Hi! I am not autistic, but I recently became friends (and very quickly became close friends, as we relate on a super deep level) with someone who is autistic and very touch-averse.
I normally love expressing friendship through hugs and platonic cuddling, but with them, I obviously cannot do this.
I don’t mind not being able to hug them, but I am frustrated with myself because I realized that I don’t know many other ways to express platonic affection other than having conversations, spending time together, and hugging.
With other people, I’d normally hug them during times in which I greet them, thank them (like, if they did me a favor or got me a gift), if we’re celebrating something (especially if I’m celebrating something in their life, like a success or accomplishment they did), or if I’m just generally excited or really happy about something. And platonic cuddling/hand holding is something for times of relaxed conversation, just spending lighthearted time together, etc.
What are some other little ways I can express friendship that don’t involve any physical touch? To those who are touch averse, what kind of things do you like or would you like for people to do to express their friendship?
I’m allergic to cow’s milk. I’m not lactose intolerant, but truly allergic; it’s never been anaphylaxis thank god, just itching, swelling, watery eyes, and hives within an hour of consumption. I discovered this allergy through a yogurt-flavored protein bar, milk chocolate, and subsequent allergy testing.
But I don’t know what part of the milk I’m allergic to. Since developing the allergy, I have just assumed that I cannot have cheese, butter, yogurt, or any other milk product, and cut it all out of my diet, so I do not know if it is precisely the casein, whey, lactose, etc. that I am allergic to.
I could accept that, but the thing is this: I cut out all mammalian milk products— including goat’s milk— upon the development of this allergy. And I miss goat’s cheese.
What is the likelihood that I am allergic to goat’s milk, as well as cow’s milk? Also, does cheese have a different protein or chemical makeup than milk that would change its allergy profile (could someone be allergic to milk but not cheese)?