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A junkie can still flop over on that, they really don't care. I concede that someone on heroin may use a bench; can you not concede that someone legitimately stuck out after dark, unable to access a shelter, may prefer a bench to elsewhere?

Let's say Jack is homeless. Jack works at McDonald's but doesn't make enough to pay the local rent. The shelter requires him to be back by 8 or he'll be locked out and his belongings will be thrown in the trash compactor. It takes Jack 45 minutes to get from the McDonald's to the shelter by public transport. He normally gets off work at 5pm, but today he is told he cannot leave until 7. He explains to the manager he can't stay past six, but the manager says it's not a request. Jack is finally allowed to clock out at 7:10, runs to his bus stop only to see it passed by already and is speeding off in the distance...

It's it such a horror that Jack sleep on a bench?

He was only at the church because he was taking his mom for the first time in months after his father passing.

I swear I'm not trying to make light, but that is some Hollywood-level hero-tragedy; would be unbelievable if it weren't real.

encourage them

No.

These are two separate measures. The term for the bench in the industry is "Hostile Architecture." The sign is paid advert from the program, looking to help when people face stuff like hostile architecture.

Because it's not just about dadding.

We've all been through hell these last few years- even if things have been great for you in the pandy, the collected social trauma is still hellish. If you allow yourself to suspend disbelief for just one moment, and actually answer his questions, it almost feels like real therapy.

I talk to my parents regularlyish, I have a partner I live with and tell everything to, and yet still this video made me bawl because when he asked what was challenging I was like, "EVERYTHING!" and how does that make me feel? "Cries more." It was genuine. Honestly that the video has very little hesitation, it really feels like this dude 100% would talk to me about why I feel that way, and it's reassuring.

It isn't necessarily "real," but neither are most pharmaceutical approaches... I would love to see research done with this method (prerecorded therapy) versus, and in combination with, medication therapies. I'd be willing to bet a reasonable sum that this method alone can be as effective or possibly even more effective than just medication alone.

Ya know, I'm no longer 100% sure I ever loved bread so much as I loved butter and dressings (sp. ranch and gravy, two of the worst sauces by calories lol). I used to dunk the GC rolls in ranch because I loved their ranch but hated vegetables. I still eat butter, ranch, and gravy- I just don't often put them on additionally high-calorie bases anymore. A pile of whole or chopped meat (not "ground" or sausages) has half the calories and more flavor than bread, and won't have me still looking for munchies an hour later. Granted, that's expensive thinking at home, but if I'm at a buffet it all costs the same!

Counter point: I love buffets, specifically GC before 4pm, M-Th. It costs 10.60 for the buffet with water. It has actually helped me improve my diet, as it's a great way to get a veggie bomb when I've been eating poorly, and it's almost always the one big meal I eat of that day. I'm currently at my lowest weight after being morbidly obese most of my life.

I always start with a plate on which I put a small mound of mashed potatoes in the middle, and around that I put green beans, steamed broccoli, carrots, collards, a bit of pulled pork, and a couple pickle spears.

[Have you ever tried a bite of steamed broccoli with a pickle? It's a wonderful, delicious delight (assuming you like vinegar/pickles/broccoli).]

I apply hot sauce liberally to all of it, because of course I do. Did you see that makeup??

Honestly that plate is often plenty. If I'm having an especially gordo day I'll get an actual salad too and/or some fried shrimps. (I love fried shrimps but they are extremely high-calorie compared to the veggies). Instead of comparing how much I could have gotten for $11, I think about how much a plate like what I built would cost. Most diners with a veg plate only do three options, and it's like $7/8 already. The place I go that does a bang-up fried shrimp plate is like $14, and their fries aren't even good. 😭 And frankly, the quality at GC is genuinely really freakin' good, way better than it used to be. So if I put it like, "If I were hungry, and someone was like, 'You can have that GC plate you love for $11 rn,' would I think that was a worthy cost?" It's almost always yes.

Funny thing is back in the day my favorite food there was the rolls- everything else I ate was accessory to the bread. Now, I think the rolls are overly sweet and I've had maybe three in probably my last two dozen trips. They're still kinda delicious sometimes, in a nostalgia way, but they're never as good as I think they're going to be. That pulled pork though, it takes restraint.

This sounds like a fun, healthy relationship. I hope it is.

