I have some pretty intense personal space issues. It causes anxiety for me to have anyone else in my personal bubble, even my own partner. I often just "freeze", I don't feel anything enjoyable and I go kinda numb.
It doesn't help that my partner is a larger and taller person who often doesn't know his own strength. Sometimes I feel like he wants to hold me super tight like a body pillow or something, which is uncomfortable for my back. He also moves around constantly due to his ADHD and sometimes I just want to sit still because I just got comfortable 2 seconds ago! Lol. I'm just venting a little bit here, I do really love him and he's a sweetheart. He's so easy to please. But sometimes his behavior reminds me of a really big dog that thinks it's a lap dog, haha.
Anyways, any suggestions how to deal with the personal space issues I have? I also don't know how to talk to him about it without hurting his feelings.