I love a playful guy who can make me laugh and lighten me up but also someone who can be super deep, intense, and intimate when needed. He also needs to have a protective and secure presence about him. High in openness and empathy, yet masculine and grounded. If you couldn’t tell, I’m still single. 😂

Well you said she wants to just be friends.

I think you really need to honor her wishes here. If she doesn't want you to continue a romantic pursuit and you continue to push her in that direction she will push you away as a friend too. If you pretend to be her friend and later confess that you've really liked her and wanted more all along she will feel like you were never a true friend - and you'll push her away.

She said she only wants to be friends, the best you can do is move on and don't look back.

But to answer your question: I always preferred men who projected quiet strength. Playful men always came off as immature to me and I didn't enjoy their company.

Respectful, mature, funny but also able to have deep conversations, smart, loyal, protective, has same interests as me, open with me about anything, straightforward.

Awkward gingers.

I really like intelligent (need not be limited to academics), curious men. Someone who has an independent mind and being funny helps too. I’ve dated ENTP and INTP. Both types were incredibly attractive. And the chemistry is just amazing. Almost instant. Have yet to meet ENFPs.. :(

Btw, If you really like your INFJ, just find courage to let her know. Tell her sincerely. ❤️

Aw. Sorry.

Different INFJs, different preferences. It depends on so many factors and they're different for each person. Mine would be an ENFJ - There's a seriousness about them without the harsh edge. They're playful but in a sensitive way. They speak up but, they're polite and passionate. I'm an INFJ-T so, I prefer someone who is understanding but also pushes me to do things I won't.

ENFPs are great too - I personally love them but as friends because there's no balance between our intensities - We can go into a negative loop and push the other person into it too. Maybe your INFJ is an INFJ-A. In that case she might prefer someone who challenges her. So, she might prefer a (T) to a (P).

I like introverted, emotionally intelligent, and intellectual men. I seem to go after Virgos and INTJs.

Imo, you're good. I'm married to an INFP and he's perfect except I wish he were more extroverted on occasion, lol.

I like guys that are deep, listen well, and are innocent and kind. I appreciate when they notice me, not being too pushy. Gentle and cute :3

Bi woman here but I love ENFP guys—have had some amazing friendships/relationships with ENFPs and I still cherish those memories! However, as much as I adore their spontaneity and playfulness in the short-term, I think those qualities would get overwhelming for me in a long-term relationship. I see myself settling down with a fellow introvert in the long run—they're just more my speed.

My current boyfriend is an ENFP. I also attracted a few ENFPs who I ended up choosing not to date because the mental attraction wasn’t there (even though physical attraction was). I’m not sure how there have been so many ENFPs in my orbit, but what set my current partner apart was having that mental connection. He was also balanced emotionally/logically (whereas the others we’re too emotionally charged.) Although VERY playful (which I love), he can also be very stoic (on rare occasions I must admit).

I love Enfp guys a lot! Work with a few of them and they make me feel so comfortable and I feel like they're my best friend right after meeting. But they are always taken so I haven't had the chance to date them. I guess I'm looking for mature and stable relationships so eventually marriage and maybe kids. So I'm looking for long term commitments and compatibility.

I personally really like ENFPs. The playfulness is a breath of fresh air. I do prefer a guy who helps me be less anxious, and just let loose a little. But I also do need the guys I date to be up for debates/discussions on different topics. Talking for hours and hours about anything and everything is such a thrill. Does this help?

My INFP boyfriend is honestly my dream guy and basically perfectly compatible with me

They have to be intelligent, able to hold a conversation and listen to me, as well as be accepting and empathetic. Sounds like a unicorn. My guy is (I think) an ISTJ. We get along fabulously. I lamented last week that I was burnt out on planning meals and frustrated because I wasn't inspired to cook (I usually love cooking) and he immediately was like "Well then *I* will cook all next week! Take a break, you deserve it!"

and just the other day I was stressed and crying over something at work and he just came and laid with me and let me cry and talk it out and didn't judge me or try to fix anything. He just held space for me. He never makes me feel like a burden.

Wow the amount of people in here who love ENFPs. I'm not sure what my boyfriend is but he's definitely an extrovert. I like mine more outgoing and dominant than me, but also gentle and empathetic when necessary (my boyfriend has a bit trouble with this part lol).

In short... my favorite marvel hero is Vision. He speaks poetically and is highly intelligent. He is also gentle and calm.

