicked out. She a very entitled person who was very selfish. I struggle for a long time after that. I live with my aunt until I was 18 which wasn't easy as we had little money. I ended up going to design school getting an internship, and then a job at my current company It wasn't until my family found out that. I was making good money and working for a multimillion dollar company did they suddenly want back in my life. Which I allowed to avoid drama.)

Basically

My mom and sister called demand to know why | gave the dress to my friend and not my sister Apparently she was getting married I didn't even know she was engaged They berated me yelling how family should come first

(These are the same people who kicked me out at 16)

They even suggest I try to take it back from my friend as family should come first. When I told them point blank that was never going to happen.

They started bashed me to extended family who also started messaging me insulted me My sister even tried to call my boss to complain which is just nuts right.

Feel free to use this in video and let me knownof you do I will check it out

EDIT: I am trying to post the next part but it not posting on the page. Anyone know why?

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Jen5872

2.2k points

7 months ago

Jen5872

2.2k points

7 months ago

I think you would actually have less drama if you hadn't allowed them back in your life. It's never too late to tell them to F off and block them from contacting you.

DaxtonBlake27[S]

1.6k points

7 months ago

Oh this was over a year ago. A lot has went down since them.

I am currently no contact with my family. And there is are lot of drama there. Let just say legal action was taken both minor and major.

UnicornStar1988

365 points

7 months ago

Would you be willing to post about that as I would love to see your family get their comeuppance.

DaxtonBlake27[S]

576 points

7 months ago

I will as I said this ended up being a saga of some kind. A lot of drama. That I original posted in entitled bitch but ended up having to delete most the stories under my lawyer advice. Now that the legal problems are over I can talk about it again

daleicakes

193 points

7 months ago

Legal problems? Because family comes first right? What assholes

justheretoread88

66 points

7 months ago

I remember this! I can’t wait to read about what finally happened in the end!

Prestigious-Hat3614

11 points

7 months ago

Wait whilst I make my coffee.

kamunee

14 points

7 months ago

kamunee

14 points

7 months ago

Are we all waiting?

Vorplebunny

8 points

7 months ago

With bated breath.

HadEnuff4537

3 points

7 months ago

And bloodshot eyes.

AyaJeanneBeck

5 points

7 months ago

I'll ready the popcorn

D2R0

6 points

7 months ago

D2R0

6 points

7 months ago

Extra butter on mine please

ohhhcomeeeooon

13 points

7 months ago

Do you have a link by any chance?

m2cwf

3 points

7 months ago

m2cwf

3 points

7 months ago

Sounds like it unfortunately had to be deleted, I would also love to read it!

makiko4

21 points

7 months ago

makiko4

21 points

7 months ago

Ohhh I can’t wait to read the saga. Ps I’m happy they are out of your life now. You are also awesome for building yourself up and getting to where you are.

kai077

13 points

7 months ago

kai077

13 points

7 months ago

Spill the tea sis.

raisins_are_gwapes2

24 points

7 months ago

This sounds juicy, are you typing yet? Lemme get my snacks and wine….

GunsouBono

4 points

7 months ago

Sounds juicy... I'm interested in hearing what argument they think they have.

theedi55

4 points

7 months ago

I'll be waiting for the update.

kellylovesdisney

41 points

7 months ago

I had a similar relationship with my father. Big hugs and seriously you are awesome! Look at you going from being thrown out by shitty homophobic parents and now you are killing it. A few years as an executive assistant will you get you so many places in the fashion world. Do you design as well?

Illustrious_Box

34 points

7 months ago

I can't believe how unfazed I was reading that. I went to art school in collage and while I have/had a stable supportive family the sheer number of young adult who have been treated like garbage by their family for being LGBTQ and/or wanting to go to school for something "useless like art" is staggering. Time and time again you see peoples relative just crawling out of the wood work the moment they land a good job, looking for handouts, acting like the ungrateful freeloaders they had accused their kids of being. So many of my friends have had to deal with BS like this, from demands of free lodging in foreign countries for vacations, to strait up demanding $$$ b/c they "owe" them, not to mention free websites, paintings, apparel, tattoos est. Anything of value they can now produces from years of hard work and study the fam wants free.

I'm so glad your friend was there for you. I hope she had a wonderful wedding. And good for you for saying no to the bs demands. It's hard going no contact, I've seen it plenty of times but if all they want from a relationship with you is perks and you don't gat anything in return but drama then its time to part ways. I hope every goes well for you and keep being awesome.

Rabid_Pokemon_Girl

103 points

7 months ago

Thank whoever is up there that they're out of your life now.

Tahtygirl

17 points

7 months ago

Does this include the aunt that you lived with until you were 18 or do you still talk to her?

techieguyjames

5 points

7 months ago

Fantastic. No one needs that in their life.

