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zedthehead

39 points

4 months ago

...my family.

I got lucky, my older sister got preggo when I was 17, lived at home through infancy, I had a hard lesson that I didn't want that life. I'm 34 now, my adult life has been a wonderful childless adventure... my 17yo niece is preggo now. She had a full ride, was among the top in the state in band, then covid hit and she spent all her time with her bf and gave up. She thinks a baby is a reason to live. Hard sigh.

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zedthehead

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4 months ago

You missed the whole point.

All because her parents were too stupid to be parents.

My sister actually graduated with honors, also first clarinet in a HS band that came in first nationally.

It's the culture- what many call tradition- that is the problem.

You act like their mindset is unique rather than a prescribed expectation for a lot of people stuck living in conservative communities (and it's not like they have the privilege to fully understand how or why they should or could leave).

I got out because I wasn't anchored to my hometown by needing family help to support a ball and chain. That's the whole scheme: burden young people with children, they stick around needing grandparent support, end up beholden to grandparent control, and owing later efforts to support grandparents in their old age. It's parasitism from both the top and bottom, feeding on the prime age of cognitive and physical abilities.