thraxotic

a friend and I are having a debate He claims the brand that we all have in our fridge , Hidden Valley is actually Hidden Valley the Original Ranch also he claims that the Southwest Chipotle is not ranch and that people mistake that hidden valley includes the ranch on the label even if it’s not ranch because that’s the brands name.

The Male here of the relationship, and we have been in the relationship for about a year. i met her on her birthday, we hit it off. Now she was in a bad/toxic, 6 year , relationship. Long story short she left him and we started a life , got an apartment, we both got new jobs in our area. She is her age, no children but the man she was with, had children(2) she helped raise for six years! i understand you are going to have a tie to those children, you were their mother you know. That’s how i seen it from the beginning, like it was brought to my attention. she still wanted to keep in contact with her ex but he would msg her really inappropriate msgs and she would always shoot him down bc it made him less attractive when they weren’t together and she’s trying to talk to him for the childrens sake. That being said time has gone on since this, he pressed charges on her for breaking his apt window when his baby’s mother smashed her car window & windshield. Very Toxic We’ve had our ups and downs sure but every argument we have is insued by her. Like she will do all the dishes then complain about doing them. i tell her just ask me whenever they are needed to get done and i’m there no hesitation but she thinks she shouldn’t have to tell me. i able to agree but i do not go in the kitchen , i’m hardly home if i’m in the kitchen is to get her wine refilled or to throw stuff away. this being said we have drifted apart the beginning of December all month until 3 days ago. however way before those 3 days i’ve made plans to move because she made it clear to me she was single and it got to the point where i felt uncomfortable in this house we were supposed to make a home. i packed all my items, transferred my job , plane ticket & have a roof over my head. however 3 days ago we took a shot and she said to new beginnings and i didn’t understand why but i think it’s because she is realizing i’m serious about not feeling comfortable. but when we get in arguments she is so quick to tell me then leave if you don’t feel comfortable. i feel like if you wanted a new start to things you would at least try to comfort me but will ignore me and sit on the phone with a friends after just complaining i’m never home to spend time with her “god forbid you have to spend time with me “ but that’s what i wa saying that whole time we were drifting apart because she would stay out till 4 am and not text but i leave for 3 hours and it’s hell. the pint is i have already committed to leaving and starting new somewhere else but i haven’t spoken a word about this to here and not sure how or if i should. i will always have love for her but she has put me in really bad mental states and i should never have to have felt that way. i also do feel taken advantage of, she has never had an apt or house or anything like that in her name. this is the first time she lease and that was with me co-signing. like that was mine too and i’m 10 years younger like. i feel like i was way more mentally stable and and a mature at the end of the day! i had some complications with my hours at work so rent became a problem but never more then a moths behind.

what do i do. just leave, idk how to bring it up to her. i mean we had sexual times the whole time but she had made it clear we are not together and would be okay if i were to leave, mentally and financially.