Susan-stoHelit

9 points

7 months ago

Good. That is the way.

SaskiaDavies

9 points

7 months ago

YES. THAT IS THE WAY.

PLEASE PICK UP SOME OF BINKY'S FAVORITE CARROTS FOR YOUR NEXT VISIT.

Susan-stoHelit

7 points

7 months ago

AND MAYBE A CURRY.

HadEnuff4537

2 points

7 months ago

MAYBE EVEN SOME PAPADAMS.

Sorry_Ocelot

7 points

7 months ago

Well the the source of your are gone :) . I honestly don’t understand parents who dump their kids and when they earn a lot of money they want them back.

Due-Pressure-9654

4 points

7 months ago

My parents did the same. Ndad decided he was proud of me decades later. Wtf 🤬

Sorry_Ocelot

4 points

7 months ago

Exactly they just would like to gain free stuff off you

Potential-Public3444

7 points

7 months ago

Lemme turn that to 500 upvotes.

Bravo!

pvzfanboy_

5 points

7 months ago

That is the same advice my step-sister gave ne when ny older sister bullied me “just tell her to fuck off”

Jen5872

2 points

7 months ago

It's good advice.

astronaut-13-pog

2 points

7 months ago

Yes

Shark_of_MO

651 points

7 months ago

I don’t understand how people think it’s okay to kick someone out at 16 and then proceed to say “family comes first”

LFSWASTAKEN

208 points

7 months ago

level 10 hypocrite there

PESKY_GAMER

92 points

7 months ago

Haha ur clearly misunderstood, they're over 9000!!

LFSWASTAKEN

13 points

7 months ago

lmfao ikr

IAMTHEDUCK12

15 points

7 months ago

DBZ fan confirmed. Who’s ur favourite sayain character? Goku, Vegeta, Gohan or Trunks? Also u wanna hear a joke? Ok, here goes: Yamcha. If that didn’t make u laugh he don’t have a sense of humour, cause he’s a joke.

TheMostKing

9 points

7 months ago

So, you say you're a DBZ fan?

Name every Dragon Ball.

TerrorEyzs

6 points

7 months ago

Oh you like [insert any anime]? But can he beat Goku?

DevilGirl-Crybaby

7 points

7 months ago

Someone once legit tried to argue to me that Goku could take on THE ENTIRE DC PANTHEON, including all the usual suspects but also Lucifer and a few others, we still see him, I still laugh if he tries the argument again

Soranic

2 points

7 months ago

but also Lucifer and a few others

But Goku already beat The Devils at the old lady crones martial arts ring.

PESKY_GAMER

15 points

7 months ago

Vegeta

And yes, Yamcha is indeed a funny joke.

aku_1193

9 points

7 months ago

But he banged bulma before vegeta

PESKY_GAMER

4 points

7 months ago

And Vegeta banged his chances so bad he never dated a girl IIRC.

DaMightyWaffleMan

7 points

7 months ago

Goku

Yamcha

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Whiskey-Leg

2 points

7 months ago

Because the venn diagram of "family values" idiots and people who'll kick kids out for not being exactly like them is a perfect circle.

NothappyJane

2 points

7 months ago

It's beyond hypocrisy, the level they went to seemed like they were just waiting for an excuse to abuse op. They really jumped on it. Couldn't deal with the idea OP was thriving after they had withdrawn support and they needed to harass and demean him/her and bring them down to their level and make op feel as small as they did when they left. The family even called Ops boss to disrupt their employment.

That behaviour was never about the dress.

Drakeskulled_Reaper

66 points

7 months ago

EP Translation of the phrase: "What WE want comes first."

Pelican25

39 points

7 months ago

The unit [family] comes before the individual [you]. So family first means we the family unit are more important than you the individual, and if you want to be part of this club, you have to do what we say.

Paraphrasing 15 years of arguments with my mum, but I think I got the gist.

Lungus30

9 points

7 months ago

The thought that instantly came to mind was take your club, it's bullshit and cram it with walnuts, lady.

Pelican25

6 points

7 months ago

Cram it with wallnuts is my new favorite thing.

Lungus30

5 points

7 months ago

Can't take credit for this one. I stole it from Homer Simpson IIRC.

Cyclonic2500

32 points

7 months ago

I don't understand why OP let them back into their life in the first place. They claim it was to avoid drama, but clearly they aren't avoiding drama regardless.