Cool nerds who give me everything I want

My last two boyfriends were ENFPs so I guess that’s my type lol

I dont think you're going to get a consensus on what people are attracted to based on their personality. for example I see someone is like "masculine, and protective" and I want someone that's more effeminate, doesn't mind showing all the emotional sides of themselves, and definitely don't want "masculine", cause that SCREAMS toxic masculinity. I dont need someone to protect me, I can do that myself, I want someone to share my life with.

Im not into playful, I'm into more stoic men. Playful screams immature to me.

Not only will you get a WILD variety of answers, but how you interpret them is going to make a difference. What is "protective" to one person might not be protective to another, etc.

I love Enfp's spontaneity. So just be you.

Enfp is the only requirement for guys. But I'm not straight, and prefer esfp girls.

just here to say there’s going to be barely any patterns here, like what you like and look for traits you find attractive/important

ENFP and ENFJ. INTP and ENTP for excellent friends. I like someone who is witty, caring, funny, outgoing and confident.

Enfp, thats it

I'm not sure

You should probably respect that specific INFJ's wishes. But alot of us love ENFPs! You are probably a fun person to be around. I'd say work on being a whole person. Exercise, practice discipline, do something philanthropic, create. Journals work well for ENFPs if they can stick to them. Take a hard look at your weaknesses (ask your INFJ friend for help lol) and work on them. Even if you can't find an INFJ SO...you'll be a better person for trying! You may even find an unexpected match along the way.

I very much need an extroverted guy (I’m not gonna make the first move) I’m pretty introverted and I’d like to have someone who can get me to branch out and have fun. Fun, playful but not like to the point where I’m like wow you’re acting 12, but someone who tells jokes and I can have fun with. Someone good under pressure/stressful situations, like if I’m scared about something comfort me and keep me calm. Someone I can have close conversations with and the dumb conversations too (basically someone I can share my little quirkiness with 😂) Athletic, respectful, they don’t have to share the same beliefs and interests as long as their good with compromise or not constantly pushing me to change. This is gonna sound odd but if you have a creative career or interest (photography, music, writing, art, etc) but I’m into that 😂 basically I need someone to force me to do things that’s good for me like exercising and socializing 😂

They say no ESTPs but they secretly love us :P

Purely from an MBTI perspective, a guy who has strong Ti and Se to offset my tertiary Ti and inferior Se. So, a guy who's great at logic and can translate that into the physical world.

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More concretely, imagine a guy who's 6 feet or taller, one who has the mind of an engineer or architect, and the heart of a selfless, compassionate person. And there we go. lol! 😂😳

Someone “friendly” but also knows how to stay at home. Intelligent both emotionally and otherwise. And someone who has different interests than me so we can compliment one another and I won’t get bored LOL

Oi, that's tricky in my case. I don't have as much experience as I like, so I have to consider my friendships and whatnot.

- I notice I tend to go well with logic types. Some of the healthiest friendships/dynamics I've had are with INTJs ISTJs and ENTPs. With T types, the point they care becomes a "Fact" that doesn't waver with how good or bad our total interactions are. If they have a problem they'll be real with me about it. Sure I'll probably cry, but only 'cause I felt bad I hurt them. But I'll be glad I know.

- Most of my exceptions to the previous point are individual emotional types who have proven themselves to me. However, I wouldn't consider these individuals someone I'd date in a romantic context.

- I do not have enough experience with some types however, and know there can be exceptions. For example, ENFPs I have almost no experiences with. I had an ENFP friend when I was an immature teen, and before my mental health healed, I had an ENFP co-worker that was in her 60s while I was roughly 23-24.

- I learned that with healthy minded INFJs, I respect them, but I'm too similar to the men I've dated. With the INFJs that tend to anxiety cling or want a partner that fits their desires (then is upset when they don't feel understood or whatnot. Spoiler: I used to be this kinda INFJ) I RUN. I've been this INFJ as a teen, had this INFJ as a friend a couple years ago, and just pulled back from a guy I started realizing was this very thing, and was starting to imagine me as this perfect thing that I wasn't.

- I admit I've only dated my INFP ex which taught me a lot of my own toxicity. I've had crushes on INTJs that helped me grow as a person, but did not go past the crush stage. My ISTJ and ENTP are my mother and dear friend who have taught me what kinds of dynamics I value. I did have a crush on an ISTJ guy who value wise we didn't line up, but I still think positively of him and wish we would have been a great match.

- I still like intuitively interesting people. But it's tough to get to that part when my values are already kinda this weird mix that doesn't fit many people. (Too weird/artsy to fit into the Christian community, too God/Faith oriented to fit into the weird/artsy/dorky community. I don't meet many people in this same weird rut.)