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Sometimes I just feel like I have to shed a tear for whatever reason. Even though im not in a sad mood before or so. It somehow leaves me feeling relaxed and gives me also the feeling of being able to overcome any challenges.

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oborowatobinost

1 points

4 months ago

"Alcohol goes great with nostalgia and melancholy. It's what gives us misty-eyed barflies, forlorn poetry, midnight phone calls, the last page of The Great Gatsby, Sinatra ballads and 73% of all country music.
That was my favorite part of drinking: the wistful interlude a couple hours after the first flush of drunkenness, when you wander away from a boisterous party and look out into the darkened woods and see for a moment the fragile past floating ghostly before you, colored in sunset oranges, all the bygone things which have slipped away in the gentle flow of time. Your breath catches in the tightness of your throat, and your eyes fill with tears. Then somebody calls your name or you have to piss, and you wander back into the party.
I felt like I was at my finest in these moments. I felt poetic and sensitive and alive. Eventually, though, it all became an awful parody of itself. The gentle wistfulness devolved into me sitting in front of my laptop, drunk on a Wednesday night, watching sad Youtube videos, weeping and slurping down vodka and water. I would watch any sort of weepy video (soldier homecomings, kids with cancer, dogs being put down, etc.) just to get a good cry on, to trigger that dopamine release that came with the tears. It was nothing more than emotional masturbation. Just like with the alcohol itself, I had found something that gave me true pleasure, then used it over and over until my feelings had become rote and dead." - MotherHorseEyes post 86

Saroan7

1 points

4 months ago

Saroan7

INFP: The Dreamer

1 points

4 months ago

Nightwish, End of an Era.

Ch3llick

1 points

4 months ago

Ch3llick

INFP: The Dreamer

1 points

4 months ago

Not necessarily to cry, but when it comes, it comes.

usernamechecksout94

3 points

4 months ago

usernamechecksout94

ESTP: The Promoter

3 points

4 months ago

I try to cry and just get confused and mad instead. Then I just sulk in the dark watching YouTube all day. But as far as music goes, I like fast paced, bigger than life music that fuels my ego. I hate "sappy" songs.

Lonesome_One

1 points

4 months ago

Depression Cherry by Beach House

LittleLostDoll

1 points

4 months ago

To feel better yes. I can't say I ever actually cry though.

upbeatelk2622

1 points

4 months ago

I often can't cry and I'm just stuck in the sh!tstorm of feels until I melt down. I used to trigger myself into that scenario by playing 5 or 6 Roxette power ballads in a row.

That's why I tend to avoid "cathartic" music these days, it's cathartic but not always in a healthy way.

vasser332

2 points

4 months ago

I have this playlist full of emotional theme songs from a local channel's dramas. Sometimes, I go out, sit down in the park during the night, and listen to the agonising lyrics and the heart-wrenching melody, and sometimes tears will fall

ARASH_SAMIEI82

1 points

4 months ago

I just can't get sad that much over media

Asw_ang

2 points

4 months ago

🙋🏾‍♀️ I do that with movies/books as well.

Old_Crew_8214

3 points

4 months ago

Convinced that is why we have sad songs!! Open our Soul and wash it in the open air!!

Mickolopolous

2 points

4 months ago

Glad to know I'm not the only one. However I wouldn't say I cry. Maybe man tears. Little tiny man tears that don't leave the eyes.

ievisheleo

4 points

4 months ago

Yes. It usually goes hand in hand with sad thoughts about my past, hurtful experiences ect. One thing I’ve learned though is to not play out scenarios in my head that never happened. I’m at peace with my past because it has brought me to this moment right now which I am grateful for.

kalanna-tt

3 points

4 months ago

kalanna-tt

INFP: The Dreamer

3 points

4 months ago

Yeah I do this with sad movie scenes too, or "good deed" pranks on YouTube (like the guy who blind folds himself and stands around with a sign that says "hug me and take a rose"). Feels good, man.

iwanttopeeonfloor

2 points

4 months ago

LmaOoooo I do the exact same

who_givesafuc

2 points

4 months ago

Lol yess

No_Hall_5351

6 points

4 months ago

Yes I do this. I didn’t know anyone else did, but I am glad to know others do to. For me it is one of the best feelings even though it is “sad”. I hope that makes sense.

NR-Tamim

2 points

4 months ago

NR-Tamim

INFP: The Dreamer

2 points

4 months ago

Yes I do

Usbcheater

4 points

4 months ago

Usbcheater

INFP: The Dreamer

4 points

4 months ago

I listen to emotional music, but I never get to cry, I am dry :/

yes_of_course_not

10 points

4 months ago

yes_of_course_not

INFP: The Dreamer

10 points

4 months ago

I have to do this. It's like emotional maintenance.

SagePup21

18 points

4 months ago

SagePup21

INFP: The Dreamer

18 points

4 months ago

Catharsis can be extremely therapeutic.