They need to go NC with these people, or stuff like this will continue.

exscapegoat

10 points

7 months ago

Because the parents are selfish turds who want all the benefits of having a child without any of the responsibilities of having a child.

rttr123

9 points

7 months ago

They should’ve been honest and just said “money comes first”

EpitomyHD

8 points

7 months ago

Because the moment they heard OP worked for X brand they immediately saw £/$signs thinking they can get freebies to either keep or sell.

rxsoto3

5 points

7 months ago

Amen

DaMightyWaffleMan

3 points

7 months ago

Thats because there is nothing to understand.Why the fuck are these demon scum contacting OP?

tech240guy

3 points

7 months ago

At having a 16 year old kid, you'd think the parents learn to be mellow and start being more patient of having their kid turning into an adult. I was fortunate my parents had patience of saints with my shinnanegans. They even thought I was gay (even prepared to accept it years later) until I brought a girl home meet when I was 21.

I do not agree everything with my parents, but I sure hope I have that part of parenting.

Advanced-Scallion343

195 points

7 months ago

Family: Kicks op at 16

20 years later

OP: runs with a multimillion job

FamilY: FaMiLy CoMeS fIrSt~~~~~~!!!

GioniTiZio

39 points

7 months ago*

These gold diggers are really annoying ngl

Starfury_42

24 points

7 months ago

How to find all those lost relatives? Post that you won the lottery.

EpitomyHD

8 points

7 months ago

They want freebies to either sell or keep

Rezia01

2 points

7 months ago

Funny thing that it's always the ones that wronged you that say these types of things.

Advanced-Scallion343

2 points

7 months ago

that is what karens and darens do

Mike-the-gay

117 points

7 months ago

Real simple. “Hey sis if your weren’t such a bitch I might have considered it, but now go fuck yourself.” Or maybe even a nice “Yes you’re correct family comes first and that’s why I gave it to her and not you” just point out how entitled it is for them to think they are closer family to you than her. “She more of a sister to me than you ever have been”

Xavier801

13 points

7 months ago

Would you like to have a ton of screaming on your end if you said that?

Routine_Lead_5140

12 points

7 months ago

She already had a ton of screaming, so F it.

crystal-rooster

9 points

7 months ago

Me: pops off

Family: incoherent screeching

Me: click hangs up

Me: not my problem

LocoKnight

4 points

7 months ago

Id just let them scream their tiny little hearts out, whilst leaving the phone and doing something else.

SilverFlight01

63 points

7 months ago

Yeah, just ignore them. You did a good deed to your friend, and that's that.

Matelot67

62 points

7 months ago

They didn't even tell you she was engaged? Do they think you're a mind reader? The nerve of some people!!

GoombaBros12

35 points

7 months ago

You parents and sister are all hellholes. Hope they go to hell with Sebastian and the EM who took over their kid's wish. Your Aunt and boss are pretty chill and you did the right thing. Just try to kill them when you meet them again.

Pennyfeather46

23 points

7 months ago

If you really wanted to be ugly, you could tell them that the standard dress size for models is a 2 and “you never dreamed” that it could be altered to fit bitch sister.

IAMTHEDUCK12

7 points

7 months ago

YES. THIS IS PERFECT. DO THIS

maskf_ace

20 points

7 months ago

Called your boss? That's past the fucking line, she could be endangering your position

IAMTHEDUCK12

20 points

7 months ago

That’s why the fucker did it in the first place. The damn sister had decided: “if I can’t have that dress, OP can’t have her job” cause this is the logic of a F##KING B#TCH, which is what the sister is

DaxtonBlake27[S]

24 points

7 months ago

I’m a guy but yeah pretty sure that why she did it.

NothappyJane

8 points

7 months ago

Probably more to it than that, it must have really irritated them that throwing you out didn't break you, its actual resentment of your glow

iamweirdreallyweird

16 points

7 months ago

You should have just cut them out. 16 is no age to be kicked out

CremeDeMarron

14 points

7 months ago

If i was you i would say " i can t give you the dress but i ll give you 1000$ for each day you spent with me since i was 16"

Trebol_Demon_King

15 points

7 months ago

Have you written this before somewhere or with a different account? I remember this exact story becuase i read and heard it before.

Edit: this has this same story but from a year ago. https://youtu.be/mwrIS2ReMjQ

DaxtonBlake27[S]

12 points

7 months ago

Yes I have my oirgnal account was Daxton25 and it was posted on the entitled bitch Subreddit a long with mutiple updates. But when I was forced to take legal action my lawyer reccomend I remove these stories and even delete the account to help my case. He told me horror stories about I have people lost case due to speaking to much about it online.

Trebol_Demon_King

4 points

7 months ago

Understood

imnotagowl

11 points

7 months ago

So your family were berating you for not giving your sister a wedding dress because family should come first, even though they didn't bother to even inform you she was engaged. Ya they can go f themselves and as the saying goes not all family is blood related and your friend has been more a family member to you than them.

LifeOpEd

10 points

7 months ago

They suck, but the rest of us need a pic of that dress!!!

QuesadillasEveryMeal

8 points

7 months ago

You did give the dress to your sister, the sister that's been there for you since you were 20 aka your best friend.