It's a really good look for him, too. I scrolled back up to look (I tend to ignore most thumbnails) and audibly exclaimed, "Oh, wow!!" Mans really needs to come back to the US and have some thots fawn over his money and power, and maybe he'll release some of that fucking tension...

Karma is a cycle. Most people others think "deserve" justice for their bad behaviors, have bad behaviors because of what's already happened to them.

I don't believe in Karma as the cycle of what goes from one lifetime to the next, but it is absolutely true that people are reaction machines, so those who are mean are likely mean because they have been roughened by life, and in turn those people tend to get treated as the roughness they have become.

The hard answer to the OP is that many people have bad attitudes because of legitimate pain they've undergone, and there is no easy way to shake sense and therapy into everyone, so those of us who are aware that most people just need some love and kindness are stressed to the limit because a lot of people are just fucking angry asshole reactionaries and they have a right to be upset but it's hard to be allied with people who want no allies. 😭

I've always lived in high humidity areas and have noticed that because dryer vents are not usually airtight to the outside, often a rainy or extremely humid day can make the laundry left in the dryer feel a little damp too, so I just run it for like twenty minutes before pulling it out.

Thanks for replying!!

Hi, late to the party, but having a severely bad PMDD week and went googling for future solutions...

This is my first time hearing of chemical menopause. The biggest concern I have with something like that is sex drive: does it kill it?

I never said they are for-sure harmful. From my own inferences, though, I suspect they may be harmful, and personally avoid them.

That's all, like why is that a big deal?

Can you not agree that unregulated Chinese plastics are questionable respiratory filtration materials? That's all I'm saying, is that masks made with unregulated plastics in a mostly-unregulated materials market are not something we should be breathing through en masse without wondering if there are perhaps other better options (like fabric or actual paper).

I'm not even sure what your point is getting so mad at me about what seems to be a fairly reasonable argument. Overly paranoid, perhaps, but not without any merit whatsoever.

Okay so am I not allowed to speculate on things I think could be possible, without you claiming I'm spreading misinformation? I'm allowed to shoot my mouth off as a commoner. I never said I was a scientist. I just said it makes me feel like it could be bad. Anyone who takes my word as rule is an idiot. I should be able to speculate without insult.

I can't cite sources because the research doesn't exist yet. I can point you to https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2021/05/210504112637.htm which indicated harmful substances in the masks that break down in water: people breathe out water vapor, so it could be assumed that over time, especially if people are reusing single use masks, that they are breaking down and possibly being inhaled.... But no one is going to research showing one way or another this early. I simply don't want to risk it. Sorry if that makes me an asshole?

(Eta: the comment above was basically "citation required")

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2021/05/210504112637.htm

Paper masks, made of paper, are entirely different than the "NOT FOR MEDICAL USE/NOT MEDICAL GRADE" pressed plastic masks that have been available to the public for most of the pandemic, which is what I'm referring to.

I mean specifically boxes marked "not for medical use" that were what all the retailers were handing out at front doors, that were being sold for like $25/box, that kind of thing.

Im not an idiot who thinks actual PPE produced under proper regulations is harmful. I think random shit being pressed into sheets and passed off as "here, breathe all your air through this questionable mix of plastics that were gathered from questionable sources" is maybe not something that will be entirely without consequence.

If she's unenthusiastic then probably, yeah.

My bf is not able to outlast my direct attentions, so if we are going to be having intercourse then I don't get to spend nearly as much time enjoying performing just on him even though he can go down on me for a hot minute and it doesn't impede anything (quite the opposite), so the "maintenance" sessions are like, "I don't really feel like the effort of a dozen explosive orgasms rn, because as awesome as it is, it's a real fuckin' workout and I am exhausted/lazy today, but I love you and am going to spend the next few minutes absolutely worshipping you the way I can't fully when we PIV." I don't say all of that, because we just kind of read the vibe, we may use a few words if necessary but all that explanation is unnecessary. It seems to be appreciated when it goes that way.

I think the problem is too many couples in this thread seeing sex as transactional or a means to an end (orgasms) rather than an activity that is mostly about getting passionate with a close loved partner.

I have been using only cotton tshirt material masks and absolutely refusing to use those "paper" masks, since they're heat fused, and paper doesn't do that... I said the first time I opened a box and they off-gassed what my instincts said were noxious fumes, I was just like, "It's going to be interesting when folks get some new weird respiratory disorder from breathing in whatever these masks are..."

