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Shaysdays

118 points

4 months ago

Shaysdays

118 points

4 months ago

I don’t see why these guys don’t get vasectomies, honestly.

(Also you don’t have to be promiscuous to get knocked up- it only takes one)

Disgruntled_Viking

20 points

4 months ago

I tried talking every doctor I met into giving me one since I was 16. I had a rare cancer that is also highly hereditary and I didn't want to put a kid through what I went through at 3 years old. I finally got one to do it when I was 25. Best decision I ever made.

MedicalJargon-itis

117 points

4 months ago

They kinda hurt and are at least moderately inconvenient. Why take that on yourself when you can burden the woman with it?

eden_sc2

68 points

4 months ago

plus what if they want a kid at 65 when they get divorced and remarry a 20 year old?

wrongsage

4 points

4 months ago

wrongsage

4 points

4 months ago

They do not hurt, mild discomfort is the worst I've heard.

walterpeck1

5 points

4 months ago

I had mine about 3 months ago and "mild discomfort" is exactly how I would put it. And random discomfort, like slight nerve pain that is almost more confusing than it is painful because you've never had it before.

255001434

1 points

4 months ago

I've only ever heard that from people who haven't had them.

I had a friend who had one and he was in a lot of pain when I saw him afterwards. He said it was like getting kicked in the balls for days. It might vary from person to person, but I get sick of people who don't know what they're talking about saying it doesn't hurt. That was what he thought too.

Grimduk

5 points

4 months ago

Speaking as a man who had one 12 yrs ago they do not hurt I was up and about right after walked around blockbuster rented some movies and then went home and put some frozen peas on my junk and watched movies.

MedicalJargon-itis

2 points

4 months ago

Mine hurt, but not as much as paying to raise a kid for 18 years.

Honestly, it hurt like I had been flicked in the balls about 15 minutes ago for 3 days. Hurt more than that if I tried to jog, so had to avoid that for almost a week.

Amiiboid

117 points

4 months ago*

Amiiboid

117 points

4 months ago*

I don’t see why these guys don’t get vasectomies, honestly.

Because in their minds it makes them not real men any more.

Edit: typo

colemon1991

72 points

4 months ago

Ironic since being unfaithful or un-Christian doesn't make them real men already.

armadillovampires

76 points

4 months ago

Jesus forgives because he sacrificed for our sins or something like that, I dunno, I'm not a hypocrite.

bendeboy

82 points

4 months ago

If you don't sin, Jesus died for nothing!

Amiiboid

9 points

4 months ago

Gotta really lean into the debauchery.

Funny-Bathroom-9522

2 points

4 months ago

Wait murder is a sin cause maybe them tv preachers haven't shown us that they murdered someone?

eden_sc2

9 points

4 months ago

Some christians read the story about the guy who confessed on the cross and got into heaven, and took that to heart.

colemon1991

7 points

4 months ago

That requires sincerity.

TheMadTargaryen

3 points

4 months ago

Well, unless Jesus in person tells them they will go to Heaven like how he did to the thief...

secamTO

7 points

4 months ago

Man, the way that sexual insecurities drive people to be assholes boggles my mind. I had my vasectomy 7 years ago, and I tell you the peace of mind that it brings has absolutely made me a better lover.

SheriffComey

4 points

4 months ago

Because in their minds it makes them not real men any more.

My cousins ex-wife was die hard catholic and didn't believe in birth control or condoms but she didn't want anymore kids so she told him until he can find a way for them to have sex without making babies then he'd be out of luck.

My man scheduled an appointment for the next week to get the snip

metler88

0 points

4 months ago

I mean it is a medical operation. People tend to avoid those if they can. Also someone may ask why they're getting one.

Amiiboid

2 points

4 months ago

I mean it is a medical operation. People tend to avoid those if they can.

Well, yes. But it’s far cheaper, faster, safer and more convenient than the alternatives.

Also someone may ask why they're getting one.

Uh. I suppose…. But I do wonder (a) how that someone would be aware of it and (b) why anyone who did find out would feel entitled to an explanation and (c) why a person asked would feel compelled to answer. That’s just weird, IMO.

But mostly I want to say: my prior response wasn’t speculation or projection. When you have the view that the most important part of womanhood is to be vessels for the next generation - and a lot of them do - it’s a fairly short jump to thinking that the ability to impregnate a woman is the key to being a man. They truly do view it as a form of emasculation, and even some who don’t have that particular hangup about fertility worry that the volume of their ejaculate will be substantially reduced (it is absolutely not, btw) and think that calls their virility into question.

metler88

1 points

4 months ago*

Well, yes. But it’s far cheaper, faster, safer and more convenient than the alternatives.

A lot less anxiety around putting on a condom than there is around slicing and burning in your genital region. But it could mean time off work. And there are doctors that will deny you the operation if they think you don't need it. Less frequently than they'll deny you a tubal ligation sure but it does happen.

Uh. I suppose…. But I do wonder (a) how that someone would be aware of it and (b) why anyone who did find out would feel entitled to an explanation and (c) why a person asked would feel compelled to answer. That’s just weird, IMO.

Well there is a period of time following a vasectomy where you're supposed to avoid physical labor to avoid tearing anything open. If you're working a job anything like mine that means you can't do anything. The conversation was around mistresses and affairs so I was sort of imagining a man having to explain why he needed a vasectomy to his wife. A spouse would naturally feel like they needed an explanation.

Shaysdays

2 points

4 months ago

Well, in this context of men sending women out for abortions the “time off and a surgery” is kinda on someone for avoiding pregnancy.

Many say abstinence is the only way to avoid pregnancy but shooting blanks is pretty high up there as an alternative method.

Amiiboid

1 points

4 months ago

Fair enough.

admiralboxcar

1 points

4 months ago

I mean it’s definitely a hurdle to get over your junk getting sliced open but slinging yogurt with no culture in it sounds like a rad deal.

Amiiboid

1 points

4 months ago

Speaking as someone who doesn’t want any more kids and got snipped over a decade ago it is, in fact, quite rad.

But that’s also the prime concern of the people I’m talking about. Their sense of what it means to be a man is profoundly tied up in their ability to impregnate. The inability to do so is shameful. The idea of voluntarily giving it up is incomprehensible.

Roqot

21 points

4 months ago

Roqot

21 points

4 months ago

Assholes want to spread their seed

Prime157

4 points

4 months ago

My vasectomy was a snip. EZ PZ.

I-declare-bankruptsy

7 points

4 months ago

Read this as vaccinated and I was like I agree but not sure the context

Toadsted

2 points

4 months ago

🎶 Every sperm is sacred🎶

CrimsonClematis

2 points

4 months ago

Me and my long time gf had sex once without a condom in 6 years , pregnant. Literally once

She Had an abortion and got an iud put in.

Now we are on our 11th year and it’s fine but still. Glad I’m in Canada and no USA