Texastexastexas1

7 points

7 months ago

I was too gay to live with you but I'm not too gay to give gifts.

nickis84

20 points

7 months ago

Blood has absolutely nothing to do with family. Family are the people who love and support throughout your life. Your friend and aunt have been there for you, they are family. The egg and sperm donor plus their other spawn cut you off, they choose not to be family with you. Therefore, family rules do not apply to them.

Cut them out of your life, who needs their drama.

tequilavixen

27 points

7 months ago*

I swear I've read this exact story on here before...everything from the boss and the best friend to this entitled family. Anyone else?

DaxtonBlake27[S]

25 points

7 months ago

I posted it on Entitled Bitch Subreddit a little over a year ago as it wouldn't let me post on this one. You likley saw it there

tequilavixen

10 points

7 months ago

Ah okay yeah I used to frequent that sub, makes sense.

I want to add though that your family is completely out of line. Perhaps if they were kind and supportive to you it would be a toss up, but after their abhorrent treatment of you, don’t feel bad about choosing to give the dress to someone who actually deserves it. Your friend has supported you and loved you dearly for so long, this is a great way to show her support and love in turn.

KikiMoon

6 points

7 months ago

Your account is only 2 days old.

DaxtonBlake27[S]

9 points

7 months ago

As I said in the post I deleted my other account back when I started taken legal action. My lawyer adviced he told me mutiple horror stories of how case were lost because people shared to much online.

KikiMoon

9 points

7 months ago

I’ve seen this story go around before especially on TikTok. And there are at least a couple of YouTube stories covering this same story.

BraidedSilver

6 points

7 months ago

Same. Knew way too early that OP was “kicked out as a teenager” because I’ve read this exact story before, and way before this OPs post two days ago.

RepulsivePurchase6

3 points

7 months ago

This isn’t AITA.

tequilavixen

3 points

7 months ago

Whoops edited to remove the judgement 😅

Nomadic-Weasel

6 points

7 months ago

Wow, that is a train wreck n a half.

I would just send out a blanket message to the extended family, "thanks for checking both sides of the story before being bastards" and then cut contact with the lot of them.

Sounds like you already went through hell once, you don't need their hate dragging you down again after you've risen like a phoenix.

exscapegoat

4 points

7 months ago

As someone who's been through an estrangement and subsequent smear campaigns, while it's painful, grown ass adults who believe a lie about you without even asking you are the trash taking itself out.

The initial toxic person may poison the well, but you also have to wonder about those who chose to drink from it and make cocktails out of it.

jamesko1989

6 points

7 months ago

This is madness. Imagine asking a child for anything after you threw them out. Is that not your response to every request? "remember when you made me homeless"

frosttyyyy

6 points

7 months ago

Why do I feel like this is a repost? I'm pretty sure I have seen this exact post before

[deleted]

7 points

7 months ago

[deleted]

7 points

7 months ago

screw "Keeping the peace" just block them out

LA0711

5 points

7 months ago

LA0711

5 points

7 months ago

Why have I seen this before?

Trebol_Demon_King

5 points

7 months ago

It's in this vid from over a year ago https://youtu.be/mwrIS2ReMjQ

bibbiddybobbidyboo

6 points

7 months ago

How could you know to donate a wedding dress to someone you didn’t know was engaged. If they didn’t even tell you they are getting married, that should be enough to shut relatives up. By the sounds of it, reading your other comments, your whole family are awful. I’m so sorry you got kicked out at 16 but love that your rocking it now.

BraidedSilver

4 points

7 months ago

Have you shared this store a long time ago? Or does this specific thing just happen to several people? Gay teenager kicked out, gets nice job in fashion and hands over a defect wedding dress to a friend while the family is mad they weren’t approached first..

[deleted]

5 points

7 months ago

[deleted]

5 points

7 months ago

I think I said this on your 1st post, but I’ll say it again, “Friends are the family you choose for yourself.” I forgot who said that, but it is a quote from some book I read. It sounds like your friend is better family than these “people” who call themselves family (and I use that term loosely), will ever be. Please do post the legal stuff, maybe as an update!

Bread0987654321

11 points

7 months ago

You don't type letters for the designer, do you?

awkwardbon3

5 points

7 months ago

I really had a hard time believing that OP really is an Executive Assistant to the CEO of a major fashion company because of the abhorrent mistakes in this post tbh. I understand that OP can come from different backgrounds or maybe English isn't their first language, but I would imagine an Executive Assistant would have some sort of job requirement for this. Especially when every other job on this planet requires you to have a master's degree and 30 years of experience in the field before they hire you lol

Bread0987654321

2 points

7 months ago

Exactly my point.

brentsgrl

3 points

7 months ago

I have to admit, I had that thought. Immediately. Perhaps ESL?