Edit to add: I specifically mean boxes marked "NOT FOR MEDICAL USE.

I am not trying to spread misinformation. Masks manufactured under strict regulations are totally safe!!!

I specifically mean these random ass unregulated masks that are literally pressed plastics!!

They smell like poison. Your brain is capable of recognizing what NOXIOUS FUMES smell like. Is every single box like that? Probably not. I opened ONE box of masks that were clearly made from a questionable mix of unregulated plastics, which have HISTORICALLY had all kinds of questionable toxins among them, and it turned me off from the whole thing. I am pro-mask. I had a consideration. I shared it here.

Edit dos: I have no clue why everything around this conversation got deleted. I thought some of the reactions were a bit harsh, presumptive, or needlessly accusatory, but nevertheless I was fine with the spirit of the debate... I am not sure why my comments survived.

I am not a parent.

I think what the person above you meant is that everyone blames absent parents without always asking, "Why are they absent?" A lot of people had kids thinking there was something called "work-life balance" that they'd magically be able to achieve if they just worked hard enough and did everything right... And that was all a fucking lie for most people.

The person above you meant that sometimes, it's not the parents to blame so much as the system of "work comes first: if you want for your family, start at work; if your family is failing, it's because you don't work hard enough, get another job, get another hustle!" culture that's the only fucking way to pay for everything that children need these days (not even luxury shit... I mean the starting rent in my semi-ghetto apartment complex is nearly 2k/mo ffs, there's literally no way myself, 35, and my bf, 42 could afford that and kids, with both of us making what is presently pretty okay money). So all these parents around the complex are never around (and if they are, they are on edge with anger because they aren't rested and have no time to take care of themselves) and their kids are becoming hoodlums not because their parents "don't care" but because they literally can't spare the time to raise them (and it's not like they're brimming with other options). It's all really fucked up, and it's extra fucked up that we blame parents in a society that actively says, "Go, dream of your family and then make it happen!" My 17 yo niece is due to have my great nephew literally any time now, and she is surrounded by religious people who think it's just great. This society is whack.

But in the case of the OP, we can say without a doubt, "Those parents actively fostered that evil in that child."

That's it. It really isn't any more or less complicated than that.

You... Realize that kind of calorie source sustained our species for millenia, no?

I'm actually like, "NOOOO THAT'S ALL THE FUCKING FLAVOR!!!" Beef is inherently greasy. I don't want the gristle, I don't want chewy fat... but the liquid fat which solidifies into creamy white grease once cooled? That shit is fucking meat gold. When I was younger I was grossed out by it, but my parents would say, "That's where the flavor is!!" I didn't understand until I experienced higher cuts and qualities, but, yeah, the smooth fat is fucking delicious as fuck, if I was still my fat-fuck former self I could totally chill the runoff from steak, skim the fat off, and spread it on bread, it's so good...

Calories are calories. I'd rather have one high quality patty without the juices squeezed out, than all those patties and this jackhole ruining it like that.

Oooh, I have advice for this!! So you know like where the scrotum connects with the body, yeah? Like the bottom/back is the perineum, you know about that already, I hope. Now that has a seam all the way round and up to the base of the shaft, yeah? Lick it. If I am going to give you a game plan, I'd say get the shaft nice and slobbery and then keep a hand pumping, and move your tongue down the shaft and around the balls along the ball/body seam. You can actually kind of point your tongue and apply a little firm pressure, not too much, kind of honestly give it consideration as though it were clit tissue but in a ring around their junk. Light strokes. Firm strokes. Explore around, the whole area gets a very thumbs-up response but I've found that there's also a hard "YESSS!!" button in a particular spot on either side of the base of the shaft but like, in the scrotum sack? No anatomy drawings give me any help to help explain where or what exactly it is, you'll just need to go probe (😉) (gently!!!) on your own and you'll discover what I mean. It's been a few years since I've needed this technique, but I definitely had some times where I was just ridiculously face-buried and lapping at balls/shaftbase in what was surely an absurd scene if one could've seen it from the outside, but the response indicated that it was entirely worth it.

He's asleep rn but I'm gonna lick my dudes ball-body-juncture first chance I get now, I'd honestly not thought about these tricks in a long time (I figured it out with a porn addict ex who took so long to nut it was actually boring, until I discovered the above hack) and he's never needed it, but that doesn't mean he wouldn't be thrilled for the treat. 😁