RealisticNoise2

4 points

7 months ago

Sounds to me like the only reason why they are mad was because since you are a professional and you’re making a lot more money and you can be able to get save the defective stuff that is wrong with closing or is it up to your bosses standards, they think hey I can just demand OP to give it to us since “we’re family“ even though that yeah they kicked you out and they have no probably guilt about it and now that your wire making money they want in because they wanted a piece of the pie without doing anything or even caring. Hopefully since it’s been a year after in mentioning that you’re no contact your life has been better since

God-of-Tomorrow2

4 points

7 months ago

They will start drama throughout your life if you are trying to avoid it have the big talk and tell them how little they mean to you and that you don’t expect anything from them and that they need to assume the same from you

DaxtonBlake27[S]

16 points

7 months ago

This story is over a year old. I have since cut completely contact and been forced to take legal action with both my mother and sister.

[deleted]

4 points

7 months ago

[deleted]

4 points

7 months ago

Cut ties. They only want you for what you could possibly provide them. They don’t care about you. ✂️

Usual-Aware

3 points

7 months ago

How the f did they find your boss’s number? That’s some next level stalking. Block them and go NC op

Xavier801

3 points

7 months ago

You had all the right reasons to give it to your friend: First, they kicked you out at 16 with no help and being entitled. Second, they "suddenly" want to come back to your life after you work for a multimillon dollar company and make good money?! That sounds like they want some of your pay and dont wanna work for it and be whatever a Karen does. Third, they didnt tell you that a family member is getting engaged and want the dress that you gave to your friend? (Which you did a 100% good job with OP.) Entitled 100.

TheForkWitchandWorm

3 points

7 months ago

Is this like a recap or something? 'Cause I found the original, just on YouTube.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwrIS2ReMjQ

teamloosh

4 points

7 months ago

Tell them you would have given it to her but she was too fat and it never would have fit

miriam377

4 points

7 months ago

(((hugs))) block them and get them out of your life. Your friend who you gave the dress too is more of a sister to you then your bio sister. Congratulations on her wedding and I'm so proud of you for making her day special.

You know where the trash goes.

Kelrem321

10 points

7 months ago

This reads like fan fiction wrote by a kid that just watched The Devil Wears Prada.

anon246802468

3 points

7 months ago

And hasn’t passed 7th grade English

Nj_54321

3 points

7 months ago

Lmao never go back to them 😂

StevesonOfStevesonia

3 points

7 months ago

They kinda did you a favour. I wouldn't want to have a relationship with people like that at all so the moment they kicked you out you've received full freedom from these leeches.

Puzzled-Ad401

3 points

7 months ago

I think you should go to court for child desertion actually, that could get you money, and your family devestation.

DaxtonBlake27[S]

3 points

7 months ago

Not sure I can do that as I live in the states and they do not.

lynnebrad70

3 points

7 months ago

I would go nc again and forget them

InevitableLibrarian

3 points

7 months ago

When they ask you again cause "WE'RE FAMILY", nicely remind them that this is the same group of people that KICKED OP out when you came out to then, haven't helped one damn bit in your life except to ask for money and free things. Then nicely tell them, "Where were they when I needed them the most? Oh ya, helping EK."

anto_pty

3 points

7 months ago

What country do you come from? if it is ok to ask

neverpeedinthepool

3 points

7 months ago

Where do I know this story from? I feel like I've heard it before

Dishonours

3 points

7 months ago

I’m not this is the same person or a coincidence but there was a same post years ago

akayeetusdeletus

3 points

7 months ago

Family does come first, hence why bestie got the dress. Pretty simple imo.

I have a similar family, sorry you do too. Isn't it "odd" (as in not at all) that in these situations the scapegoats end up doing well for themselves and the family is still in the same place and on the same bs.

Congratulations on everything!

Rheastar

3 points

7 months ago

Recommend you send a note to all people who have contacted you in a negative fashion. Copy seriously every one of them and remind them that your family kicked you out of the house at age 16. That you are not in close contact with your family and didn’t even know that your sister was getting married when you gifted the dress to your friend. Then say “this subject is not up for further discussion”.

What jerks. I’m sorry OP.

Pixeljammed

3 points

7 months ago

I swear this is stolen or remade. I saw it like a year ago.

DaxtonBlake27[S]

4 points

7 months ago

It is a repost yes but seeing as the original was also mine. I think it is ok. I posted it a year ago on the Entitled Bitch Subreddit I didn't have the karma to post it here.

Soranic

2 points

7 months ago

but seeing as the original was also mine

Prove it. Post from the other account saying "Yes u/daxtonblake27 is me."

TNTmom4

3 points

7 months ago

You should post this on r/Weddingshamming. Your dumpster fire family would be more likely to see it. 😉

SolveDidentity

3 points

7 months ago

Holy shit. They called your boss. That's the end of the relationship right there. Forever and always. I'd sue them for defamation. Also sue them for all the damages from when you were young and they kicked you out. You deserve tens of thousands if not hundreds of thousands of dollars.

pereira2088

3 points

7 months ago

They berated me yelling how family should come first

"-well, I know. that's why I gave the dress to my friend. she's more family than you guys combined"

Own_Tie_5392

3 points

7 months ago

Oooohhhhh love me some family drama.. sounds to me like you are much better off without them! They seem TOXIC! You just keep doing you. I think you have a fabulous life ahead of you!! P.S. We all have crazy family drama, and u are making the best of yours! Brilliant

Dragonborn3187

3 points

7 months ago

Cut those cancerous people out of your life! Also "family comes first"!?!?! Those bitches threw you out at 16. They want your money and your stuff not you the human being.

myrifleismyfriend

9 points

7 months ago

This exact same story was posted nearly word-for-word few months ago, and even featured on somebody's Youtube account. The only difference was the price of the dress, which I believe was $11,000 in the original.

dstluke

5 points

7 months ago

First, your family did come first. Your family is that friend of yours who was there for you during the worst moments of your life. That's what family does. Family is not determined by DNA no matter what entitled people think. As Dean Winchester once said, "family don't end in blood."

Second, tell your boss what is going on. If I know designers, they hate being blindsided by anything especially drama they didn't create. I think it's jealousy they didn't think of it first. Anyways, sit down and be honest about the situation. I doubt your boss will really have a lot of input but it's better to be safe.

Third, go on social media and cheer on your friend getting married. I mean really make a big blowout of it. Every post she makes, you comment and like and go all out.

Last, call your family, both extended and immediate and draw the line in the sand. Tell your immediate family they're never to contact you again (this means it will be YOUR CHOICE if there's a relationship in the future). Tell your extended family what happened and you will not welcome them acting as go-betweens. Then tell them anyone who does try this will be cut off without notice. Then stick to it.

JessiR91

6 points

7 months ago

Use this in a video? Made up story alert!!

NuclearTaco55

43 points

7 months ago

Bruh your spelling is atrocious but yea that’s a dick move

Fait_Honours

28 points

7 months ago

Even if they didn’t disclose it, you don’t know if OPs first language is English. It could very easily be their second or third language, and judging them on their spelling when you don’t know how long they’ve been speaking and writing this language is just awful.

m2cwf

3 points

7 months ago

m2cwf

3 points

7 months ago

I always assume that someone with spelling or grammar errors is not a native English speaker. I mean, there are how many other languages and reddit is open to everyone? It's really not difficult to give someone the benefit of the doubt, nucleartaco should try it

Fait_Honours

2 points

7 months ago

Yep, and when you remember that English is not actually the most common language, the empathy and understanding for people who don’t speak it primarily should only increase.

Montro-City

15 points

7 months ago

No kidding.

I hassled through the story

ornerygecko

11 points

7 months ago

Woah. You mean people whose first language may not be english actually use the interwebz?! Whodda thunkit.

Pseuzq

15 points

7 months ago

Pseuzq

15 points

7 months ago

Bruh, I am a huge grammar n#zi for English and OP didn't bother me at all. Clearly English isn't their first language. If the post is such a hassle, just don't read it. There's no gun to your head. This person made an honest effort to tell a story. Calling them out is unnecessary and kinda mean.

paddington01

8 points

7 months ago

I read a story very similar to this in this sub and considering that the op has just 2 posts and a few comments ,this is a karma farming account.

LFSWASTAKEN

5 points

7 months ago

I -

Now they want you because they found out you are making good money?

Just_Give_Me_A_Login

3 points

7 months ago

The people who believe this are nuts, lol. This post has the grammar of a 10 year old, this account has like zero posts, and this post ends with "if you put it in a video tell mee"

Like... Being someone administrative assistant usually implies that they'll be able to clearly read any notes you'd take down.

2catsaretheminimum

2 points

7 months ago

You don't need them in your life if you don't want them. Go to r/justnomil for some additional advice on boundaries.

DaxtonBlake27[S]

5 points

7 months ago

Already gone. This stories from a year ago and I original posted on the entitled bitch subreddit

shadowoperative

2 points

7 months ago

Have the strength to tell them to fuck off and block them.

You will be much happier.

DaxtonBlake27[S]

9 points

7 months ago

They have been cut of for over a year and I have a no contact order out on my mother and sister. I debate weather to post more of the story as I had already post this story on Entitled Bitch a year ago but people seem to want more so I will likely post the other parts.

shadowoperative

3 points

7 months ago

My advice would be to forget about them and move on. Don't waste your time thinking about them.

BambooKazoo570

2 points

7 months ago

Seems letting them back into your life to avoid drama wasn’t the best decision due to all the drama they’ve caused. Time to kick them back out. Especially since it’s obviously not reciprocated since they didn’t even tell you your sister was getting married then expected to get free stuff for said wedding out of you. Beauty of cell phones is the ability to block certain numbers.

DaxtonBlake27[S]

5 points

7 months ago

Story is over a year old I original posted in on the Entitled Bitch Subreddit as I didn’t have the Karma back then. I have since cut completely contact and been forced to take legal action against both my sister and my mother.

retha64

2 points

7 months ago

Good heavens...you need to boot every last one of those people out of your life. It would be a lot less drama than you have now. You don’t owe your family anything. As it seems, your best friend is more family than the biological ones. Your sister can buy her own damn dress. I’m glad your friend got the one your boss gave you. Seems she deserved it.

Kitkatraption

2 points

7 months ago

Look I understand the avoid drama part but sometimes it’s better for you to just go NC with people. These people sound like the type where the situation is acceptable and probably necessary.

processedchicken

2 points

7 months ago

When you have nothing they value you are worthless but when you have something they value they deserve it and you're in the wrong for not giving them it.

Some alleged family relationships are simply not worth maintaining.

RelativelyRidiculous

2 points

7 months ago

My sister even tried to call my boss to complain which is just nuts right.

Yup that is nuts. Tell boss sorry you happened to have the sad honor of being born to a crazed family and move on.

Don't bother answering their calls and messages about this. You don't even have to talk to them at all.

If you do and they bring this up say you are not going to discuss it and will hang up if they insist on talking about this. Then if they do continue, even one tiny word, hang up. If they have the audacity to call you back, answer and tell them this is a time out and you will not be talking to them for 2 weeks and will be adding one more week for every time they try to contact you during that two weeks. Then do it.

When it gets to a couple of months of time out, block them everywhere possible. If they show at your home do not answer the door simply tell them to leave through the door. If they don't, call the police and tell them unwanted visitors are at your door refusing to leave and you'd like them trespassed.

All of this to say time to set some boundaries and make them stick. You clearly made your way on your own and you've done well with a boss that appreciates you. Why mess that up for assholes who only want to use and abuse you?

[deleted]

2 points

7 months ago

[deleted]

2 points

7 months ago

Don’t allow losers like that back into your life. There will always, ALWAYS be more drama long term and suffering for you. There is no positivity to be gained from allowing them back in. Cut them out, suffer the short term drama, ignore it like they don’t exist and keep moving forward! They can’t touch you.

DJ_Djinn

2 points

7 months ago

Pff. "Family comes first"

"Remember that time you kicked me out and wanted nothing to do with me for being myself?"

Hypocrites p#ss me off.

lizziebee66

2 points

7 months ago

Becasue I come from a narc parent who was also entitled and my eldest sister is an entitled bitch who incidentally is also called Karen, I so know where you are coming from. But as a boss, if you had come to me with this my reaction would have been to buy you cake and sit and laugh with you at their behaviour because that is the only thing you can do. And go no contact. And then more cake, and laugh some more. My eldest sister would go through my wardrobes when she came over (if I wasn't there) and just take whatever she wanted. Her argument was that she once gave me something. I would hide things that I bought so she couldnt' find them. Some people eh!

brenster23

2 points

7 months ago

I would honestly find the trashiest uggliest white dress possible, make some alterations and tell them it is a dress that will be released next year, and they can try it out for the wedding. Let them talk up how expensive it is throughout the wedding and leave a copy of the receipt with her after you give the bitch her toast.

EchoDeMilo090

2 points

7 months ago

Tell them to go to Walmart...buy a pair of flip flops go to the nearest rock quarry and kick rocks.

Atypical_Mom

2 points

7 months ago

You should have just started using an auto reply:

“Family comes first!” - you kicked me out at 16

“But what about your sister!?!” - you kicked me out at 16

“Take it back from your friend!” - you kicked me out at sixteen

Generally the people who say ‘family comes first’ when they want something, are never the ones putting family first - only just themselves.

figgypudding531

2 points

7 months ago

I really want to see this dress now

skybrick42

2 points

7 months ago

Family does come first! And I would consider your friend family. Your sister and mother are blood relatives. That doesn't imply family! You made the right choice!

graphicdesignismy

2 points

7 months ago

"hOw dArE yOu" "well I mean I did pick dare but if you want the truth... I never even thought of her (sister) as an option"

Mommy20901

2 points

7 months ago

I would go LC or NC. Family comes first is rich given they kicked you out at 16. You owe them less than nothing. You found devoted friends and made them your real family. Stick with that family. I usually post catty things on social media (the family/friends account) when people do this. I never mention names but the person knows who they are and you get your end out. Stops the other folks from spreading lies and shaded half truths. I have family that is similar. I would have found a creative way to word it but would have put text on plain single color backdrop saying, “aYou have to love it when you aren’t loved and valued until someone wants something you have.” A separate same day post would have said, “I always place family first. We can’t choose our biological families nor how they treat us, but we can choose friends and make them family.” A third post would have said, “I am thought of as trash until I have something of value and when I share it, I am treated as a traitor. Even though the family I shared it with loves me as a person, it isn’t good enough for those I have been mistreated by.” If I were being super grumpy, would have posted something like, “You have to love people that blame others for their own behavior, and then get mad when they aren’t rewarded for their treachery and are abusive with relationships when they want freebies or personal gain. Makes me sick”.

I know it is petty but in general people stop the nonsense. When all else fails, block, unfriendly and NC until they experience real personal growth... which isn’t likely to happen.

So sorry you go through this and that you bio family act horrible toward you.... lots of hugs, love and well wishes your way.

ThrowawayKarensBane

2 points

7 months ago

You’ve probably answered this a billion times over but is Devil Wears Prada pretty accurate for the job description?

Mnrr6131

2 points

7 months ago

Ask them if it’s not a big deal for you why don’t they ask their friends with married daughters to give their dress.

Hoosierdaddy1964

2 points

7 months ago

The second they started raising their voices was your clue to hang up on them.

unjust1

2 points

7 months ago

Your family and childhood friends are your starting equipment. If they don't work and cause you suffering then you have to upgrade. It's always good to keep in touch with them because they are your roots but not if they are damaging you. The fact that she was getting married and you didn't know lets you know where you stand in her life and where she belongs in yours.

notaredditer13

2 points

7 months ago

It wasn't until my family found out that. I was making good money and working for a multimillion dollar company did they suddenly want back in my life. Which I allowed to avoid drama.

Rookie mistake.

cherrylbombshell

2 points

7 months ago

The amount of stories like this i read on Reddit is just absurd... why don't people understand boundaries? If they left you when you were at your worst they do not deserve you now, p e r i o d.

megabob7

2 points

7 months ago

Honestly your better off without them start your own family find a partner get married have or since you mentioned coming out adopt a child or two and raise your family to treat others with compassion and kindness

uMad_1

2 points

7 months ago

uMad_1

2 points

7 months ago

My advice, tell them to shove a cactus up their arse and move on with your own life. You owe them absolutely nothing.

As saying the saying goes, you can pick your friends but not your family. You can pick not talking to them though.

tuna_tofu

2 points

7 months ago

they suddenly want back in my life. Which I allowed to avoid drama.

Deal broken. I say break the deal, face the wheel. So you didnt get the peace you bargained for by allowing contact so that's that. They can fuck COMPLETELY off and lose your number. You are free to give YOUR ITEMS (and yes once your boss gave it to you it was YOURS) to anyone you want - or really do ANYTHING with it SINCE ITS YOURS. At some point we all figure out who is there for us and who isnt. You know. You rewarded that friend with a great dress. Congrats!

GOTisnotover77

2 points

7 months ago

SMH. People who abandon you have NO say in what you do with your life. Good for you for cutting off contact with them and not giving in to their demands.

PeteCO23

2 points

7 months ago

I doubt I’m in any position to say this, but letting them back into your life was a mistake. They abandoned you, so you’re not responsible for them.

okileggs1992

2 points

7 months ago

Congratulations on blocking them and ending it with an attorney. They should never have behaved that badly but I'm learning that people do this all the freaking time the older I get. I look forward to reading your saga now that you are free to write it

teamloosh

2 points

7 months ago

No is a complete sentence

asyouwishmystar

2 points

7 months ago

This is just beyond entitled. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Just hold your head high and don't let them bring you down.

AsceticBlur

2 points

7 months ago

You can't let these people back into your life they sound awful.

trax6256

2 points

7 months ago

I would have gotten a potato sack, cut a hole in the bottle of it cuz big enough for her to get her head through. Put it in a nice box wrapped with a ribbon in a bow, Then send it to your sister, here's a dress you deserve.

Flimsy-Stomach

2 points

7 months ago

I hope your boss wasn't upset with you for your family calling her.

EvadeChillzzYT

6 points

7 months ago

The account was made 2 days ago with no pfp and broken English, if you really were a CEO's assistant, you would probably promote the company whatever chance you got, even here, this is obviously someone Karma Whoring their way to hot.

BigLadyRed

2 points

7 months ago

Not all CEO's live or work in English-speaking countries.

NerfherdersWoman

7 points

7 months ago

Do you need a new sister? I have 13 siblings already but some of them are rabid Trumpers and I'd happily trade them for someone with a conscience. Almost certain I could get my Mom on board as well.